FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

By Lora CheadleSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement Relationships Sexuality

FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal episodes

March 26, 2023Your D-Day Anniversary – How to Honor Yourself & Cope
Like 9-11 and COVID, survivors of infidelity mark time with “before D-day” or “after D-day.”. Yet unlike 9-11 or COVID, you are profoundly alone in your D-day trauma. Which it makes it vitally important to create your own anniversary “celebration” or way to mark and memorialize all that you have been through. No matter how many D-days you have had, no matter if you are happily married to your cheating partner, are still struggling, or are divorced and done, it is still a moment in your life that needs to be remembered with care, honor, and compassion. Here’s how.
Top take-a-ways:
Attachment styles and how the way you were raised impacts the way you feel in your body, especially during traumatic events and anniversaries such as D-day.
The art of giving yourself now what you needed most then, and re-parenting and re-patterning yourself after upsetting events.
How to create space, time, and healing by “being responsive” to yourself and learning how to meet your own needs.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
58 min
March 19, 2023Healing After Infidelity vs. Transforming who you Are – How to Set & Communicate Boundaries
So often we hear about healing after infidelity, affair recovery, or healing from betrayal. But do you want to heal, or do you want to transform? Healing means getting back to how you were before, and most of the women I work with want something better than what they had before. Something more honest, more real, and intimate. Interestingly, the most difficult part of “transforming your life” is typically disrupting the status quo and unraveling what is. Which is the gift of betrayal. Betrayal disrupts the status quo and unravels what is, for you. So all that’s left is for you to come back home to who you are and rebuild your life, your way.
Top take-a-ways:
The process of knowing yourself and showing yourself authentically for who you are so you can transform into the person you were meant to be.
How to set, communicate, and enforce effective boundaries that uphold your highest vision of who you are and what you deserve.
Finding the courage to rise, thrive, and overcome life’s challenges.

