Habits and Hustle

Why is it that we have hundreds of gadgets and apps to optimize our sleep but yet our sleep quality is only getting worse?!

In this solo episode of Habits and Hustle, I chat with you about why I think we're sleeping worst than ever and what you can do to improve your sleep quality. Most importantly, I discuss why you should prioritize sleep but not make it a reason to shoot your whole day if you don't get the best night of sleep.

What we discuss:

00:16: Why are we sleeping worst than ever?

03:06: What habits are hindering your sleep quality?

05:33: How does diet affect your sleep?

07:20: What happens when you have a bad night of sleep?

11:01: How many hours of sleep per night do you need?

12:22: Do women need to sleep more?

15:15: How can you make sleep quality a non-negotiable?

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen

We've all experienced it: the gut-wrenching pain of a heartbreak and the eventual struggle to understand the dynamics of relationships.

In this episode of Habits and Hustle, we dive deep into the intricacies of relationships, discussing everything from the psychology behind relationship patterns to the role of stress, selfishness, and fear of rejection with Jillian Turecki. Jillian enlightened us with her distinctive insights on topics such as the reality of soulmates and the idea that a long-term relationship requires continuous choices. We also took a hard look at trauma bonds, anxious attachment, and the importance of becoming radically self-aware to break destructive cycles. This conversation was not just intellectual but also deeply personal, as it drew from Jillian's experiences and expertise.

Finally, we shifted our focus to some of the more nuanced aspects of relationships. We ruminated on gender differences in emotional connections with sex, pondered over the concept of safety for women due to their vulnerability, and tackled the vexing issue of lost attraction in an otherwise fulfilling relationship.

Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves. Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes, Jillian is certified by the Robbins Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others.

What we discuss:

(0:00:01) - How did Jillian becoming a relationship coach?

(0:11:02) - Are our relationship expectations realistic or selfish?

(0:22:47) - How to break bad relationship patterns

(0:33:35) - Busting myths about relationships

(0:40:30) - How important is emotional connection in sex?

Key Takeaways:

• There's no such thing as one soulmate. People come into our lives for various reasons and not everyone who feels like a soulmate is. Not everything is meant to be a life story. Some people come into our lives to wake us up. Some people come into our lives to help us through a period of time. Some people come into our lives to show us some adventure.

• If you lose attraction towards a partner, you have to understand why. A couple can bring it back if they understand the why and they work on the why. And especially if there was once a lot of attraction in the beginning. It is something that typically can be resurrected as long as the other things are sort of rectified and worked on.

• We learn about our attachment styles and we learn about what we're experiencing on the attachment spectrum, based on who we are relating to. And it's also very dependent on what else is going on in our lives. For example, if we're going through a very difficult time in our lives, we might become more anxiously attached to someone because we think on a subconscious level that this person is going to rescue us and is going to make it all better.

Learn more about Jillian:

Website: https://www.jillianturecki.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/B4smb80j8Am/

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jillian-on-love/id1640172049?ls=1&itscg=30200&itsct=qcode_podcasts&at=1001l36mQ&ct=JOL-Chartable

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen

Should you be taking advice from just about everyone?

In this solo episode of Habits & Hustle, I chat about the current phenomenon on social media where it seems like just about everyone is an expert on something and giving advice on the said subject of expertise.

While some advice may be good, the reality is that not everyone who is giving out advice is qualified to do it and not every piece of advice you hear is advice you should follow.

What we discuss:

01:25: Is it possible for everyone to be an expert?

03:23: Where should you seek advice?

09:27: What’s the problem with experts on social media?

12:20: Are real experts really on social media?

17:33: What is Schadenfreude?

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen 

Do you ever wonder why society hates people who live authentically?

In this episode of Habits and Hustle, I chat with ALOK about their observations on what happens to us when we aren't living authentically, what happens when we finally start living authentically, and what kind of reactions we may provoke from society…and why those reactions are okay!

ALOK also shares their personal experience on how they had internalized feelings of hate towards themselves, how it almost drove them to suicide, and how they were able to come out on the other side.

ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed author, poet, comedian, and public speaker. As a mixed-media artists, their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the human condition.

