FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

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July 23, 2023How to Regain Your Balance When You Can’t Get What You Want
How to find balance and equilibrium after the rug has been pulled out from under you? Like a teeter totter, what goes down, must come up. This episode explores three practices for finding your footing again after infidelity, betrayal, or any kind of disappointment.
Top take-a-ways
Find balance between grief and positivity. Grieving is a normal process that allows negativity to leave your body and keeps you healthy and happy for the long run. Although it can be uncomfortable, learning how to grieve is vital to our wellbeing. Counting your blessings reminds you that grief is not permanent and that there are many other parts of your life that are still going well.
Alternate between taking control and letting it go. When we feel victimized, it’s healthy for us to take control of something and reestablish us as a powerful force in our own lives. But it’s also important to practice the art of letting it go, and learning to release the illusion of control.

Understand the tendency to glorify or catastrophize what “might have been.” No situation is all good or all bad. When we don’t get what we want, we have a tendency to either glorify or catastrophize what we think it “should” have been. Remind yourself to be rational! Even if you had gotten what you wanted, it would have been neither all good or all bad.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.
About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
58 min
July 16, 2023How to Understand & Navigate the Fragile Male Ego
In this episode, Lora dives into the fragile male ego and its impact on navigating relationships affected by infidelity. She shares insights on societal expectations and upbringing that contribute to men hiding their pain and emotions and shares the signs of a fragile ego. Additionally, she explains why the affair partner likely suffered from a fragile ego, and talks about the difference between having your ego take a hit because of a difficult circumstance, and living with a chronically fragile ego.
Top Take-a-Ways
Understanding the fragility of the male ego is essential for building deeper connections and fostering healthy relationships, especially after betrayal. Recognizing the unique challenges men face in expressing their emotions is a crucial step toward your own healing.
Why “like attracts like” and those with fragile (and artificially overinflated) egos tend to attract each other, creating and perpetuating a false world and relationship.
Tips for strengthening and supporting your own ego, which may have taken a hit after learning about your partner’s infidelity.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.
About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
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55 min
July 09, 2023 Grow Up, Queen! How to Have Difficult Conversations
Listen to "Grow Up, Queen! How to Have Difficult Conversations" on FLAUNT! Create A Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal with Lora Cheadle. In this episode, Lora share communication strategies for overcoming betrayal and rebuilding relationships. She provides insight about how to move from the archetype of Princess to the archetype of Queen so as ruler of your own Queendom, you can more easily get the outcome you desire. She takes a deep-dive into the nuts and bolts of having difficult conversations, whether those conversations are about finances, divorce, or infidelity.
Top Take-a-ways
👑 Preparation is key: Collect information and set a mutually agreed-upon time to have a conversation. When you ask for permission and prepare beforehand, you set yourself up for a productive and respectful conversation.
👑 Build in a definitive ending time: It's important to give yourself and the person you are talking to the safety of a pre-arranged ending time. Conversations tend to devolve the longer they go. Give yourselves a break and agree to do something fun together at the conclusion of the conversation.
👑 Don't keep talking about it: When the conversation is done, let it go! Avoid talking about difficult topics outside of the agreed-upon conversation time, as it doesn't create a sense of safety or trust in the relationship.
Remember, being a queen means taking care of yourself and those around you with elegance and grace. Growing up means learning how to hard things, such as having difficult conversations in service of creating a stronger bond. Listen to the entire episode to get more insights from the speaker and let us know your thoughts! 🎧

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:
Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

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57 min
July 02, 2023Part 3 – After the Affair. Take Responsibility & Do the Work: A Journey of Healing & Redemption After Betrayal
Special Seven Year Podcast Anniversary Series
-with guest Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband, and betraying partner