About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
49 min
March 12, 2023Protect Yourself After Betrayal – Practically & Emotionally
Life is unpredictable, and while there are steps you can take to protect yourself, none of us can prepare for what’s to come perfectly. We will get hurt. We will make mistakes. Bad things happen to good people. Which is where self-empowerment comes in. Not in a buzz-wordy way, but in deeply powerful type of way. Being fully self-empowered means being okay with what is as well as what will be, because you know that no matter what happens, you can manage yourself. No matter what life brings, you know that you are protected by something greater, and that you will always be okay.
Top take-a-ways:
Steps you can take to legally, financially, and practically protect yourself and your interests after betrayal (or any time at all)
What “bad things happening” to your or in your life says about you
How to find the courage to rise, thrive, and overcome life’s challenges.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who helps women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
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56 min
March 06, 2023Feeling Empowered, Sexy & Free after Betrayal – With Jolie Dawn
Betrayal takes many forms, but its impact remains significant. And even the seemingly “old traumas” and incidents from childhood have an effect on our present lives and relationships. Today’s guest is a spunky young woman who is wiser than women twice her age and is not afraid to do the hard and often times messy work of loving herself while daring to live from a place of joy.
Top take-a-ways:
Leaning into abundance and joy even when life has flipped you sideways and you need time to stop and heal
The power of asking yourself questions and journaling the response as a means of gaining clarity on yourself and your life.
What it means to feel sexy while also respecting yourself and your body, and giving yourself grace to make mistakes.
About Jolie Dawn:
Jolie Dawn is the author of Empowered, Sexy, and Free and creator of the Dare to Prosper Challenge, the largest women’s prosperity meditation gathering online, attended by women in more than fifty countries. She specializes in helping women awaken their prosperity consciousness, embody their deepest truth, and reclaim personal freedom and creativity. An intuitive business coach and writer, she currently contributes to Entrepreneur magazine, and she has written six bestselling self-published books. Visit her online at http://www.joliedawn.com.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
50 min
February 26, 2023Can You Learn from the Past to Find (or keep) Love in the Present? with Dr. Thomas Jordan
ave you ever felt like your cheating partner “ruined” your idea of love and relationship, leaving you bitter and hardened? Whether it’s unpacking your own childhood trauma or processing the impact of your partner’s childhood trauma (that then impacted you) the good news is that whatever you learned, you can unlearn.
Top take-a-ways:
Why unhealthy patterns from childhood get replicated in adult relationships
How the familiar (even when it’s not something you want) feels safe and lures you in
Consciously making the decision to unlearn unhealthy behaviors or attitudes about love so you can find and keep the love you want and deserve – without drama.
About Dr. Thomas Jordan:
Dr. Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He is on the faculty of NYU’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of LoveLifeLearningCenter.com. Dr. Jordan specializes in the treatment of unhealthy love lives and has been studying them for over 30 years.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com
Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
1 hr
February 18, 2023Men, Validation & Infidelity with Alicia M. Walker, Phd
Have you ever wished you could sit down with a cheater (whether your partner or somebody else) and ask them what the heck was going on in their minds when they cheated? Why they did it, what they thought, or what it said about them or you? Now you can.
In this mind-blowing interview you will learn why men cheat, especially when they love their partners.
Using a sample collected from the online dating service Ashley Madison, Alicia M. Walker interviewed men about their experiences and perceptions regarding their participation in infidelity. What she found was as fascinating as it was unexpected!
Contrary to gendered social scripts, the men in this study described their motivations for outside partnerships that were not rooted in the desire for sexual pleasure or variety, but rather as an outlet to soothe their bruised egos, receive attention and validation and to fight their feelings of emasculation.
Top take-a-ways:
Deconstructing why men who want to stay married and keep their primary partnership, seek out affairs.
How even the best primary partnerships sow seeds of self-doubt and feelings of emasculation in men.
Relationship management, and why men perceive partners who aren’t helping them understand and process their emotions as rejection.
The secret needs of men, and why they are “bottomless pits of need” who need their egos pumped up more often than anyone might imagine!
Alicia M. Walker, PhD is an associate professor of sociology at Missouri State University. Like many sociologists, her educational background is varied. Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Kentucky, Walker earned a MEd in educational leadership from Texas State University, and a BA in English from the University of Tampa. She appreciates an interdisciplinary focus and collaboration.
Walker is a microsociologist, whose work focuses on intimate sexual relationships, sexual identity and behavior, and gender. Specifically, her work looks at the social construction of the sexual self, the ways we make sense of ourselves as sexual beings, the ways we navigate our sexual worlds, and our lived experiences as sexual beings.
Walker has particular interest in closeted sexual behaviors and online initiation of sexual relationships. She is credited with creating a sociology of infidelity. Walker’s second book focuses on men’s experiences with infidelity called Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation, and Infidelity published by Palgrave-Macmillan. This book examines men’s experiences with participation in outside partnerships. Chasing Masculinity has been discussed in The Sun, Vice, The Globe and Mail, and Medium, among others.
Her debut monograph, The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women’s Infidelity, is available in hardcover now. The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife is about women’s navigation of outside partnerships alongside primary partnerships, and gives voices to women’s lived experiences. The book has been discussed in articles published in The New York Times and CNN, among others.
In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family (adult children, husband, and mother) with whom she is close, and her beloved rescue dog, Harvey, whom she and her daughter found abandoned at a gas station as a puppy. (Adopt, don’t shop!) She also enjoys traveling, great movies, playing cards, and collecting statues of the goddesses of love, marriage, and fertility of various cultures (as they relate to her work).
Learn more at: https://www.alicia-walker.com/
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
58 min
February 13, 2023Your Divorce Survival Guide – With Kate Anthony
Are you having trouble deciding whether you should stay or go? Is part of that indecision because you are afraid of what divorce might do to your kids? Then this is the show for you! As Kate says, “Do not let the promises be the things that keep you in the relationship. Let the actions be the things that bring you back.”
Top take-a-ways:
Excavating yourself and getting back in the front seat of your own live, so you can determine who you are and what you want.
Looking at the relationship objectively and seeing where it’s in alignment, and out of alignment, with who you are and what you want.
The definition of love, and what “But I love him!” really means for you and your relationship journey.
Understanding emotional abuse and coercion.

Love this show and want some more? Check out Kate’s interview with Lora on her podcast, Your Divorce Survival Guide! https://kateanthony.com/podcast/life-after-betrayal-with-lora-cheadle/

Kate Anthony is the host of the New York Times recommended podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and a certified coach with over a decade’s worth of experience helping women (with children in particular) make the most difficult decision of their lives: should I stay or should I go? She also helps divorcing moms recover from toxic, emotionally abusive marriages in the most collaborative way possible, always putting their children at the center — never in the middle — of all their decisions.
Learn more about Kate at: https://kateanthony.com/ and continue the goodness by checking out Lora’s interview on Kate’s podcast too! https://kateanthony.com/podcast/

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
53 min
February 06, 2023Can I Recover From Infidelity?
Are you afraid that you are too broken to recover from your partner’s infidelity? You are not alone, and although the journey is arduous to be sure, the truth is, you can recover and thrive after infidelity. In fact, your life and relationships can be better than ever before.
Top take-a-ways:
Identifying and healing shattered expectations.
Uncovering how your worldview was ruptured and rebuilding trust in others.
Understanding identity and how to rebuild your identity and self-worth after infidelity.
Watch this episode on YouTube @ https://youtu.be/4yZSh3rhdMM
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
59 min
January 29, 2023Giving Yourself What You Need During Affair Recovery
Recovering from infidelity and betrayal requires you to get all of your needs met. Affair recovery is brutal, on many different levels, and if you are going to survive and thrive, then you must take care of yourself first. Two weeks ago we talked about setting your intention for recovery. Last week we talked about mapping out your journey on how to get where you want to go. This week we are talking about props, which art the things you will need along the journey, and costumes, which are what you will need when you arrive.