What we discuss:

01:53: About Alok

07:29: How was Alok brought up?

11:05: How did Alok start living authentically?

18:20: How can you start living an authentic life?

19:45: Was Alok jealous of other people who came out before them?

23:25: Where do LGBTQ prejudices come from?

40:19: What was Alok's experience with suicide?

46:55: What does Alok journal about?

54:28: How would Alok call themselves?

01:10:25: Where can you learn more about Alok?

Key Takeaways:

• Most of us feel depressed, anxious, and sad because we are not living authentically. We are living lives that others, whether it be our parents or society, tell us we "should" live. We tend to sacrifice what our truth is and as a result, live a life that is out of alignment with what we truly want and are passionate about.

• The biggest motivator behind the hate many people who go against the grain is jealousy and envy. When someone sees someone else rejecting what society has forced on them, they express it as anger and hate, but it stems from the feeling of being upset with themselves that they don't have the same courage as that person to live the life they want.

To learn more about ALOK:

Website: https://www.alokvmenon.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon/?hl=en

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen

Do you swipe left or right when you land on a profile of a shorter man?

In this solo episode of the Habits and Hustle podcast, we chat about how much importance women and men attribute to a man’s height when it comes to dating. 

While men tend to feel conscious of their height as women tend to associate height with masculinity, there are other ways men can behave to be more attractive to women.

What we discuss:

03:00: How important are looks when dating?

05:40: Is height the reason why we have so many single people? 

08:02: How important is a man’s height for sperm banks?

10:12: What is the issue with online dating?

13:50: What should men who aren’t “tall enough” do?

18:19: How should you carry yourself if you’re short?

20:23: Do tall men have it easier?

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen 

Do you consider yourself to be curious enough?

In this episode of Habits and Hustle, Neil deGrasse Tyson and I explore the importance of retaining our childhood curiosity and how it plays a crucial role in our lives as adults. Neil shares his insights on nurturing curiosity and how fear of failure can hinder our progress in maintaining that innate sense of wonder.

During our conversation, Neil also shares his unique perspective on using pop culture in education, the future of AI, and the complexities of quantum physics and philosophy. As an astrophysicist, Neil brings a cosmic perspective to our discussion, offering wisdom and knowledge that will surely spark your curiosity and ignite your passion for learning.

Finally, we touch on the challenges and opportunities in transforming the school system, the role of religion, and even ponder hypothetical conversations with interesting historical figures. Don't miss this captivating episode with the one and only Neil deGrasse Tyson as we explore the universe and beyond together.

Neil deGrasse Tyson earned his BA in Physics from Harvard and his PhD in Astrophysics from Columbia. In 2001, Tyson was appointed by President Bush to serve on a twelve-member commission that studied the Future of the U.S. Aerospace Industry. The final report was published in 2002 and contained recommendations (for Congress and for the major agencies of the government) that would promote a thriving future of transportation, space exploration, and national security.

What we discuss:

(0:00:01) - How important is it to retaining childhood curiosity and exploration in adulthood?

(0:13:08) - What role does pop culture have in education?

(0:17:09) - How Neil used Twitter to spark curiosity

(0:29:25) - What does Neil think of AI's Future and implicated ethics?

(0:38:50) - What do we know to be true in quantum physics and philosophy?

(0:54:19) - How can we transforming the school system?

(1:04:19) - A discussion about religion, gender, and continuums

(1:19:13) - Who would Neil like to have a conversation with if given the opportunity?

(1:27:36) - Why you should be Ashamed to die

Key Takeaways:

• Living forever comes with its own set of challenges, including resource conservation, terraforming Mars, and the lack of urgency in life. We explore the concept of 'escape velocity of aging,' where the number of years that passes equals the increase in the average life expectancy of civilization, and how it could lead to humanity living forever. However, living forever comes with a bigger existential problem. See, knowing our mortality gives us meaning to our lives and how living forever could potentially lead to a life with no meaning.

• Curiosity and exploration are important. However, most parents have a natural instinct to protect their child may prevent them from learning important lessons in life. Think of how a seemingly mundane event such as a child playing with an egg can become an entire conversation about the natural world, and how the cost of ignorance can be more expensive than the cost of education.

