FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

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FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal episodes

May 01, 2022How Cheaters Justify Cheating – The Psychology of Betrayal
One of the most confusing aspects of being cheated on is how your cheating partner can claim that they didn’t think about you, your kids, home, family, friends, community, or employment – especially if they cheated with someone at work, before they cheated or even while they were cheating.
While on the surface it defies belief that someone could intentionally take all the steps and actions necessary to have an affair (or affairs) and claim that they never thought it would hurt you, this show explains why it makes sense, and how it is possible for your partner to never think that their cheating would hurt you.
Top Take-a-ways:
How and why it’s possible that your spouse did not think of you or the consequences of cheating while he was cheating.
Compartmentalization and how a normal defense mechanism that enables us to function in everyday life helps cheaters maintain a double life.
The difference between the male brain and the female brain and how men are not wired to see connections between different areas of their lives.
Masculinization, culture, and how we inadvertently train men to disconnect from their emotions.
Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
47 min
April 24, 2022The Top Three Ways to “Get Over” an Affair and Start Living, Loving, and Enjoying Life Again – Solo Show
“I wish I could just get over it” and “I want it all to go away!” are two of the most common refrains of the betrayed partner. Even though infidelity leaves you devastated, racked with obsessive thoughts, and wondering if you will ever feel “normal” or happy again, the truth is, you can get over your partner’s affair. Learning to love yourself and to enjoy life again takes time, but like any wound, this pain will heal too.
Top Take-a-ways:
Why realizing that some things you will never get over is the beginning of healing.
Defining what the “Getting Over It” means to you now, and in the future.
Differentiating between the things you can control, and the things that you cannot.
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Rebuilding trust in themselves, their intuition, and the world,
Making sense of their story regardless of their partner’s participation,
Reconciling the life they have now with the life they thought they’d have,
Moving on with confidence and clarity – whether they are working things out with their partner or moving on alone, and
Bringing themselves back to life again, stronger and happier than before!
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Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Go to www.NakedSelfWorth.com and download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and learn what you can do to untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your sexy, and begin re-choreographing your life today!
Join Lora’s Betrayed to Brilliant – Flourish After Betrayal Facebook group, for support, inspiration, and a community of others who have been where you’re at, right now.
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
57 min
April 18, 2022It Started With a Betrayal – Jesus, Judas & What Betrayal Means for You
While it may feel like you are the only one who has experienced the heartbreak and pain of betrayal, you are not alone. In fact, the basis of the entire Christian religion is founded on the resurrection…which was preceded by the crucifixion…which was preceded by – you guessed it – a betrayal.
Top Take-a-ways:
Why betrayal is the beginning of the story and is always the catalyst for something more and something better, not the end.
How the phrase “What Would Jesus Do” might impact your post-betrayal decisions.
The story of the Easter Egg, and what cracking and breaking open means for your own rebirth.
Discover a simple but profound exercise that will get you unstuck, appreciating yourself, and clear on the kind of future and relationships that you wish to create.
Coaching Assignment: List 20 things that you like about yourself. Don’t judge or second guess, they can be anything no matter how big or small! Next, make a list of 20 things you desire in a relationship. Get specific and don’t be afraid to claim exactly what you want. Take some time to combine these two lists to create an affirmation, using the following statement:
I desire, want, and deserve ___(something from your relationship list)___ because I like and value __(something from the list of things you like about yourself)______.
For example;

I desire, want, and deserve a relationship with mutual respect because I like and value the way I always try to listen to and understand others.
Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
57 min
April 10, 2022Healthy Hormones Despite Infidelity or Feeling Betrayed by your Changing Body – With Dr. Deb Matthew
Hormones are chemical messengers that control the way you feel, react, and relate. Hormones are what make you who you are on the inside. So, when something stressful or traumatic happens, and your hormones go out of whack, you’re not going to feel like you normally do! Whether it’s menopause, the stress of infidelity, or you suddenly feel betrayed by your own body because you no longer recognize the woman staring back at you in the mirror, this show will help. Learn to get your hormones under control so you can get back to being you and feel better fast!
Top Take-a-ways:
Why it’s not the amount of stress that matters, it’s how you let that stress impact you that matters, and how to increase your tolerance to stress and your resilience in life.
How, even though it’s so common to be exhausted in the morning – and reach for coffee, crash in the afternoon – and reach for carbs, and then get a second wind right before bed – and reach for a glass of wine. it’s not a normal way to live.
Learn all about the cortisol – the master hormone – and it’s impact on the immune system, blood sugar levels, weight gain, and all other hormones.
Discover the essential balance of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone and what signs and symptoms to look for to determine if your hormones might be out of balance, and most importantly, what to do to correct this imbalance.