Tune in to the third and final interview Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband and the man who betrayed her. In this final episode, Shawn shares his personal journey of taking full accountability for his actions after initially blaming Lora for his behavior. Shawn candidly discusses his struggles with effective communication and acknowledges the need for personal growth to improve his marriage. Throughout the conversation, Shawn highlights the underlying vulnerabilities that contributed to his affairs and the importance of exploring and addressing them in order to heal. He emphasizes the importance of getting back to one’s core and doing the necessary work, even if the relationship doesn’t work out, because it leads to personal growth, self-empowerment, and authentic living.
In addition, Shawn and Lora delve into the deepening of their relationship as they come to a greater understanding of themselves individually. They discuss how their growth as individuals and as a couple is leading to a stronger foundation in their marriage. They explore how to navigate the opinions and judgments of others, as well as dealing with shame and fear. Lora Cheadle, an attorney and betrayal recovery coach, guides the conversation and shares her own insights on forgiveness and the importance of focusing on oneself in the journey of recovery.
This episode is part of a 3-part interview series with Lora’s husband, Shawn, who betrayed her. They have previously discussed Shawn’s mindset before and during the affairs, and now focus on his healing journey, redemption, and facing what he did. Join us on this powerful episode of FLAUNT!! as we dive deeper into the complexities of healing and redemption after infidelity or betrayal. Hear firsthand how a couple navigates the challenges of rebuilding trust and finding personal growth in the aftermath of betrayal.

Top Take-a-ways
Take accountability: Shawn initially placed blame on Lora for his actions, but he eventually realized that he had to take full ownership of what he had done. It’s vital to acknowledge our mistakes and take responsibility for our actions after betrayal or infidelity.
Resolve conflicts & work through pain: Shawn emphasized the importance of addressing conflicts and working through the pain in relationships. It’s not always easy, but doing the necessary work leads to personal growth and a stronger foundation in the relationship.
Come home to oneself: Shawn discovered the importance of returning to his core and doing the inner work to address shame, guilt, and lack of ability to communicate. By exploring vulnerabilities and addressing them head-on, he was able to grow as an individual and become a better partner.
This interview series with Lora and her husband Shawn – the man who betrayed her – is a raw, vulnerable, and very real conversation about Shawn’s state of mind and understanding of what happened before, during and after his multiple affairs.
These conversations are intended to serve two purposes:
First, to provide an understanding of what goes on in the heart and the mind of someone who cheats, and to shed light on some of confusing and irrational behaviors surrounding affairs, and
Second, to provide you, the betrayed partner, with something to share with the person who cheated on you, to facilitate conversation and bridge some of the gaps in your collective understanding. Especially if you are trying to reconcile or need to amicably coparent with them.
While the circumstance of everyone’s situation is different, surprisingly, there are many similarities. Affairs tend to be born out of pain and an inability to express one’s feelings. Quite often, even though an affair causes more pain, more shame, and more guilt, the cheating partner irrationally believes that cheating is a viable option to lower their pain, and then find themselves stuck in a situation they don’t know how to get out of.
It is our joint intention to step bravely into the truth of our situation. To shine a light on a subject that, while shockingly common, is still judged and stigmatized and to do our part in moving the conversation out of the shadows and into the light. May these shows provide you with more answers and understanding than you had before.
It is important to note that while nothing excuses the choices made by the cheating partner, and the blame for the affairs lies squarely on the one who cheats, it is our hope that these conversations inspire a deeper level of awareness and compassion for the plight of the betraying partner. Not to let them off the hook or to mitigate the damage and pain caused by their actions, but to help you in your journey to forgiveness, by way of understanding and acceptance.
After all, Life is hard, hurt people hurt people, and it is only when we reach out and try to understand another’s perspective are we able to rise above the collective traumas of the past and create a better, healthier world for all.
Part1 is very raw, emotional, and intense. The angst in Shawn’s voice is reflective of his emotions at the time he first chose to have an affair.
Parts 2 and 3 are clear and powerful as they reflect Shawn’s growth in understanding about his journey. He takes a deep dive into what kind of person he is, forgiveness, and how he returned to his inner core to integrate himself fully into the man he was meant to be all along.

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:
Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
59 min
June 25, 2023 Part 2 – What Happened During the Affair? Chasing Validation in All the Wrong Places - Conversations with the Betraying Partner
Intimate Conversations with the Betraying Partner
Part 2 – What Happened During the Affair? Chasing Validation in All the Wrong Places
-with guest Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband, and betraying partner

In this particular episode, Lora interviews her husband, Shawn Cheadle, about his experience with infidelity in their marriage. Shawn opens up about seeking emotional validation from someone other than his spouse, the challenges of keeping his affairs secret, and his struggle to understand his own actions. The episode explores various aspects of infidelity, communication, compartmentalization, personal growth, and the importance of addressing difficult topics.

Through their candid conversation, Lora and Shawn aim to provide insight for both those who have been betrayed and those who have betrayed others, guiding listeners towards creating lives they love after betrayal.

