Exactly. With Florence Given

Happy Thursday Floss fans! This episode brings you a conversation with the clever, camp cabaret queen, Victoria Scone! Victoria was the first cis female contestant on Ru Paul’s Drag Race and shares her insights on queerness, body image and her love of performing- because who doesn’t love being a tart on stage.

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Welcome back Floss fans! We're kicking off season 2, episode 1 with the amazing Natalie Wynn aka Contrapoints. She's an internet icon, an ex philosopher and queen of making videos about big topics as comprehensive as they are camp. She and Floss chat about envy, looking inward rather than outward and Spongebob's nemsus Squidward.

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Exactly. with Florence Given is your bubble-busting guide to modern-day feminism.

Join Floss, the boundary-breaking author of best-selling books Women Don’t Owe You Pretty and Girlcrush to explore topics like sex, envy, queer history and body image in a nuanced and enlightening way, all while having lots of laughs along the way.

Exactly is your permission slip to follow your curiosity, feel empowered, be educated and see the joy in life with compelling conversations with cultural commentators, authors, doctors, psychologists and celebrity guests.

Together, we can figure this out.

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Floss is LIVE! Happy Monday Floss fans! If you’re UK based we hope you had a lush long weekend. If you’re not, don’t worry, we have a treat for you that will make Monday feel like saturday. Model, activist, and now author, Munroe Bergdorf, joined Floss live at the podcast show for a Floss’ Five followed by a scintillating exploration of life, love and their illustrious careers. Munroe is a cornerstone of the UK queer community, is a wildly successful model and is a trailblazing voice for social justice, defending the rights of people of colour and marginalised genders.

Munroe exemplifies abundance and tells Floss about why she extends the ladder behind her, as well as delivering some wise words on creating space, falling in love, personal growth journeys and maintaining both authenticity and boundaries with the public. Munroe has an incredible podcast called “ The Way We Are” and is one of the most visible transgender people in the UK. As a queer, black, trans woman she stands herself at the intersection of many multiple identities and uses her platform to advocate for other marginalized people. She is a patron of the charity Mermaids, an advocate for UN Women UK, and last year, she was added to L’Oréal’s Diversity and Inclusion Advisory Board; mending her relationship with the cosmetics giant after they controversially dropped her from a campaign in 2017 for calling out white privilege and racism. Her achievements and accolades are really quite mind boggling.

Expect the lively, empowering and curious conversations that Floss brings to every episode but with that zingy electricity that only an IRL audience can give. Well an IRL audience and an amazing guest like…Munroe Bergdorf! So if you missed it in person, don’t worry- turn up the volume, dress up for yourself and you’ll feel like you were there!

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The time has come! It’s our final episode of Season1! But fear not Floss fans, we’ll back with Season 2 really soon. To help you work through your anxious attachment to this podcast, we’ve got the amazing Todd Baratz on the show this week. He and Floss will be answering your questions, listening to your voice notes and taking calls from a couple of you!

Our relationships , friendships, romantic partnerships, family relationships are what fill our lives with meaning and teach us the most about ourselves. It’s a cliche but it really does all come down to relationships.  We live in a time when on the one hand we have access to so much helpful  information, online, through podcasts and books,  and exposure to concepts and ideas about relationships, that we have the potential to really grow in emotional literacy and maturity. But on the other hand this can mean that big complex subjects are reduced to memes, infographics and 140 characters - things like “ emotional availability, attachment styles, red flags” can all be used to label and even condemn what is often, normal, fluctuating human behaviour.

This is exactly why we thought Todd Baratz would be the perfect expert to round off the season. He doesn’t subscribe to labels and actively debunks a lot of the common misconceptions that get shared, often out of context. Todd is a certified sex therapist, licensed individual and couples psychotherapist, and writer who specializes in relationships and sex. Online his account @yourdiagnonsense is shaking up the world of therapy one brutally honest post at a time. He is a proud queer man and he communicates in a way which makes it okay to feel the many different things we all go through- we all contain multitudes!

Here are a few of our favourite attention-grabbing home truth headlines posted by Baratz:

Totally Normal Things that are labeled unhealthy

https://www.instagram.com/p/CYjco2yFeic/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Lose Interest in unavailable partners

https://www.instagram.com/p/CYRn7yzJ5OF/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

https://www.instagram.com/p/CXjI6VfJJCJ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Stop Looking for Red Flags

https://www.instagram.com/p/CXd6UzOlab7/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

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Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

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Hello! Welcome back to your mindful Monday listening! This week Floss sits down with Leanne, aka Polyphilia, to chat about all things non-monogamy. It’s the final part of this mini-series and of season 1, though don’t worry we still have next week’s call in episode and season 2 is coming soon…

So today we’re looking at non- monogamous relationships, with the founder of the Poly Philia blog Leanne. We get so many questions from you on this subject and we at team Exactly are just as curious as you are! Leanne started her blog which offers snappy, bitesize often hilarious tips and insights into non-monogamy in 2020 and since then has gained over 160,00 followers which shows just how what was once considered quite a niche or unusual relationship style really is becoming much more mainstream. It’s so exciting when people challenge the norms we’re taught and break free to live more authentic lives. There’s still a world of mis-information and judgement of polyamory out there, which is exactly what Leanne is tackling through her blog posts and videos. So pour yourselves many hot drinks, grab many snack because with boundaries, respect and care- why can’t you have it all?

