Description:

KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, an author, a speaker, and, frankly, one of the most compassionate, funny, down-to-earth voices out there. During the pandemic, she created an amazing platform called Struggle Care where she has been teaching us how to care for ourselves (and our homes) without stigma or shame. Like—if the laundry’s piled up or the dishes aren’t done, it doesn’t mean you’re lazy or broken. It just means you’re living life. It’s a gracious approach to self-care that we wildly embrace. 

KC’s first book, How to Keep House While Drowning, was a total game-changer for so many women  who’ve felt overwhelmed by the everyday—and now she’s back with a brand new book called Who Deserves Your Love, helping us figure out which relationships we want to invest in, which ones need boundaries, and maybe even which ones we need to step away from. 

This conversation goes to some deep places. We talk about:

What mistreatment looks like in relationships, as opposed to abuse

The stories that we tell ourselves about another person’s behavior when we get caught up in the vulnerability cycle

What it means to be morally neutral

How to use a relationship decision tree to evaluate and make decisions about a relationship

And the sticky secret to enforcing boundaries

With accessibility, humorous relatability, and vulnerability,  KC is here to help us navigate the messy, complicated work of loving people and loving ourselves.

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“Sometimes my publishers will give me some advice like, ‘Let’s project that you’re a credible expert’, meanwhile I’m shooting TikToks from the toilet.” – KC Davis

“Despite being a therapist, I did not realize that I had severe postpartum depression because I didn't feel sad.” KC Davis

“Messiness is not a moral failing. Either your messiness is just a part of your personality and it's pretty functional for you and you don't need to change anything and accept yourself or maybe it's because you're having a hard time.” – KC Davis

“No one has ever shamed themselves into better mental health.” – KC Davis

“Self-care is not the thing you do to make yourself not struggle. It is learning how to take care of yourself while you struggle.” – KC Davis

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Who Deserves Your Love: How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship by KC Davis - https://amzn.to/3GVFdfh

How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing by KC Davis - https://amzn.to/43dAn4n

KC Davis Resources - https://www.strugglecare.com/resources

KC Davis TED Talk - How To Do Laundry When You’re Depressed - https://www.ted.com/talks/kc_davis_how_to_do_laundry_when_you_re_depressed_apr_2022

Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Styles - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas%E2%80%93Kilmann_Conflict_Mode_Instrument

Struggle Care - https://www.strugglecare.com/

Guest’s Links:

Website - https://www.strugglecare.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/strugglecare

Twitter - https://x.com/KCDavisSays

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/StruggleCare/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters

Podcast - https://www.strugglecare.com/struggle-care

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Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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Description:Beloved author Wade Rouse—who writes under the pen name Viola Shipman—joins Jen for a heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply insightful conversation about writing, identity, and honoring the women who shape us. Known for his evocative novels rooted in love, memory, and family, Wade shares the origin of his pen name (a tribute to his grandmother), the transition from memoir to fiction, and how Michigan became the emotional landscape for so many of his stories.In this touching episode, Jen and Wade dive into:

Whether you’re a book lover, an aspiring writer, or someone who believes in the power of personal stories, this episode is packed with inspiration, connection, and literary magic.Thought-Provoking Quotes:★ “My grandmother never finished high school, but she taught me to love myself unconditionally. My novels are a thank-you to her.” – Wade Rouse★ “The most fearful place in your life can also be the place you take off from.” – Wade Rouse★ “I’m not having it—genre shaming diminishes stories that speak to real people in real life.” – Wade Rouse★ “Writing is how I make sense of the world. It’s what keeps me alive.” – Wade Rouse★ “Real readers read your books.” – Jen HatmakerResources Mentioned in This Episode:➢ The Page Turner by Viola Shipman - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-page-turner-viola-shipman/c2LjF3Fyg5p6hhsJ➢ Thank You for Being a Friend (Coming Spring 2026 from Wade Rouse) - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/thank-you-for-being-a-friend-wade-rouse?variant=43837257121826➢ On Being Jewish Now, edited by Zibby Owens – https://zibbymedia.com/products/on-being-jewish-now?srsltid=AfmBOopN4cohtpA6k7EbIWC3F0Pq7dYqivWB5s97E-e9iEtFrw4sugUH➢ Erma Bombeck –https://amzn.to/3DT9NoL➢ BookPeople in Austin, TX – https://www.bookpeople.com➢ Visit Saugatuck, MI – https://www.saugatuck.comGuest’s Links:Website – https://www.violashipman.comInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/violashipmanFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/ViolaShipmanBooksConnect with Jen!Website – https://jenhatmaker.comInstagram – https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerFacebook – https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerYouTube – https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.