Top take-a-ways:
Identifying what you will need along the betrayal recovery journey, including resources, food, nutrition, physical wellness, and the ability to feel beautiful, powerful, and strong.
Giving yourself permission to “prop” yourself up with whatever props you deem necessary, so you can get to the other side of the affair recovery journey quickly and efficiently.
Pondering what the kind of person you desire to be – healed, healthy, calm, or loved – might wear, and structuring your “costume” accordingly.

Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot!

Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.FLAUNTStudios.com

Are you resentful over how much you have done, or sacrificed, for others? Do you feel let down by your career, life, and relationships?
Have you ever thrown yourself into a self-help program, been determined to “fix yourself,” or promised that this was going to your year, only to have the same problems knock you down again?
You are not alone! For years, that’s what I did too. And until this, nothing worked for me either.
After my husband’s infidelity, I wanted,
Not just a Revenge Body,
Not just a Revenge Relationship,
I wanted a Revenge Life!
Not to show him, but to show myself that I was worth it, and that no matter what life brought my way, I would never betray myself again.
This is how I did it. Let me show you how!
In this glorious two-day retreat and photo shoot you will spend deep, delicious time figuring out and embodying exactly who you want to be next year.
Then, the talented Jiang Photography will capture that version of you in a stunning black and white photograph so no matter what comes your way, no matter how you are judged from others, and no matter how broken you feel, you will have proof – photographic evidence – of who you most authentically are and what you are capable of.

You will get:
A safe place to connect with others who are going through the same kinds of challenges you are going through,
Customized meditation, journaling, and time to create yourself as a living vision board, and your future,
Lessons on incorporating and using indigenous wisdom to bring peace, healing and prosperity in everyday life,
Your very own piece of movement/performance art that will reconnect you to your heart and your body,
Lessons in embodied, sensual movement,
The ability to ask questions, receive one-on-one coaching, and get feedback and insight from a trained professional who has been there too and has come successfully out the outer side.
For more information and to register for the Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot, go to: www.FLAUNTStudios.com
Spots are limited and if you register before January 31st, you get everything for only $397!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.
57 min
January 29, 2023What’s The Difference Between Resolutions, Intentions, & Manifesting?
Happy 2023! While I’m not big on New Year’s Resolutions (because statistically speaking, only 9% of resolutions are successful) I am big on manifesting and setting intentions.
Top take-a-ways:
A Resolution is about being resolute, firm, and decisive. The energy around resolutions is harsh and you either succeed or you fail. There is no middle ground.
An Intention is a plan, something that you aim for. The energy around intention is softer. There is room for so-called “error” and as long as you are facing in the right direction, aiming towards the target, still wanting the thing that you intend, you are on track.
Manifesting means to make evident or certain by showing or displaying. Contrary to popular believe, this is not about magic-ing red corvettes our of thin air. Manifesting is about making something evident by showing or displaying yourself in a certain state of being.
If you want to manifest peace and joy, your task is to display or show yourself as peaceful and joyful. If you want to find healing, your task is to display or show yourself as healed. If you want to find love, abundance, or success, your task is to display or show yourself as love, abundance, or success.
Not by masking up and pretending. Not by being pretentious or lying about how you feel. Not by Resolving to feel differently than you do. That’s false positivity or spiritual bypassing and it doesn’t work.
But by intending to be peaceful and joyful in the midst of chaos. By intending to be healed and whole in the midst of being broken. By intending to be love, abundance, and successful in the midst of heartbreak, poverty, and failure.
It’s a subtle but powerful shift that moves mountains! This year I am going to give myself the gift of seeing myself as successful in every circumstance. Because if I can’t see myself as I intend to be, how can I expect others to? How can I expect it to be? What are you going to be in 2023?
Fall (Back) in Love with YOU February Retreat!
Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.life-choreography.com
Tune in all of January, where you will learn:
1)     How to set an intention for yourself in 2023, so you can overcome heartbreak, untangle from the pain and thrive!
2)     The art of mapping out your journey instead of merely claiming what you want and then not knowing how to get there, and how music can keep you engaged.
3)     Using costumes, props, and play to keep you motivated throughout the difficult times and remind you of what it is you are seeking to become.
4)     How to choreograph the next chapter of your life, your way, with enthusiasm and joy, even when you feel like you are too broken and can never be happy or successful again.
BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.
54 min