Heart of Man | Men's Leadership, Relationships and Intimacy

Every man has the capacity to cultivate a depth of presence that commands and quiets a room...

A clear confidence with heartful structure and passionate depth...

And a conscious engagement with purpose that honors both doing and being...

An embodied wildness that transcends the walls of a home and the constraints of a busy schedule...

We are taught to achieve outward "success," but no matter how well you do, eventually you'll reach a point where something is still missing, where all that you have achieved is simply not enough.

Reclaiming what is missing requires a commitment to a new journey, a deeper exploration than most men are willing or able to make on their own...

These are the words you will find on Eli Buren's website, who is our latest guest on the podcast. These words beautifully describe the essence of what Eli brings through his work by leading groups and individuals into their core being, where pristine presence, powerful passion, and true purpose naturally emerge.

I first became exposed to Eli and his work at the beginning of this year by attending his 3-month Men's Container, "The Dojo," where we were guided into in-depth teachings on martial forms, deep meditation, and other embodied presence practices. These ultimately supported us in developing our capacity to meet our lives and the world with cultivated strength, sensitivity, openness, and depth.

From my first experience with Eli, I was awe-inspired by his capacity to command a space while also sharpening each individual in the room towards deeper presence, depth, and consciousness – so it's an absolute honor to have him on the show today...

This conversation came at the completion of the Dojo and served as an exploration around the importance of cultivating presence and depth, how this may support us in our lives, and what it actually means to lead our lives with a sense of devotion and agency.

We also had an interesting exploration around expanding range – whether it's from softness to fierce strength, fluidity to structure, or play to responsibility among many other valuable topics

It was an absolute pleasure for me to have this conversation with Eli, someone I see as a dear teacher and mentor, and I am confident that you will receive a lot of value from our interview together.

Website: https://eliburen.com/

Join Eli's upcoming 3-Month Program "The Dojo": https://eliburen.com/dojo/

Instragram: https://www.instagram.com/eliburen/?hl=de

Connect with Alex:

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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

Email: [email protected]

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Tara Meegan is the Creative Director and a Lead Teacher with the Embodied Awakening Academy, a globally recognized Tantra school leading over 20,000 students worldwide in the realms of emotional, relational, and sexual mastery.

For almost a decade, Tara has been devoted to living the philosophy of Tantra in every aspect of her life, passionately sharing this knowledge alongside her lived experiences.

Now, you may be wondering, what is Tantra, and why is it valuable?

Before I offer my take on it, I want to acknowledge that I asked myself the very same question when I was first exposed to Tantra over two years ago. At the time, I was seeking deeper resolution in my emotional, relational, and sexual life and it was in my very first introductory workshop where I met Tara. This ultimately propelled me into a deep journey over the past years into this field of work.

As I see it, you may consider Tantra as a philosophy or way of living that embraces every aspect of the human experience and seeks to create a harmonious relationship with it—this includes areas where we may hold deep shame, fear, and insecurities, but also our desires, needs, and longings. Tantra can support us in working with these aspects of ourselves, rather than keeping them hidden away.

I can confidently say that this philosophy has provided me with many valuable insights, among other things, and I was excited to bring Tara on board— who's now become aa dear friend and someone I deeply respect in this field.

I've always admired Tara's devotion to this path and the way she embodies the feminine principle. And while I do see differences in our work, I honor them as complementary serving a similar purpose.

In this conversation, Tara and I dive into what Tantra means to her and explore some of the core tenets that are particularly predominant in the Embodied Awakening Academy. From there, we discuss some of the difficulties that Tara observes among the male clients she serves, offering an in-depth roadmap for reconnecting with ourselves emotionally and cultivating resilience. Additionally, she shares some great insights on relationships and sexuality towards the end of our conversation—insights that I have greatly benefited from and that have served me well in my own life.