• There are three categories of truth: personal truth, objective truth, and truth that is repeated. We acknowledge personal truths can invoke powerful emotions and even lead to armed conflict. Each one of these truths have their own characteristics that make it true in its own definition.

To learn more about Neil:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neildegrassetyson/

Website: https://neildegrassetyson.com/

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen

In this solo episode of Habits and Hustle, we explore the therapeutic benefits of laughter. We talk about how laughter has an impact on your mental and physical well-being, making it as effective as any other healthy habit you may want to take on.

We also chat about how laughter is a universal language that is spoken by all humans and that is great to create bonds with people.

What we discuss:

00:56: Is laughter medicine?

03:18: How does laughter help us on a physiological level?

04:31: What are the other forms of laughter therapy?

05:21: Can laughter create bonds?

08:35: What are our favorite comedians?

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen

Do you sometimes feel like you’re in the passenger seat of your life?

In this episode of Habits and Hustle, I chat with Jake Steinfeld, aka Body By Jake, about how he used his love and passion for fitness to get into Hollywood and build some of the biggest businesses in the fitness industry ever. For the longest time, Jake felt like life was happening to him - until he didn’t want that to be the case anymore. After he lost a huge opportunity in Hollywood, he decided to venture out on his own and become the king of infomercials in the fitness world. Throughout his entrepreneurial journey, he learned a lot of lessons and got a couple of slaps in the face, but he eventually put himself in the driver’s seat of his own life.

Jake also shares what clients he had when he first started in the fitness industry as a trainer, how he grew his network as he was building his business, and why he considers the infomercial business to be a lot more profitable than the movie industry can ever be.

Jake "Body by Jake" Steinfeld has been an innovator and entrepreneur since creating the personal fitness training industry. He established "Body by Jake" Inc. in 1980 to the benefits of healthy living - and the motivation to get there. Jake also created FiT TV, America's first 24-hour fitness lifestyle television network which he sold to News Corp. He is the founder of Major League Lacrosse and the World Series of Youth Lacrosse. He was also appointed by Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger to serve as Chairman of the California Governor’s Council on Physical Fitness.

What we discuss:

00:33: About Jake

10:14: How did Jake grow up?

18:40: Why did Jake know he wouldn’t make it as a bodybuilder?

23:48: How did Jake get his first client?

28:30: What happened when Jake got approached by a publisher?

31:56: What happened to Jake’s stutter?

36:16: Who thought Jake the most? 

37:32: For how long did Jake train people?

41:03: What are the slaps in the face that Jake got?

46:18: Did Jake ever think of leveraging the relationships he had developed?

50:08: Who else did Jake train?

59:22: Did Jake always consider himself to be entrepreneurial?

01:04:59: How did Jake grow his network?

01:06:51: What did Jake do with the money he acquired from selling his business?

01:09:21: How did Jake get his first advertisers for his magazine?

01:14:08: How did Jake get started with infomercials?

01:21:26: What’s the greatest thing about the infomercial business?

01:23:43: Did Jake own a piece of every company he promoted?

01:28:10: What are Jake’s workouts like?

01:40:40: How can you learn more about Jake?

Key takeaways:

• You shouldn’t be afraid of asking people for favors or chasing any type of business opportunity. Someone telling you “no” is already a good start - it’s halfway towards being a yes. So whenever you are faced with a no, consider yourself to be closer to a “yes” than you’ve ever been and keep pushing.

• If you want to take control of your destiny and be in the driver’s seat of your life, you need to go out and build what it is you want for yourself. If you don’t do that, you will forever be in the passenger seat of your life and waiting for opportunities and disappointments to fall into your lap. 

• Your network is truly your net worth. When you invest a lot of time and energy into developing a relationship with someone — especially people with power and influence — don’t be afraid to ask for a favor when you need one. Just be sure that you can scratch their back in the future if you’re asking them to scratch yours. 

To learn more about Jake:

Website: http://bodybyjake.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialbodybyjake

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen 

Do you have a bit of friction in your relationship?