Top takeaways:

1. Compartmentalization and Communication: Shawn discusses how he compartmentalized different aspects of life and how communication is key in addressing emotional needs and desires. He reflects on his own struggles with articulating his feelings and how it led to infidelity in his marriage.

2. Understanding Betrayal: The episode explores the complexities of betrayal and the disconnect that it can cause in relationships. Shawn shares his own experience of seeking validation through other relationships but ultimately realizing that it did not fulfill his needs, and only caused him more pain and shame. He emphasizes the need for open conversation and understanding between both parties involved.

3. Personal Growth and Redemption: Shawn acknowledges his own personal growth journey and the ongoing process of understanding and expressing his needs and emotions. The episode highlights the importance of addressing difficult topics like betrayal, abuse, and mental health, and finding a path towards redemption and healing after making significant mistakes.

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:
Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
59 min
June 17, 2023 Part 1 – Behind the Scenes of an Affair: Insight from a Cheating Partner: What Led to the Affair?
Part 1 – Behind the Scenes of an Affair: Insight from a Cheating Partner: What Led to the Affair?

In this episode, Lora interviews Shawn, her husband and the man who betrayed her to find out what led to his multiple affairs. Shawn delves deep into the impact of growing up in rough neighborhoods and facing financial struggles, and how these vulnerabilities manifested in difficulty managing stressful situations in hiss own life such as finances, buying a home, and providing for his family.

He also shares how his past traumas and fears led to emotional triggers, This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding how our childhood experiences can impact our behavior in relationships and that unresolved past trauma or vulnerabilities end up affecting our partners and children.

Top Take-a-ways:

1. Trauma and past experiences can make expressing vulnerability and having conversations around difficult topics challenging, and lead to unexplained emotional triggers.

2. Affairs often come from the intersection of opportunity and validation, highlighting the importance of understanding and communicating with our partners.

3. Childhood experiences impact our wiring and can lead to difficulties in expressing emotions and resolving conflicts in relationships.

This interview series with Lora and her husband Shawn – the man who betrayed her – is a raw, vulnerable, and very real conversation about Shawn’s state of mind and understanding of what happened before, during and after his multiple affairs.
These conversations are intended to serve two purposes:
First, to provide an understanding of what goes on in the heart and the mind of someone who cheats, and to shed light on some of confusing and irrational behaviors surrounding affairs, and
Second, to provide you, the betrayed partner, with something to share with the person who cheated on you, to facilitate conversation and bridge some of the gaps in your collective understanding. Especially if you are trying to reconcile or need to amicably coparent with them.
While the circumstance of everyone’s situation is different, surprisingly, there are many similarities. Affairs tend to be born out of pain and an inability to express one’s feelings. Quite often, even though an affair causes more pain, more shame, and more guilt, the cheating partner irrationally believes that cheating is a viable option to lower their pain, and then find themselves stuck in a situation they don’t know how to get out of.
It is our joint intention to step bravely into the truth of our situation. To shine a light on a subject that, while shockingly common, is still judged and stigmatized and to do our part in moving the conversation out of the shadows and into the light. May these shows provide you with more answers and understanding than you had before.
It is important to note that while nothing excuses the choices made by the cheating partner, and the blame for the affairs lies squarely on the one who cheats, it is our hope that these conversations inspire a deeper level of awareness and compassion for the plight of the betraying partner. Not to let them off the hook or to mitigate the damage and pain caused by their actions, but to help you in your journey to forgiveness, by way of understanding and acceptance.
After all, Life is hard, hurt people hurt people, and it is only when we reach out and try to understand another’s perspective are we able to rise above the collective traumas of the past and create a better, healthier world for all.

Part 1 is very raw, emotional, and intense. The angst in Shawn’s voice is reflective of his emotions at the time he first chose to have an affair.

Parts 2 and 3 are clear and powerful as they reflect Shawn’s growth in understanding about his journey.

Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com

About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com
Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!

Part 2 – What Happened During the Affair? Released June 21, 2023
Part 3 – What Happened After the Affair? Released June 28, 2023

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
59 min
June 10, 2023Betrayal – It’s Not Just a Personal Problem
Being betrayed sends you into a tailspin of shock, heartbreak, pain, and grief. Worse, it inspires a sense of shame, secrecy, and fear of judgement or blame from others. But the truth is, betrayal is not just a personal problem, it’s a societal one. Not only due to affairs that occur in the workplace, but because those struggling emotionally with the fall out of infidelity are disengaged and ineffective at work. Since 40% of relationships experience infidelity, at any given time the number of employees who are struggling has the potential to be high.