Connect with Tara:

Website: https://embodiedawakeningacademy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tarameegan/?hl=de

Find Out More about the "Embodied Awakening Academy: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedawakeningacademy/?hl=de

Listen to the "Love, Sex & Freedom" Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5kj89Q668brjHTY78pybgU?si=43254fe2c5d24bab

Connect with Alex:

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

Email: [email protected]

Chris Bale is an internationally known Energy Worker, Qi Gong Teacher and Intimacy Mentor.

In his work, Chris supports and activates deep transformations in the lives of men and women and has been doing so for over a decade. By now Chris has worked with thousands of individuals from all over the planet from many different walks of life.

As he says, he didn't choose this work but rather he was drafted into it..

His love for the „spiritual“ began rather early when he was drawn to study the energetic arts at the ripe age of 16. Once he left School in Ireland, he pursued an extensive education in many different modalities of healing including traditional Chinese medicine, acupuncture, medical qigong, reiki and sexual alchemy.

Alongside that, Chris has spent many years dedicated to his own internal work, unravelling many of his own inner workings and conditionings. This eventually led him to turn his attention towards assisting others with this same process. His deep experiential understandings of energetics and how humans orient themselves on a deeper level, forms the foundation of what he offers today.

The conversation that we had was refreshingly raw and I appreciated Chris's balance between being unapologetic while simultaneously deeply compassionate.

Having applied his simple, yet very direct teachings into my life, I've learned to appreciate Chris's directness and his capacity to speak to things boldly, all while serving a greater purpose such as truth, love and responsibility.

In my conversation with Chris we lay out the challenges that he sees among men at our current times, speaking to the importance of being connected to our emotionality as men while not being carried away by it. We as well have a fascinating conversation around this idea of the "Mother Wound", how women can support their men on their journey of growth including some of the pitfalls that Chris sees, among various other topics.

To close it off all I'll say buckle up for this conversation everybody and be ready to have your mind blown...

Connect with Chris:

Website: https://www.awakenedintent.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisbaleawakened/?hl=en

Read Chris's Blog Post that we addressed on the show: https://www.awakenedintent.com/blog/spiritual-bullshit

Connect with Alex:

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

"THE UNCIVILIZED MAN... Is Unapologetically Male. Dangerous but not a danger. Makes still his mind, makes savage his body. Knows his gifts grow in the garden of his wounds. Practices presence and performance. Honors the men before him, the women who bore him, and the children who will inherit his Earth. Has equal and easy access to his head, heart, and balls. Lives, by the rule — there are no rules — but there is responsibility. Loves fiercely, openly, and without reservation. Knows strength without love is tyranny. Knows love without strength is victimhood."

These are the words you will find on the „about me“ page of the website „Man Uncivilized, created by the founder Traver Boehm.

Traver is a man who knows men deeply. And much of the wisdom and insights he imparts to other men actually from his own lived experiences, particularly the breakdown moment that flipped his life upside down and catapulted him on his path of transformation. In a mere period of 24 hours, his wife and his business partner at the time both decided to go their separate ways – resulting in the loss of his marriage, business partnership, and business.

Dumbstruck by what had happened, Traver knew the only way he could overcome this loss was by consciously moving through it.

He created a program for himself called the "Year to Live Project," where he deliberately lived an entire year as if it was his last. And in that year among other things, he volunteered in hospice, spent 28 days in a dark room, and completed a one-month outdoor survival course. Eventually his own journey of growth led him to birth "Man Uncivilized" – one of the fastest-growing men's movements in the world where his mission is "to stop the unnecessary suffering in men in order to stop the suffering caused by men."

I first became exposed to Traver's work three years ago when I read his book "Man Uncivilized." At the time, I was on a deep journey of self-discovery, exploring what it even means to be a man, but also how I could integrate the aspects of myself that I had locked away, such as my assertiveness, anger, grief, shame, and desires, among many other things.

Traver's work has been absolutely pivotal for me in my own journey, and it was an honor to come full circle and invite Traver to "Heart of Man."