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Today, we’re playing a few of our favorite messages and responding to what you, our listeners, have shared. Whether it’s midlife realizations, hard-won wisdom, or letting go of stuff that just isn’t serving you anymore—this is about all of us learning from each other.

Thank you to Alice, Ann, Sarah, Ashley, #1 Becky and  “Badass Becky”  

Also, Sydney Hatmaker said some hurtful things to us about us broadcasting our bare old lady feet on the podcast and we had to take a minute to discuss a new dress code policy.

Thought-provoking Quotes:

18:00 Sometimes the tool is just language – Amy Hardin

21:00 Tools all in use but still suffering – Jen

27:00 I want to shake people and pull things over. I’m not sure that’s the appropriate response. – Jen

29:30 If we don’t counter messages, others will take over. – Jen

47:00 Make a list of your accomplishments to use for momentum – Amy

48:00 I think we are at our best in the second half of life – Jen

58:00 I want out of the rat race – Jen

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Reclaiming Your Power: Moms Demand Action’s Shannon Watts on Living a Life of Passion and Purpose - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/reclaiming-your-power-moms-demand-actions-shannon-watts-on-living-a-life-of-passion-and-purpose/

Camino de Santiago - https://santiago-compostela.net/

Midlife Isn’t a Crisis, It’s a Comeback: Maddie Corman on Being Accidentally Brave - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/midlife-isnt-a-crisis-its-a-comeback-maddie-corman-on-being-accidentally-brave/

Betrayal Trauma - https://www.verywellmind.com/betrayal-trauma-causes-symptoms-impact-and-coping-5270361

Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/

Books by Brené Brown - https://amzn.to/3FgwnIt

The Tears of Things: Living Prophetically in an Age of Outrage with Richard Rohr - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/the-tears-of-things-living-prophetically-in-an-age-of-outrage-with-richard-rohr/

Trump administration says it’s cutting 90% of USAID foreign aid contracts - https://apnews.com/article/trump-usaid-foreign-aid-cuts-6292f48f8d4025bed0bf5c3e9d623c16

Kendra Adachi - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/

Escaping the Productivity Trap: Kendra Adachi’s Lazy Genius Perspective - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/escaping-the-productivity-trap-kendra-adachis-lazy-genius-perspective/

Frances Mayes - https://www.francesemayes.com/

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential observers of happiness and human nature. In addition to hosting the award-winning podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin, where she shares practical strategies for building a happier, healthier, more creative life, Gretchen is also the bestselling author of The Happiness Project, The Four Tendencies, Better Than Before, Life in Five Senses, and now Secrets of Adulthood, a delightful collection of her signature aphorisms—concise, thought-provoking truths gathered from her own experiences and reflections on human nature.

Today, Gretchen shares a wealth of bite-sized, digestible truths with Jen and Amy that acknowledge problems everyone faces. 

“What we do every day matters more than what we do once in a while.”

“Outer order contributes to inner calm.”

“A strong voice repels as well as attracts.”

“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.”

And our personal favorite, “Choose the bigger life.”

Gretchen also delves into the Four Tendencies and helps Jen and Amy unpack their profiles to better understand whether they are an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.  Anyone want to take bets?

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“Happier people are  more interested in the problems of the world. And they're more interested in the problems of the people around them. They're more likely to volunteer. They're more likely to vote. They're more likely to donate their time or their money. They're more likely to help out if someone needs a hand. When we're happier, we're able to turn outward and to think about the problems of the world.” – Gretchen Rubin

“Action is the antidote to anxiety.” – Gretchen Rubin

“There’s really no more eloquent way to put this: one of the best ways to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends.” – Gretchen Rubin

“When we're doing something hard, it feels like the times are hard." – Gretchen Rubin

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Camino de Santiago Pilgrimage - https://santiago-compostela.net/

Secrets of Adulthood: Simple Truths for Our Complex Lives by Gretchen Rubin - https://amzn.to/4kq8TzF

The Happier App - https://thehappierapp.com/

David Sedaris

The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin - https://amzn.to/3S9OXox

The Four Tendencies Quiz - https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/ 