Top take-a-ways:
Why betrayal is a societal and mental health problem, not a personal fault, that is a reflection of the betrayer's issues, not your own.
How being open about your experiences and seeking help is key to no longer feeling like a victim and setting yourself free.
Deconstructing the impact of Infidelity and betrayal in the workplace and what to do to combat the stigma and shame.
It’s time to break down the stigma and shame around betrayal, (of any sort) get honest, and start talking about betrayal and its impact both professionally and personally.

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again.

About Lora:
Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
59 min
June 04, 2023Self-Defense & Personal Safety After Betrayal – with Chris Natzke
Learn the ABC’s of self-defense and how to keep yourself safe. Whether things have been volatile since learning of your partner’s affair and you fear for your safety, you are concerned about navigating the dating world and meeting new people, or you just want to feel more confident, empowered, and less like a victim in your everyday life, then this is the show for you! Additionally, we have a BONUS self-defense video where Chris walks you through three basic self-defense strategies.

CHECK OUT CHRIS’S SELF-DEFENSE VIDEO HERE: https://youtu.be/pR12GUofuJ8

Top take-a-ways:
Understanding and managing the adrenal response in scary or potentially scary situations.
How to use your voice, awareness, and intuition to establish boundaries and keep yourself safe.
A basic, 1,2,3 sequence of combative self-defense moves that anyone can learn.
The importance of mindset and energy in personal safety.

Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com

About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
59 min
May 28, 2023Bridging the Gap Between Heartbreak & Healing – with Lee Harris
Infidelity and betrayal leave you heartbroken, shattered, and wondering if you will ever be healed, happy, or whole again. This show takes you beyond healing and catapults you into a vision for what’s possible when you embrace next-level, multidimensional healing. In it, we will explore channeling, spirituality, and the empath/narcissist relationship dynamic so you can find the clarity, peace, and progress you deserve and desire.
Top take-a-ways:
Grief as “the great transformer” and how dark nights of the soul can inspire you to work through the layers of human wounding and find healing, boundaries, and personal power.
The power of the heart, and why heartbreak does not actually come from the heart, which lives in the present, but the head, which is replaying stories from the past.

How to trust yourself, spirit, and intuition again after you have been betrayed by others and understanding the process of spirituality so you can open yourself up to the possibility of what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.

Understanding “the abandoned self” and how to differentiate between unhealthy power and power that is rounded, grounded, and kind so you can find and create satisfying relationships.

FREE BONUS! Get a free healing practice that helps you to get everything that is not yours out of your body, so you can be free to embody yourself as you are. FREE when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com
About Lee:
Lee Harris is the author of Awaken Your Multidimensional Soul, which is the second book in his Conversations with the Z’s series, and Energy Speaks. A gifted energy intuitive and channeler, he leads a vibrant online community that reaches 1 million people every month. His acclaimed online events, members community The Portal, and top 50 spirituality podcast Impact the World are adventures into the deepest aspects of living, loving, and awakening. Lee is also an accomplished music producer and singer-songwriter whose acclaimed albums have charted as high as No. 1 on the iTunes and Amazon New Age charts. For more information visit http://www.LeeHarrisEnergy.com.
Join Lee Harris on June 14-26 for Soul Magic, an immersive journey online where channeled messages are integrated with the transcendent music of composer Davor Bozic to create a rare transformative collaboration - channeled teachings and customized musical performances. The music, created in real time in direct response to the teaching, is tuned to 528 Hz, the Love Frequency, to deepen the experience, promote healing and expand our consciousness.
This online experience includes 7 sessions, each lasting about 60-90 minutes, from June 14th - 26th. This will include live broadcasts from Lee, unique sessions with Lee & Davor creating magic in the room together, audience Q&A with Lee and an exclusive live performance from Grammy-nominated music mantra artists Deva Premal & Miten. www.LeeHarrisEnergy.com
About Lora:
Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.

Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
1 hr 4 min
May 25, 2023 Embody Your Body Guided Meditation for Healing
A guided meditation to ground, center, and anchor yourself in your body.
How being broken gives the pain a place to seep out, leaving you healthier and happier than before. How to BE IN your body, even when you aren't sure you want to be there, or when it feels to scary or painful to be you. Here's how to relax, drop in, reconnect to your intuition and start to heal.
17 min