As I see it, this conversation deeply lived up to the anticipation I had for it. We delved deeply into Traver's personal journey and extracted some of the deepest lessons, as well as what helped him move past rock bottom. And from there, we transitioned into our conversation around men and masculinity, diving into various areas such as moving through pain as men, relationships, and sexuality. This has been an absolutely powerful deep dive – and I can't wait for all of you to dive in.

Connect with Traver:

Website:

https://www.manuncivilized.com/

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/?hl=de

Interested in moving past the "Nice Guy Mask"? Join Traver's "Kill The Nice Guy" Course: https://www.manuncivilized.com/killtheniceguy

Read Traver's book "Man Uncivilized": https://www.amazon.com/Man-UNcivilized-hate-youll-book-ebook/dp/B088KTC56G

Listen to Traver's Podcast "The UNcivilized Podcast": https://open.spotify.com/show/7IVMtZqO1WwgYKxKvSVqqK?si=-YyPDUBiTAynnBKJbTgfwA

Connect with Alex:

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

„Boys are born, men are made“...

These are the words you will find on the front page of the website „Embodied Masculine“, created by founder Amir Khalighi.

Around 2 years ago, I sensed a deep urge in me to seek out mentors in the fields of „men's work“ and „embodiment. But it wasn't just that I wanted to immerse myself in their teachings. There was a deep knowing inside me that I wanted to be initiated. I wanted to step into the next chapter of my life. One of deeper empowerment, maturity, and embracing who I am in my fullness as a man.

It was around this time I was exposed to Amir's work which began with me attending his weekly embodiment circle – an immersive experience, where we were guided through various different themes each week. And for one and a half years this was the place I went to connect more deeply with other men, to metabolize and integrate the experiences that were still keeping me bound, to move through grief and heartbreak and step into a deeper range of expression & groundedness.

This led me to participate in a 6 month facilitator program last year, culminating to a transformational retreat at the end of last year in Mount Shasta, California.

For those unfamiliar with his work work, Amir Khalighi is a teacher, speaker, men's coach and the founder of "Embodied Masculine".

He was initiated into working with men almost 30 years ago, after overcoming his own struggles with drug & alcohol addiction. In 2018, Amir received a clear vision to make his work with men his sole purpose, which led to the creation of „Embodied Masculine“

His teachings & trainings have shaped men worldwide – supporting them in the primary areas of empowerment, connection & purpose.

A few months back, Amir informed me that he will be in Bali for a vacation and I knew this was the right moment for us to finally have our interview after almost a year of hosting „Heart Of Man“.

In my view, this conversation did not disappoint. It was an in-depth exploration of Amir's journey to becoming the man he is today. A recurring theme is the idea of being connected to a vision, purpose and power greater than ourselves.

What I've always deeply admired in Amir is his devotion, love and depth of clarity of why he's here on this planet – and I am confident that this understanding comes through strongly in our conversation.

Website: https://embodiedmasculine.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/khalighi/?hl=de

Join Amir's weekly "Men's Embodiment Circle": https://embodiedmasculine.com/mens-group-mens-circle-mens-weekly-embodiment-circle/

Interested in becoming a Facilitator? Here's some info to Amir's upcoming "Transpersonal Facilitator Training Program": https://embodiedmasculine.com/transpersonal-facilitator-training-program/

Connect with Alex:

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

Linzey Beister is a somatic psychotherapist and mentor for men who supports men in mastering emotional intelligence so they can live a life of passion, presence and play.

He's also the co-founder of „Embodied Union“ with his partner supporting couples cultivate mastery in the areas of intimacy and relationships.

Linzey and I initially connected through a mutual friend and immediately hit it off due to our shared passion for men's work & relationships. What stood out to me about Linzey isn't just his knowledge on these subjects but the palpable sense that everything he discussed came from an embodiment of his own lived experiences.

