FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

By Lora CheadleSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement Relationships Sexuality

FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal episodes

February 28, 2022Fawn: Why Smart Women Ignore Red Flags with Nischa Phair
You’ve probably heard of fight, flight, or freeze, but did you know that fawning (going out of your way to please someone) is also a trauma response? While fawning is a common stress response for many women, it’s especially prevalent after infidelity or betrayal. Learn how to identify, manage, and stop fawning behaviors so you can create and hold better, more authentic boundaries.
Top take-a-ways:
Why so many women claim the “don’t like sex,” and how to reclaim and reorient to pleasure by understanding the difference between the “stress management mode” and the “pleasure production mode.”
Reveling in the pride of surviving your trauma and releasing shame when you wake up one day and wonder, “How did this happen?” by understanding that fawning in a biological stress response (not an emotional defect) that it is trained into us as women, as our instincts are slowly trained out.
The reasons why we can’t see red flags in relationships until it’s too late, and why we explain away unhealthy, toxic masculinity and behaviors.
Top tip! The power of the “Somatic Pause” (which is a body-full, instead of mindful break) and how to incorporate little moments of pleasure throughout the day.
How pleasure helps us see the truth of who we are and what we need to do to heal ourselves and feel better.
Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed sex educator and the founder of SomaBody Trauma-Informed Pleasure Work. She works with survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live more purposefully in every area of their lives.
Her book, Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes is the first book to be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: How can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality? Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, Fawn is a rousing and heartfelt call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more integrity and intention into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term. Learn more at: https://www.nischaphair.com

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
1 hr
February 21, 2022What is Betrayal? Discover its Causes, Symptoms & Solutions
Whether your betrayal was recent or several years back, being betrayed makes you feel like your insides have been shattered. Like you will never recover, feel happy, or find joy again. But despite the way you feel right now, betrayal can make you stronger. If you choose to let it.
Top take-a-ways:
What is betrayal? – From its definition, cause, examples, and repercussions.
Discover the root cause of most betrayal and why being betrayed is part of being human.
Learn why, when someone betrays you, it says nothing about you and everything about them.
Explore why, even when it comes to infidelity, people who cheat do so because of their own vulnerabilities, fear, shame or even lack of integrity and not because of you.
Become aware of the symptoms of betrayal and how to overcome them, even if you don’t think you can.
Read Lora’s full blog on Recovering & Thriving After Infidelity Lora is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love.

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
52 min
February 17, 2022Love Addiction: What you Need to Know – With Giovanna Capozza
Love is a good thing, right? Not when the longing for love turns out to be a Love Addiction. This Valentine’s Day, stop recycling the same relationship drama & disappointments, heal the past, dissolve the old patterns that are keeping you stuck, and finally find the love you deserve.
Top take-a-ways:
Hitting your “relationship rock bottom” and how to feel better and move on when you feel heartbroken and hopeless.
How love addiction impacts your life, relationships, and ambitions, and how to understand the difference between love addiction, being a hopeless romantic, and love sickness so you can break free once and for all.
Why the health and strength of your relationship is not up to you alone, and how to let go of shame, grief, and feeling like a failure when your partner has betrayed you.
Answering the question, “How much am I willing to put up with and for how long?” The importance of trusting your gut and having compassion for your wounded partner while still protecting yourself.
Why not-enoughness, and being unlovable are part of the human condition and why you don’t need to heal fully before you find your ideal love.
Giovanna helps her clients understand and heal their unhealthy relationship patterns and past so that they can enjoy the deep, fulfilling, secure and healthy relationship we all deserve. With more than twelve years of leadership and coaching experience, along with a certification in Mind-Body Therapy, trainings through the Gottman Institute and Giovanna’s own personal experience in healing from Love Addiction she helps her clients develop a rock-solid relationship with themselves and helps them navigate and remove their blocks to getting the love they crave.
Giovanna’s debut memoir Lovewell, Confessions of a Lovesick Woman is being released on Valentine’s Day 2022 and is available for preorder right now!
Learn more about Giovanna, her book and her work at: https://www.giovannacapozza.com/
Sign up for FREE at www.BurnoutOrBetrayal.com
I can’t wait for everything this year has in store for you!!!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
55 min
February 09, 2022Emotional Detox Now: Feel & Heal Your Pain – With Sherianna Boyle
Without question, infidelity and betrayal flood your body with a variety of difficult sensations and make you feel icky and uncomfortable. When that happens, it’s all too common to seek to numb our painful feelings, strike out and hurt others, or spiral into anxiety and overwhelm. But it doesn’t have to be that way! This show teaches you how to healthily feel and process your emotions instead of numbing and hiding from them.
Top take-a-ways:
The difference between reacting, (unconscious actions we take to try to make the uncomfortable, comfortable) and feeling & healing (using conscious tools to process your difficult emotions) without re-traumatizing yourself.
The C.L.E.A.N.S.E. process, a daily 7-step process for detoxifying your emotions and creating peace, calm and better health.
Why love is the only true emotion and everything else is a reaction.
How to invite your partner, friends, family, and even your co-workers into a simple emotional detox practice that will improve interactions and create healthier connection.
Banishing anxiety for good by understanding that anxiety is simply an emotion looking to be processed that you aren’t letting yourself feel.
How to own your own discomfort, even when that discomfort comes from somebody else’s stuffthat’s bothering you.
Sherianna Boyle is an international, Emotional Detox Coach®, author of nine books, including her most recent Emotional Detox Now: 135 Practices to Renew Your Mind, Heart & Spirit (Feb 2022), Emotional Detox and Emotional Detox for Anxiety. Sherianna has been featured in over eighty-five articles, and a featured presenter for renowned organizations such as: PESI® Behavioral and Mental Health Education, Kripalu Health & Yoga Center, 1440 Multiversity University and more. Her book, The Four Gifts of Anxiety, was endorsed by the National Association of Mental Health. She is an adjunct Psychology Professor and founder of Emotional Detox Coaching® servicing clients (of all ages background and abilities) virtually world wide. She is the host of Emotional Detox Now Podcast.