Dr. Deb Matthew MD, The Happy Hormones Doctor, is a best-selling author, international speaker, educator, wife and mom of four boys. After suffering for years with fatigue and irritability, her quest to restore her personal health led her to change everything about her practice of medicine. She has been featured on national podcasts, radio, and broadcast shows, including NBC, ABC, CBS, and FOX.
As a Functional Medicine Practitioner, she helps clients finds the root cause of their hormone imbalances. Download your free book This is NOT Normal at www.ItsYourHormones.com and learn more about her practice at www.signaturewellness.org.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
56 min
April 03, 2022Why Men Cheat: The Top Reasons & Secret Underlying Causes
If you have been betrayed, you understand the obsession with figuring out why men cheat. But here’s the thing. Too often, infidelity or affair recovery programs focus on the reasons why men cheat and miss the million-dollar question: Why does it matter? Getting radically honest about the underlying cause of the cheating is what matters. And the reason it matters is because it helps you understand what happened, disentangle from the drama of the surface reasons, and ultimately let yourself off the hook so you can move forward and heal.
Top take-a-ways:
The top seven reasons men cheat.
The truth behind why men can love you – and still cheat.
Why fear, shame, and anger are the unaddressed root cause of betrayal.
How understanding the root cause of betrayal helps you and your recovery.
The societal differences between the way men and women are raised and how those differences impact fear, shame, anger, and the tendency to cheat.
Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
55 min
March 27, 2022Mistakes Wives Make Trying to get their Husband Back – with Laura Doyle
Have you ever wished for a complete do-over of your relationship? Whether you are working things out, have no idea what you are going to do, or have already left but are determined to do things “right” next time around, learning which mistakes you are making will help! Even without your partner’s conscious effort, you can create more harmony, intimacy, and joy in your relationship today using these six intimacy skills.
Top take-a-ways:
How chronic unhappiness breeds discontent and why making yourself ridiculously happy, no matter how much of a crisis you are in, is the first step in healing.
Why being “too helpful” in relationships can backfire and how phrases such as “I trust you” and “Whatever you think” allow you to disengage, restore mutual respect, and inspire your partner to step up and do their own work more readily than when you try to “fix” or force your partner to change.
Gratitude and the power of “spouse-fulfilling prophesies” in bringing out the best in your partner – no matter how hopeless the situation may seem.
How to be authentic in your communication and say what you desire in a way that triggers your partner’s “hero gene” and desire to serve.
New York Times Bestselling Author and relationship expert Laura Doyle was the perfect wife…until she actually got married. When she told her husband how to be tidier, more romantic, and more ambitious, he avoided her. So she dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. In desperation, she asked happily married women for their secrets, and that’s when she got her miracle: the man who had wooed her returned. Laura’s books have been translated into 19 languages in 30 countries and accidentally started a worldwide movement. Laura’s mission is to end world divorce. She is the founder of the international relationship coach training school Laura Doyle Connect, the star of Empowered Wives on Amazon Prime, the Creator of The Ridiculously Happy Wife program, the host of The Empowered Wife Podcast and she has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America and The View. She has helped over 15,000 women fix their relationships–even the hopeless ones– without their husband’s effort. But the thing that Laura is most proud of is her gratifying 31-year marriage with her hilarious husband John, who has been dressing himself since before she was born

Learn more and get your copy of: The Three Mistakes Wives Make Trying to Get His Time & Attention at www.lauradoyle.org

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
1 hr 2 min
March 20, 2022Should I Stay or Should I go? Deciding What to do After Infidelity-Solo Show
Should I stay or should I go? Is one of the most often asked, and anguished over, questions after infidelity or betrayal. After experiencing the shock and devastation of your life not being what you thought it was, many women want certainty. Certainty that they are making the “right” decisions. Certainty that their partner won’t cheat again. Certainty that they will find new love, or certainty that their life or marriage will work out the way they want it to. Although none of us can guarantee the future, here are three simple steps (and a whole host of “a-ha” inducing questions) that will help you make the best decision based on your circumstances.
Top take-a-ways:
Uniting the head and the heart in order to make decisions that result in a full body yes, no, or I need more time!
Creating a boundary around yourself, your healing, and your decision-making process so you can make decisions that are right for you, and how to honor your partner’s boundaries and decision-making process as well, so you can get what you want.
Why the phrase “once a cheater always a cheater” is untrue, and how to discern whether your partner is more or less likely to cheat again.
The importance of identity and desire, and why knowing who you are and what you want is imperative deciding how to move forward after infidelity or betrayal.
Choosing your hard, and the truth about recovering together vs. recovering apart.
Letting go what other people might think and grounding yourself in realistic expectations.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
57 min
March 13, 2022Overcoming Obsessive Thoughts After Infidelity – Solo Show
Whenever our brains have “open loops” aka unanswered questions, they automatically start searching for answers. They search and they search, and they search until they find answers for those questions so they can close the loop and move on. Until the brain finds a satisfactory answer, it keeps seeking answers. That’s why you are having obsessive thoughts. Here’s how to find peace and stop.
Top take-a-ways:
Understanding the difference between the need to process, find answers, and reclaim your story and indulging in unhealthy obsessive thoughts.
How to stop letting toxic thought high-jack your well-being so you can break out of the trauma and think clearly again.
The power of gratitude and top tips for calming down the nervous system and learning how to function healthily again.
Why obsessive thoughts can be the gateway to healing, understanding, and writing “the rest of the story.”