His initiation into manhood began early as he became a father at the ripe age of 21. Throughout this time he's also been navigating the transformative fires of intimate relationship through his almost 20-year relationship with his ex wife – which became a powerful access point of conversation in this interview. We also delved into his journey of exploring polyamory for almost five years towards the end of their relationship. – something I was eager to hear about as it hasn't been point a of conversation on the show yet. And in this insiders look, I had the great opportunity to hear about the challenges, successes and lessons that were learned along the way.

Before we came together for our interview, I want to name that Linzey had offered me the chance to experience the Hakomi method, a psychosomatic modality in which he is trained in for the past 5 years. And let me tell you – the experience I had with him was absolutely profound. I share about this in our interview together where I recounted some of my deep lessons around the importance of rest, receiving nourishment & filling my own cup.

This has truly been an incredibly, enjoyable conversation diving into the deep end of exploring subjects such as rites of passages, relationships, sexuality, men's development & how we can step into deeper acceptance of ourselves. I can't wait for all of you to drop into this powerful conversation.

Connect with Linzey Beister:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/linzeyb/?hl=de

Listen to Linzey's Podcast "Embodied Union": https://open.spotify.com/show/5ZLtwTBMMDmY9S7g0RkKyL?si=1ee659cba58f4add

Connect with Alex:

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

GS. Youngblood has been a facilitator, men's coach, and student in the field of men's work for over 15 years.

He is also the author of the widely popular books "The Masculine in Relationships" and "The Art of Embodiment for Men". Today, his mission is to teach men in relationships how to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core.

Through his lens of masculine leadership, he draws on principles from a wide variety of fields such as authentic relating, psychology, martial arts, tango, meditation, and even BDSM.

His writings and teachings are filtered through the laboratory of his personal and clients' experiences, including the successes and failures, highlighting what does and what doesn't work.

I came across GS's books 2 years ago as I was moving through a shattering break-up, and I was deeply impressed by his in-depth knowledge in the realms of relationships & men's development.

I found his approach to be practical and tactical appreciating the depth of clarity it provided as I continue navigating the at times murky waters of romantic relationships.

In this interview, GS and I focus on the principles of the masculine blueprint, a 3-part framework focusing on responsiveness, creating structure, and providing emotional safety. We also dive deeply into a clear understanding of the popular emerging field of embodiment – explaining what it is and why it is valuable, specifically in relationships.

The conversation that followed was incredibly engaging, fun and insightful and I trust that you all are going to receive a lot of value from it.

Connect with GS Youngblood

Website: https://www.gsyoungblood.com/

Sign up for "The Relationship Repair Bootcamp": https://gsyoungblood.com/bootcamp

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gsyoungbloodmir/?hl=en

Read "The Masculine in Relationship": https://www.amazon.com/Masculine-Relationship-Blueprint-Inspiring-Devotion/dp/1699443386

Connect with Alex

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

Joshua Michael Wenner is an entrepreneur, veteran, and emotional resilience expert. Over the past 20 years, he has dedicated himself to growing companies and supporting others in maximizing their potential. He is also the founder of the Emotional Resilience Training (ERT).

Following the loss of his brother to a heroin overdose nearly two decades ago, Joshua embarked on a journey of healing navigating through his own grief and heartbreak. This led him to interview numerous experts in the fields of grief and trauma, culminating in an upcoming documentary called "The Gift of Grief." Through this process, Joshua acquired tools, insights, and awareness about loss and trauma, which enabled him to rediscover the joy in life.

Guided by his experiences Joshua initiated Emotional Resiliency Training retreats for men, teaching them to embrace grief and incorporate somatic-based methods to express anger and sadness in effective ways. Today, his coaching, curriculum, and frameworks are utilized to assist high-achievers, successful entrepreneurs, men, first responders, veterans, and individuals dealing with extreme stress and trauma.

When I first encountered Joshua's work, I was deeply moved by his personal story of loss and his journey toward finding meaning amidst grief and heartbreak. After listening to him speak, I could truly feel his well-rounded and embodied wisdom in various realms that I've been exploring for a number of years, such as grief and nervous system regulation work, men's work, and relationships.