The English Understand Wool by Helen DeWitt - https://amzn.to/43iUOgg

The Last Samurai by Helen DeWitt - https://amzn.to/43tjDaF

5 Things Making Me Happy Newsletter - https://gretchenrubin.com/newsletter/5-things-making-me-happy-september-16-2022/

Sandwich: A Novel by Catherine Newman - https://amzn.to/4m9KGiy

Guest’s Links:

Website - https://gretchenrubin.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin

Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/GretchenRubin

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@gretchenrubin

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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…

We need art and beauty now more than ever

We need creators to create

And Jen admits to being a metaphor whore

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“The thing that really kept me going was writing. Writing was the way that I came home to myself.” – Maggie Smith 

8:00 Nobody wants my cookbook. The next step will be call Doordash – Maggie Smith

9:00 Every decision you make is a creative decision. 

10:15 I always want to grab people by the shoulders….

13:45 Even if you’re not a writer, if you have a good therapist, they’ll probably tell you to write.

27:15 The quality of your attention in the world is your gift.

31:00 I am so grateful that people make things

35:00 I may look like I’m alone when I’m writing

35:30 I think it’s important to debunk the myth of the solo creator (similar to the tortured artist)

42:00 I would hate for people to think that fully formed poems come out. Just get it down.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life by Maggie Smith - https://amzn.to/42EPzrc

Sturgill Simpson - https://sturgillsimpson.com/

Good Bones poem by Maggie Smith - https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/89897/good-bones

Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change by Maggie Smith - https://amzn.to/3Gal2Kd

Moving Forward After Pain Rips Your Script: Maggie Smith - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-36/moving-forward-after-pain-rips-your-script-maggie-smith/

The Friendships That Save Us: Maggie Smith - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-54/the-friendships-that-save-us-maggie-smith/

The Dear Writer Book Tour - https://maggiesmithpoet.com/dear-writer-book-tour/

You Could Make This Place Beautiful: A Memoir by Maggie Smith - https://amzn.to/3Ep8sWK

Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamott - https://amzn.to/42yKoJi

Joan Didion – https://www.joandidion.org/

My Life by Lynn Hejinian - https://amzn.to/3Eo6J40

Sayeed Jones - https://www.readsaeedjones.com/

Guest’s Links:

Website - https://maggiesmithpoet.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/maggiesmithpoet/

Twitter - https://x.com/maggiesmithpoet

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/maggiesmithpoet

Substack - https://maggiesmith.substack.com/

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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Build the life of your dreams and learn from the world’s most successful people.

Emma Grede, one of America’s richest self-made women - wants you to make the most of your life. On ‘Aspire with Emma Grede', learn through thought-provoking conversations with some of the most successful and smartest minds on the planet.

Each episode will unpack their habits, philosophy and strategies, covering career advice, well-being, psychology and of course how to win in business. The show offers personal stories, data-driven advice, real-world strategies, and the experience you need, to turn your dreams into reality.

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Melissa Radke is the best friend you never knew you always wanted with a Texas-sized heart and sense of humor to match. She’s also an author, speaker, TV personality, and For the Love fan-favorite, best known for her gut-busting sense of humor, deep honesty, and fierce Southern sass. Melissa first gained a national following with her viral videos about parenting and real life, which led to a reality show (The Radkes) and a bestselling book (Eat Cake. Be Brave.) A fierce advocate for women finding their voice—especially in midlife—Melissa brings laughter and tears to everything she touches. Her newest project, Chicken Fried Women, a collection of stories (with a companion podcast series) celebrates the women—battered on the outside, tender on the inside, some salty, some spicy—who made us who we are.

In this life-giving conversation filled with snort-laughs and tears, we talk about: 

The incredible women who raised us, taught us, prayed for us, and even humbled us when we needed it most

The stories that have become legend in our families—Melissa tells a story about her Aunt Melba helping her mother with fastening her girdle in a cramped church bathroom stall that left Jen and Amy in stitches

The friends who have shown up for us in times of crisis with remedies and solutions that we never could have fathomed for ourselves

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“I have always thought that people who have an innate gift to find and communicate humor, even in the midst of sorrow, possess a gift of healing. And I can’t number how many times I have been on the other side of someone else’s gift of humor and it has restored me in a way that literally nothing else could.” – Jen Hatmaker

“Don’t waste another second being around someone who makes you feel like you’re too much. Go sit at a different table. Find a different circle.” – Melissa Radke

“I am fully committed, as committed as I am to Christ, to the moo-moo. I make no apologies and I thank the person who rebranded it by calling it a kaftan.” – Melissa Radke