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
1 hr 3 min
March 09, 2022Find Your Passion & Purpose -A 30-Minute Guided Meditation/Self-Hypnosis
The shocking truth about burnout is that it's not usually burnout. More often than not it's betrayal that causes you to feel cynical, disconnected, overwhelmed, and exhausted.
It's my hunch that, like me, the life you are living is a far cry from the life you thought you would live. Fairy tale fantasies aside, I'm fairly certain that none of us dreamed of living through a pandemic, a mortgage crisis, or a potential world war. Not to mention the onslaught of personal and professional heartbreak that we face - more often than we care to admit.
The first step in "managing burnout" is stop "managing burnout." Instead, re-frame your burnout in terms of betrayal. When you do, you will get clear of what you wanted or expected out of life versus what you actually got. Knowing this is empowering because it shows where you are:
Unclear about who you are, what you value, the legacy you want to create, and what you are willing to tolerate
Failing to create or enforce boundaries that support well-being while pursuing what brings you joy
Conflating what you do and accomplish with who you are and what you are inherently worth
Knowing where you are at and where you want to be is the essential first step in re-choreographing your life in a way that supports happiness and well-being. Stay tuned, this newsletter will help you get clear again. So you can move from exhausted to enthusiastic, cynical to optimistic, detached to engaged, ineffective to potent, and overwhelmed to overjoyed. No matter how "burned out" you feel right now.
Because, as I said earlier, it's probably not burnout. It's betrayal. And unlike burnout, betrayal can be addressed and healed for good. Leaving you with the kind of life you dreamed about before.
Curious? Try this 30-minute guided meditation/self-hypnosis on Finding Your Passion and Purpose.
And if you are ready for rapid change, I can help with that too! https://loracheadle.com/reclaim-your-power-and-own-your-worth-coaching-experience/

Lora Cheadle is an author, TEDx speaker, life, and leadership coach. She shows driven women how to move beyond soothing the symptoms of burnout and resolve the root cause, which oftentimes is betrayal. Whether that betrayal is from a person, system, changes in one’s body or health, or the realization that you’ve spent your life in service of a dream that was not your own, Lora show women leaders how to break free from burnout, reclaim their agency, and own their worth, so they can create a life they love before it’s too late. She is the creator of the Life Choreography® Life & Leadership Programs, It’s not Burnout; it’s Betrayal, and Advocate for What You Want after Infidelity or Betrayal. She is the author of the award-winning book, "FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy and Spiritual Self" and host of the top-rated podcast, “FLAUNT! Find Your Sparkle and Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal.”
39 min
March 07, 2022Breathwork For Emotional Release – With R. Christian Minson
Breath is the foundation of life, the doorway to multidimensionality, and how you breath determines how you feel on this human journey. Betrayal leads to a loss of trust, a loss of control, and a loss of flow. Breathwork is a tool that can help you regulate and calm your nervous system, relax and accept the present moment, and feel better fast. The choice is yours: You can either stumble through the forest or can find a path that will lead you through more easily. Let Breathwork be that path!
Top take-a-ways:
Understanding why all emotions have value and how to learn to trust your breath so you can relax and recover after infidelity or other emotional trauma.
Why every breath you take is either reinforcing negative emotional experiences or creating positive ones, and how to consciously repattern your life experience using breath.
How to move through and process the emotional backlog of bitterness, pain, and resentment post-betrayal.
The truth of Freud’s saying, “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” and the necessity of releasing the cellular memory of trauma if you want to heal.
The secret reason we hold our breath, and how breath-holding is a suspension of life, a momentary death, where you don’t want to move forward and face what’s next.
Remember, whatever posture you meet life with, is how life will meet you! And as Michael Blair says, “It’s not about feeling better, it’s about getting better at feeling.” But once you do, you will feel better! What kind of life do you want to create?
R. Christian Minson is an International Speaker, Best-Selling Contributing Author, Trainer, Coach, and the Founder of Breathflow Wellness International, a world-renowned transformational holistic health and wellness platform to share the life-changing techniques of breathwork. A former Monk, Christian spent 10 years in the YogicMonastery of Self-Realization Fellowship,founded by Paramahansa Yogananda (author of Autobiography of a Yogi), in Los Angeles to serve as Yogananda’s instrument for the dissemination of his writings and teachings, including Kriya Yoga.
After years searching for deeper meaning of life in the Monastery, Christian now teaches and guides others to find meaning in their own personal and professional lives by delivering inspiration and practical real-world tools that result in higher levels of vibration, creation, alignment, fulfillment and performance. Christian was formerly the Resident Director of the Breathwork Program at RYTHMIA Life Advancement Center in Costa Rica, specializing in fusing ancient wisdom and modern techniques for healing and creating a life you love.
Christian has worked alongside the well-known thought leader, Gregg Braden, and has shared his message and techniques across the globe—including the Middle East, Europe, Mexico, Canada, and all over the USA. He has shared his message with business people, thought-leaders, princesses, athletes and celebrities, students, and everyday seekers of a better way of life. Visit his website at www.breathflow.com.
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Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
53 min