Join Sherianna, Lora, and 40 other experts in the FREE, Worldwide Emotional Detox NOW Summit Designed to get the world feeling again and shake up the world!
The event lasts for 5 days and begins on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2022
Register HERE at www.emotionaldetoxnow.com

I can’t wait for everything this year has in store for you!!!
1 hr 1 min
February 09, 2022Betrayal, Celebration, and How to Make 2022 Your Best Year Yet
Between your personal betrayal, the pandemic, climate crises such as fires, droughts, floods, and a volcano (seriously, a volcano?) and our hyper-stressful political/cultural scene, it’s my guess that like me, you have been REALLY UNSETTLED and REALLY STRESSED OUT. What I want for you in 2022, is for you to regain your sense of peace, play, receptivity, and power.
I want you to spend 2022 chilling the frick out, reconnecting to Spirit, and playing with me!
Here’s what I have planned out for us in 2022, and why:
We will meet informally once per month over zoom, on or near the full moon. Whether it’s a book club, sacred ceremony, a women’s circle, meditation, or a dance, cooking, or craft experience, the purpose of each event is to raise your frequency so you can feel really good again about yourself and life in general, and manifest exactly what you want in 2022. Including a healing from betrayal.
This is not about work or sacrifice or doing more. It’s about receiving, playing, dropping your cover, and being exactly who you are in the most authentic way possible. This year, let go of the idea that you are broken and need to be fixed, and commit to the idea that you are perfect, and simply need to play!
Our first event is a Book Club, reading Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection. We will meet via zoom on January 31st, (the day after my birthday!) from 6-7 PM MST. That’s 5 PST and 8 EST. Here is the link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81678839200
Imagine how good you could feel, how happy you would be, and what life could look like at this time next year if you had remained conscious, kept your vibration high, connected, and been happy, receptive, and accountable for your own joy and manifestations. Imagine what it would be lie to be healed and through this betrayal experience. Well, you can be!
Say you will join me for a year of positivity, fun, connection, and joy!
Join in the fun and make 2022 your hear of healing, joy and connection. Get your free guide “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day and How to Stop,” and you will automatically be entered for your year of fun!
Sign up for FREE at www.BurnoutOrBetrayal.com
I can’t wait for everything this year has in store for you!!!
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
1 hr
January 23, 2022The Legal Implications of Infidelity: What you Need to Know – With Kim Willoughby
Have you ever wondered about the divorce process or whether there were other legal remedies that could help you navigate infidelity? This show will teach you what it is like to work with an attorney, what the legal system can and cannot do to help you, and how you can use a variety of legal remedies to help you secure your finances, future, and family. The legal process can be very intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be! Join family and estate planning attorney Kim Willoughby as she walks you through a variety of basic remedies and options for those facing infidelity or betrayal.
Top take-a-ways:
The difference between pre-nuptial, post-nuptial, and other types of marital contracts or agreements.
How marital agreements can protect you, your finances, and relationships after infidelity.
“No-fault” divorce vs “fault” divorce and whether infidelity matters in the eyes of the law.
Navigating the “free consultation” with a lawyer – how to prepare and what you need to know.
Estate Planning: What is it, what can it accomplish, and why is it important especially when infidelity and betrayal is involved.
The overarching importance of mental health before, during, and after the divorce process and why managing your mental state is the best way to control legal cost.
Kimberly R. Willoughby has been practicing law in Colorado since 1994 and has earned a reputation as one of the premier family law attorneys in the state. She is licensed in both Colorado and South Dakota. Kim is the only rostered attorney in the United States who is a Fellow of both the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) and American College of Trust and Estate Counsel (ACTEC).
Learn more about Kim Willoughby, divorce, marriage agreements, estate planning, and the intersection of your situation & all things legal at: https://willoughbylaw.com/kim-willoughby/
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
53 min
January 16, 2022Because Healthy Marriage Matters: Creating the Relationship you Deserve - With Austin & Rachel Holt
It’s my hunch that like Austin and Rachel Holt, you have read books, prayed hard, and have gone through some sort of marital or relationship counseling. But despite learning about how to budgets, expectations in sex, or how to formulate a parenting plan, you came head-to-head with a very real - and problematic situation: Even though you were in love, your deepest hurts, unhealed wounds and unconscious patterns (and those of your partner) reared their ugly heads and sabotaged your relationship. Whether it was infidelity or another kind of betrayal, there was trouble, and suddenly you felt like you were in over your head...