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Eat Cake & Be Brave: The Funny Formula For Life With Melissa Radke - https://bit.ly/4j29Yxm

Fierce, Free & Full of Questions: Melissa Radke Gets Jen to Tell it All - https://bit.ly/4lkzm2Q

The Radkes - https://www.usanetwork.com/the-radkes

Saturday Night Live’s Five Timer’s Club - https://www.nbc.com/nbc-insider/snl-fiver-timers-club-member-hosts

Chicken-Fried Women: Friendship, Kinship, and the Women Who Made Us This Way by Melissa Radke - https://amzn.to/3FS6azY

The Chicken Fried Women Podcast - https://www.melissaradke.com/podcast

Erma Bombeck - https://amzn.to/3DT9NoL

Leanne Morgan - https://www.leannemorgan.com/

Tina Fey - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0275486/

Amy Poehler - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0688132/

Mindy Kaling - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1411676/

She’s in Love with the Boy by Trisha Yearwood - https://open.spotify.com/track/4EJvW4NHAk7TrIeX44jjXF

Guest’s Links:

Website - https://www.melissaradke.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/msmelissaradke/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/MelissaRadkeStretchMarks/

Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@MelissaRadke

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@melissaradke

Podcast - https://www.melissaradke.com/podcast

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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…Today we’re revisiting the profound biological, psychological and social shifts experienced when becoming a mother - a process known as "matrescence.” Jen sits down with science journalist Lucy Jones, who experienced a seismic identity shift that arose after the birth of her first child.  

Lucy and Jen unpack groundbreaking neuroscience research and they expose the deep-rooted myths and unrealistic expectations surrounding modern motherhood. From the minimizing of postpartum struggles to the pressure of "natural birthing" ideals, Lucy reveals how these systemic fictions can breed shame, isolation and maternal mental health crises.

Jen and Lucy discuss:

The concept of "matrescence" - the biological, psychological and social transition to becoming a mother that renders profound identity changes

How modern cultural myths and idealized notions of motherhood as blissful and "natural" can be deeply alienating and contribute to maternal mental health issues

The systemic lack of scientific research and societal rituals to prepare and support women through the seismic transformation of matrescence

The need to construct new narratives, share vulnerable experiences, and build community care around the modern realities of the matrescence

* * *

Thought-Provoking Quotes:

“[Matrescence] is a very simple concept that means the process of becoming a mother. The word is a little bit like 'adolescence'. It was coined by the late American anthropologist Dana Rafael in the 70's. She also coined the word 'doula'. She first wrote about it in an essay collection published in 1974 where she talks about how, in most societies and cultures across the world, people have always had a sense that a mother is born when a baby is born. But she also describes your identity, your social relationships, your roles, your everyday life, your mind, your psychology, and your emotions." - Lucy Jones

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Matrescence by Lucy Jones – Read here

Foxes Unearthed by Lucy Jones – Read here

Losing Eden by Lucy Jones – Read here

Dana Raphael (American Anthropologist) – Learn more

“The Birth of a Mother” by Alexandra Sacks (NYT article) – Read here

2017 NIH Study on Pregnancy and the Brain – Read here

Of Woman Born by Adrienne Rich – Read here

Andrea O’Reilly (Motherhood scholar) – Learn more

Guest’s Links:

Lucy’s Website: lucyfjones.com

Lucy’s X: @lucyjones

Instagram: @lucyfjones

Facebook: Lucy Jones Books

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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In the span of a single year, Abby Wambach lost her beloved brother, her wife Glennon Doyle  was diagnosed with anorexia, and her sister-in-law Amanda Doyle was diagnosed with breast cancer. For the first time, the trio who host the wildly popular We Can Do Hard Things podcast, all found themselves simultaneously lost, looking for answers. So they turned toward the only thing that’s ever helped them find their way: deep, honest conversations with other brave, kind, wise people. What resulted from those conversations was a myriad of guideposts, words of wisdom from some of the most brilliant wayfinders in the zeitgeist today.

In this episode, Jen and Amy talk with Abby and Amanda about some of the most meaningful bits of guidance that they have received from inspirational voices like Elizabeth Gilbert, Jane Fonda, Michelle Obama, Ocean Vuong, Esther Perel,  Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson, and others that they have gathered into a new book called, We Can Do Hard Things: Answers to Life's 20 Questions.

Some of the conversations they delve into include:

Why are we like this?

How do we figure out what we really want?

How do we let go, or forgive, or get unstuck?

