Fighting for Connection - Creating a Secure Marriage

With Thanksgiving on our minds lets talk about how powerful thanksgiving can be in our relationships. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday and that your holiday season is filled with growth, connection, and peace.

Today I replay a conversation I had with a Connected Couples Campus Member all about the conflict cycle and how it has created change for her and her relationship. She has her own podcast and this episode is a replay of an episode from Monica's podcast! You can check out her work below!

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On today's episode I introduce you to a little boy that I know. I wonder if you know a little one like him?

Today I talked with Pam Howard who is a LSW and certified life coach from the life coach school. We talked about managing your emotions as a parent! You can find here at

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When hurt occurs in a relationship it can leave us feeling distant and confused. The question is how to we work through it in a way that allows us to move through it and back to each other.

We have talked a lot about what the conflict cycle is, now we talk about how to stop it. Learning how to stop it is a skill that you can learn so you can keep, regain, and develop the connection that you want in your relationship. Listen in, apply, and keep learning.

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Today we look at a girls trip that Kelsey went on and why it caused so much pain for us in our relationship.

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Do you know your relationship conflict cycle? It is one of the most powerful things to understand if your relationship is struggling to feel close and connected. 

Attachment within relationships causes so much pain and worry in relationships. Finding a secure bond can bring peace and safety. However so often in relationships we experience a worry or anxiety. When we have this kind of an experience we move to our learned coping mechanisms. This creates our attachment style. 

Learning how your learned attachment style is impacting your relationship allows you to move out of unconscious response and into conscious response. This more intentional behavior can help us keep the confusion out of our relationships the keep those who are important close.

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Today we talk about consistency and how important it is to apply to personal and relationship growth. We want fast results but the way to a secure bond the way to more stability is through a constant ongoing reassuring relationship. You can do the work to do your part in this and to create an environment for a secure bond to flourish.