Top take-a-ways:
How the “Divine setup” in marriage and the IMAGO match can help you find each other again and heal once and for all.
The difference between “being willing” and “to will” and why the idea of “You can heal your marriage all alone!” is a marketing tactic that does not work long term.
Why having agreements, not expectations in a marriage (or any relationships) is the best way to stay healthy, safe, and happy.
Creating a life that is designed around healthy connection, love, and mutual growth – no matter how badly your relationship has gotten off track, and the power of third party objectivity.
Phrasing your feelings in terms of “inarguable truth,” so your partner will finally hear (and understand) you!
Simple practices that keep marriages together for the long haul and the power of knowing what values your marriage stands for.
Supporting married couples in healing, transformation, and intimate connection in their marriage, Austin and Rachel Holt are one of the only Big Leap Certified husband and wife teams in the world. They possess an undeniable passion and joy in supporting couples to create fun, blissful, and drama-free marriages through powerful tools, personal healing, simple mindset shifts, and the unconditional love of God. Through their brand Because Marriage Matters, they've created marriage products, in-person events, online programs, and communities that help couples all over the world. Their unique approach includes elements from their Christian Faith, The Hendricks Institute, IMAGO therapy, Mindfulness, interpersonal neurobiology, Gottman research and more.

Learn more about Austin, Rachel and Because Marriage Matters at https://becausemarriagematters.com/

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love.
If you are ready to strip down & soar, then download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com so you can untangle yourself from the past, reclaim the present, and create the future on your own terms.
All with a wink and a smile!
57 min
January 05, 2022The Impact of Emotionally Immature Partners – With Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Living with or loving an emotionally immature person is difficult. It can keep you hopping as you do your best to try to manage their emotions, and it can make you feel like you are the crazy one – even though somewhere deep inside you know you aren’t. Dr. Lindsay Gibson provides hope and relief from the confusion and emotional suffering that emotionally immature parents arouse in their loved ones. She helps you understand your own emotional loneliness and helps you create deeper emotional connections and more rewarding intimacy in your life. If you are ready to see yourself as a worthy person who is no longer at the mercy of other people’s manipulations, then this is the show for you!
Top take-a-ways:
How to tell if your partner is emotionally immature or manipulative.
Why emotionally immature people are difficult (if not impossible) to form connected relationships with and why denial and projection of blame are two important red flags.
The power of empathy and self-reflection in developing emotional maturity in adult life.
The intersection of self-worth, emotional maturity, and how to stay connected to yourself despite living with, or having emotionally immature people in your life.
Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of Who You Were Meant to Be and writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine. In the past she has served as an adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology for the College of William and Mary, as well as for Old Dominion University. Gibson lives and practices in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
Learn more about Dr. Lindsay Gibson at http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/ and find her books wherever books are sold
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
1 hr
January 04, 2022Process & Heal Betrayal Through Somatic Movemennt
Feeling “normal” again after infidelity or betrayal is a process that takes a combination of the right ingredients and the right actions. Learn how movement can help you process and heal so you can feel better fast!
Top take-a-ways:
What “somatic movement” is, what it does, and why it helps you recover from infidelity or betrayal.
Why recovering and healing is like baking cookies; you need the right ingredients, mixed together the right way, and baked in an oven set at the right temperature for the right length of time, or you won’t get the result you desire!
The difference between masculine (structure) and feminine (flow) and how to use both in order to heal your pain and create the kind of future you desire.
Using the power of dance, choreography, and movement to understand and bring awareness to your internal experience.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
You are cordially invited to the REPLAY of Lora’s free
‘A Little Party Never Killed Nobody’ Somatic Movement Experience!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjWbD4sP0i4&t=141s

Wear something comfortable to move in, and have a large, button-up shirt, bra (that you will wear on the outside of your clothes as props for what you are releasing) and water on hand as we’re going to learn the choreography to a fun dance routine.

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
57 min
December 19, 2021The Importance of Tradition in Overcoming Betrayal (Especially Over the Holidays) – Solo Show
Betrayal pulls the rug out from under you and makes you question yourself and your reality. Things that you relied on as true, you find out were not, leaving you ungrounded, grieving, and wondering where you can turn to for safety and rest. Which can be especially painful around the holidays, where tradition reigns supreme, and you find yourself in unfamiliar territory with the outside pressure to be jolly.
Top Take-a-ways:
Creating traditions post-betrayal, for yourself and others.
Reflecting on holidays past, and learning to acknowledge, receive, and grieve the joy and loss of what was.
Tradition as a way of marking time, increasing your sense of belonging, making meaning in a chaotic and unpredictable world.
How to revisit the values and beliefs connected to holidays, examine what is important to you now, and reestablish an identity in accordance with your deepest values.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

If you are ready to strip down & soar, then download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com so you can untangle yourself from the past, reclaim the present, and create the future on your own terms.
All with a wink and a smile!
52 min