In this solo episode of Habits and Hustle, we share the 3 hard truths about relationships and what these mean for you. Whether it be trying too hard to be liked, agreeing with everything your partner asks from you, or disliking certain qualities in others, these tend to bring up some hard truths about yourself.

What we discuss:

01:20: 3 hard truths about relationships

02:06: Does trying too hard make someone else not like you?

05:29: What does the quality you dislike in someone else mean about you?

10:51: Do you need a bit of friction in relationships?

14:39: Can what we dislike change throughout time?

Key Takeaways:

• When you try too hard to be liked by others, you may come off as desperate. This will make it a lot harder for the person you're trying to impress to like you.

• If you dislike a quality in someone, it may be because you see it in yourself. Do some self-reflection next time you point something out about your partner.

• Relationships, where there is little to no friction, don't work - you can't always agree on everything at all times and have a really strong bond.

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen

Do you believe you have what it takes?

In this episode of Habits and Hustle, I chat with Robin Arzón about how she built the self-confidence to go after the life she wants and accomplish her ambitious goals. Regardless of how big she was thinking, she always felt like she could get what she wanted as she not only put in the physical work but also put in the effort for her mindset. Through her journaling practice, she asks herself the right questions to prime her mind to believe she is capable of everything she wanted.

Robin also shares how she set boundaries with the things that don't serve her, so she can have time for the things that do. Whether it be to spend time with her family or to focus on more important projects, she explains that she had to learn how to say no and what to say no to.

Robin Arzón is Vice President of Fitness Programming and Head Instructor at Peloton. She believes that sweat transforms lives, and her story is living proof. Formerly a corporate lawyer, Arzón left behind a successful law career to embark on new adventures in the health and wellness space and has since reinvented herself into a 27x marathon and ultra-marathon runner, MasterClass instructor, highly-sought after keynote speaker, 2x New York Times bestselling author, and author of the forthcoming self-empowerment journal, Welcome, Hustler: An Empowerment Journal, publishing September 26, 2023. Most recently, Arzón founded Swagger Society, the first lifestyle membership club in Web3, and a kingdom of hustlers that share a growth mindset and the collective goal of leveling up in life.

What we discuss:

01:27: How connected are the words "hustle" and "confidence"?

03:44: What is Robin's story?

06:36: How did Robin accomplish everything she did at Peloton?

09:00: What does Robin look for in the people she hires?

10:20: How can you find the inner confidence to change careers?

17:04: Can you teach someone self-belief and confidence?

19:24: Did Robin have an idea of what Peloton would bring to her life?

21:02: How many classes does Robin teach in a day?

21:54: What does a day in life look like for Robin?

25:02: How does Robin get everything done?

26:01: How does Robin decide when she is going to say "no"?

27:55: How does Robin balance her career and personal life?

30:26: What is Robin Web3's project about?

35:56: Does Robin think Web3 will be the next big thing?

36:37: What habits does Robin practice daily?

40:12: What is on Robin's vision board?

Key Takeaways:

• Learning how to say no is just as important as figuring out what you're going to say no to. It's not always a question of "What do I have time for" but also a question of "What do I want to do?" Before you add something to your calendar, it should be something you feel like doing, that you can show up as your best self, and that will help you progress towards the end goal. So if it's a mediocre "yes", it's a no.

• Nurturing your self-belief and building confidence starts by asking yourself the right questions. When you are honest with yourself and set out what you are capable of, what you can do, and why nothing is stopping you other than your mind, it becomes a lot easier to believe in yourself and move forward. Through the actions you take and the experience you gain, you will eventually build up your confidence. After all, confidence can only be built through action.

• Your daily habits are how you prime your brain to accomplish everything you have set out for yourself. Because once the brain is set on a goal, the body will follow. So by adopting daily practices like journaling, visualization, and other habits of this sort, you are prepping yourself mentally to go for everything you want in life.

To learn more about Robin

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robinnyc/?hl=en

Website: https://www.robinarzon.com/

Book: https://www.robinarzon.com/welcome-hustler

My links:

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/

Instagram: @therealjencohen