Exactly will be going Live in London on May 26th. Floss will be in conversation with the one and only Munroe Bergdorf, taking your questions and having a right laugh. Go to thepodcastshowlondon.com for more details and to buy tickets.

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Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

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Hey Floss Fans, Happy Monday! This week it’s our second episode on relationships and Floss is joined by the incredible psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani. She was one of the first people Floss wanted to speak to on this podcast, there is so much to take away from her expertise and advice. Relationships can be our greatest healer but also the place where we can be most damaged. Trust is hard, intimacy is scary and if you have a history of being burned you might have a heightened awareness of toxic relationships.

That being said, ‘toxic relationship’ has been used to refer to any number of things, and not always accurately. Today we’re focussing on a specific type of toxic relationship and that’s narcissistic abuse. Floss and Dr Ramani bring you an accessible conversation about gaslighting, love bombing and manipulation in the hopes that anyone who doesn’t know what narcissistic abuse is, has a blinding lightbulb moment. Have you experienced a lack of empathy from someone you love? Perhaps a grandiosity or a chronic need to seek out admiration from other people? Maybe you’ve made excuses for their chronic sense of entitlement? Dr Ramani reminds us to never ignore your gut instinct and is so blunt and to-the-point that she’s unintentionally hilarious. She is a licensed clinical psychologist  and the author of the modern relationship survival manual "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist" and "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility” She’s also a TED speaker and youtuber who has made it her life mission to educate and inform people about the effects of narcissism.

Lovehoney would love you to celebrate self-love this Masturbation May with the Womanizer Premium 2. Use my code FLORENCE20 at lovehoney.co/Florence_premium2 and save 20% sitewide on Lovehoney for a limited time!

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

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This week we begin our final mini season on relationships. To kick off we’re  joined by podcasting royalty, Elizabeth Day. She’s the host of the podcast “How To Fail”, has written seven books and her new podcast 'Best Friend Therapy' sees Elizabeth and her best mate, therapist Emma Reed Turrell pick apart how we can all set better boundaries' in our friendships, while examining what exactly we owe to each other. Aren’t people fascinating? Floss and Elizabeth chat about friendships, and explore how the friendships we’ve had throughout our lives impact the ways in which communicate in our friendships of the future. Listen in for platonic break ups, friendship heartbreak and the effects of social media on what it means to have a community.

Exactly is coming to you live on 26th May. Floss will be joined in conversation by our favourite model, activist, author and icon Munroe Bergdorf.. You can go to www.thepodcastshowlondon.com for more details and to buy your tickets.

Lovehoney would love you to celebrate self-love this Masturbation May with the Womanizer Premium 2. Use my code FLORENCE20 at lovehoney.co/Florence_premium2 and save 20% sitewide on Lovehoney for a limited time!

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e17.txt

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Happy Sweet 16 Exactly fans! Call the limo, buy the big dress and pick up your date because it’s our 16th episode and 4th call in! Floss is joined this week by Natalie Lee aka @Stylemesunday and author of the soon to be published book Feeling Myself: How I shed my shame to find sexual freedom and you can too. Natalie has talked publicly about her post- partum body, had an orgasm on TV and wants you to live proud, present and shame free.

Floss and Natalie answer your questions, listen to your voice notes and take some calls. They answer questions on loving ourselves, dating and the dark places that breed shame. They also explore the way our friends discussing their body image issues invite our own negative comparisons and chat about releasing the pits- fur and all!

Exactly is coming to you live on 26th May. Floss will be joined in conversation by our favourite model, activist, author and icon Munroe Bergdorf.. You can go to www.thepodcastshowlondon.com for more details and to buy your tickets.

Lovehoney would love you to celebrate self-love this Masturbation May with the Womanizer Premium 2. Use my code FLORENCE20 at lovehoney.co/Florence_premium2 and save 20% sitewide on Lovehoney for a limited time!

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e16.txt

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This week on Exactly we’re joined by the ray of sunshine that is Stephanie Yeboah. She’s smart, funny and fabulous and chats with Floss about how fat-phobia and white supremacy are basically evil twins. In her book Fattily Ever After: a Black Fat Girl's guide to living life Unapologetically, Stephanie shares stories of how misogynoir, the experience of both misogyny and racism, interact with fat-phobia. She discusses the role of black women throughout history, while touching on fetishization, loneliness and how black women have been marginalized in the media, even within the body positivity movement that they started.

Stephanie generously shares personal anecdotes and gives us a history lesson on the colonial origins of our beauty standards, exploring desirability politics and how conversations around weight and size often ignore the significant role mental health has on how we relate to our bodies. We hope you all listen to this episode and go on to write a love letter to your body, thanking it for keeping you alive!

Exactly is coming to you live on 26th May. Floss will be joined in conversation by our favourite model, activist, author and icon Munroe Bergdorf.. You can go to www.thepodcastshowlondon.com for more details and to buy your tickets.

Find Stephanie on Instagram @stephanieyeboah

Find Floss on instagram and Tik Tok @florencegiven

Lovehoney would love you to celebrate self-love this Masturbation May with the Womanizer Premium 2. Use my code FLORENCE20 at lovehoney.co/Florence_premium2 and save 20% sitewide on Lovehoney for a limited time!

Click here and use the code EXACTLY to get 14 days’ free access to CHEEX - the new and revolutionary membership offering a safe space for sexual entertainment and education. The promo is valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.

Original theme music by Black Honey. Find them on instagram - @blackhoneyuk

Instrumental bed is Black Honey’s song ‘Beaches’.

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/exactly/s1e15.txt

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