Why do we wake up every day having forgotten everything we know?

Why self-loyalty is so damn hard for women?

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“I'm just trying to remain a human in this political environment, in this place of deep fear where so much is at risk. And I think the way we do that is continuing to see each other as human and continuing to let our hearts break over what should break our hearts.” – Amanda Doyle

“Having played on many different teams, I'm well suited to work well with others. I just have to be here and be myself. That is the way that I add value. I am not gonna add value in the way that Glennon and Amanda do. I know that. But that doesn't give me any lack of confidence because I know I bring something to the team.” – Abby Wambach

“After 400 or so conversations, it was so wild that, whether we were talking to a person who's been a therapist for 40 years, or a person who's a poet, or a person who's an activist, there were just a handful of questions that all of these people are struggling with. The smartest people in the world are trying to figure out the same things that we are.” – Amanda Doyle

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Forward: A Memoir by Abby Wambach - https://amzn.to/4ckZOFi

WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach - https://amzn.to/4cpazqg

We Can Do Hard Things: Answers to Life's 20 Questions by Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle - https://amzn.to/3EfeZ6r

Glennon Doyle - https://momastery.com/

Amanda Doyle Stops Keeping Score And Stays In The Moment - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-60/amanda-doyle-stops-keeping-score-and-stays-in-the-moment/

Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/

Kate Bowler - https://katebowler.com/about/

Suzanne Stabile - https://suzannestabile.com/

Guest’s Links:

Website - https://abbywambach.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/abbywambach/

Twitter - https://x.com/abbywambach

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/abbywambach/

Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCej3anJvC-rSMd63asN8cXg

Podcast - https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/

Guest’s Links:

Twitter - https://x.com/amandafdoyle

Podcast - https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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The April 2025 JHBC selection, The Light Pirate, is a haunting, lyrical, and original story that takes place in the near future, set against the backdrop of climate-ravaged Florida, with parts of the state going underwater and being abandoned by those who used to call it home. The story follows Wanda—a luminous child born out of a devastating hurricane—as she navigates a rapidly changing world. With elements of literary fiction, speculative realism, and subtle magical undertones, The Light Pirate is a meditation on grief, transformation, resilience, and the relationship between humanity and the natural world. It’s both a warning and a whisper of hope—a reminder that even in the face of collapse, there is still beauty, connection, and light.

In this discussion with The Light Pirate author, Lily Brooks-Dalton, she and Jen discuss:

How the simple practice of journaling helped Lily evolve her craft and find her own unique voice as a writer

The ways in which Lily weaves unexpected, real-life texture into her work by marrying her passions in other hobbies and subjects

The evolving demands on a modern author

And Lily talks about her next book project titled 'Ruins' that explores the fascinating field of archaeology

Thought-provoking Quotes:

“I always wanted to be a writer. And it was just a matter of figuring out that that was a goal worth working toward.” – Lily Brooks-Dalton

“I always had a journal. I was so much better at figuring out what I felt through writing it down, as opposed to even thinking or talking out loud. It was just like my medium.” – Lily Brooks-Dalton

“That moment of preparation really stuck with me for a long time. And I couldn't get it out of my head. I was just thinking about all the different ways that a human being could react to that kind of energy, that kind of dread and fear and excitement.” – Lily Brooks-Dalton

“This is the conundrum of living in places that aren’t for us, places  that aren't accommodating to us anymore in the way that maybe they used to be. It's so easy to be tucked into your safe home and be like, just move, just go somewhere else. But, I think you are able to put yourself in those shoes and realize these are people's homes. They invest their whole lives in these spaces. And it's no small thing to just move somewhere a little easier.” – Lily Brooks-Dalton

“I didn’t become a writer to be seen. It's not my comfort zone, so it's been a little bit scary at times and also really exciting.” – Lily Brooks-Dalton

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

The Light Pirate: A Novel by Lily Brooks-Dalton - https://amzn.to/42dGxCn

Motorcycles I've Loved: A Memoir by Lily Brooks-Dalton - https://amzn.to/4cEEavY

Good Morning, Midnight: A Novel by Lily Brooks-Dalton - https://amzn.to/4jy3S7v

The Midnight Sky on Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/title/80244645

Piranesi by Susanna Clarke - https://amzn.to/4jzVvZ6

Audition: A Novel by Katie Kitamura - https://amzn.to/42koxXa

Guest’s Links:

Website - https://www.lilybrooksdalton.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lilybrooksdalton

Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/

Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/

Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker

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