In this interview, Joshua and I delve deeply into all of those subjects, and how they're interconnected. This is a conversation I highly recommend you listen to the end, as it provides invaluable insights and personal experiences into loss, grief, relationships and personal growth..

Connect with Joshua Wenner:

Website: https://joshuawenner.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en

Learn more about Joshua's Men's Leadership Organization: https://www.k4men.com/

Connect with Alex Lehmann: https://alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured

Email: [email protected]

Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me (1 one more spot available at present time):

https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Carolina Zavala is a relationship & intimacy mentor, primarily supporting women and couples, to overcome relational blocks and insecurities, so they can experience the depth of intimacy and connection that they truly long for.

Now, this is a special episode and the reason is because after 20 published episode, I am thrilled and honored to finally bring our first female guest on the podcast. And I couldn't be more delighted to have Carolina on.

Carolina is a friend here on the island of the Bali, and one of the things that's deeply connected both of us is our personal fascination around the topic of relationships.

And considering that Carolina primarily works with women, whereas I mostly with men around relationships, I thought it be valuable for us to come together and engage in a discussion from our individual perspectives.

What I was longing to provide for all the men listening in, is a sneak peak into the mind and heart of a woman who's dedicated her life to this path, with the hope of creating more clarity on how to navigate the at times murky waters of relationships.

But this conversation isn't solely for our brothers. This one as I see it is for everybody who longs to understand how to create the love that they truly desire.

As I listened back to this conversation in preparation to bringing it on the podcast, I came to enjoy the flexible and playful dynamic between Carolina and I – and I hope it will offer a refreshing, new flavor to this podcast.

In this conversation, Carolina and I cover following topics:

Connect with Carolina Zavala:

Website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.carolinazavala.com/en

Instagram (English account): https://www.instagram.com/itscarolinazavala/?hl=de

Instagram (Spanish account):

https://www.instagram.com/mujerfullpower/?hl=de

Connect with Alex Lehmann

Website: ⁠⁠https://alexlehmann.co/⁠⁠

Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw==⁠⁠

YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast⁠⁠

Email: [email protected]

Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: ⁠⁠https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Justin Patrick Pierce is a spiritual intimacy teacher, relationship mentor & the co-author of the widely acclaimed books „The awakened woman's guide to everlasting love“ and „Playing with Fire“.

As the founder of "The Yoga of Intimacy," Justin has dedicated his life to guiding individuals towards deeper connections & intimacy with themselves and others.

2 years ago, when I was diving deep into the topic of Relationships & Intimacy, I was deeply impacted by the teachings of polarity, that refer to these opposing forces commonly referred to as masculine or feminine energetics, doing or being energy, alpha or omega, and these were widely popularized by teachers such as David Deida.

When I first became exposed to Justin's work alongside his Wife, Londin Angel Winters, I deeply appreciated their flexible approach to these teachings, where in the past I've found them to be too prescriptive towards how I and my partner was supposed to be.

In his work, Justin commonly refers to these expressions as "Alpha" and "Omega," which can be seen as different energetic ways of operating. He has popularized the term "energetic agility" in relationships, speaking to our ability to adapt to different expressions depending on what the moment is calling for.

I wanted to bring Justin along to speak to the essence of his teachings, and we ended up Immersing ourselves in an exploration of the challenges he sees among men and how they can be supported in the realm of relationships.

Speaking into his latest book „Playing With Fire“, Justin and I went deep into this conversation around desire and how we're able to create, and even sustain desire in the long-term in our romantic partnerships.

It has truly been an honor to sit with Justin for the hour and a half we had together, and the conversation did not disappoint, being filled with transformative insights and exploration. If you are a man or a woman who would like to deepen their connection & desire in relationship, this one's for you.

In this conversation, Justin and I explore:

• What is the "Yoga of Intimacy"
• The importance of Integrity
• What is "alpha" & "omega" and how do these apply in relationships?
• How we can release the grasp from the inner judge
• Why nothing that you do, acquire and achieve can ever satiate the innate desire for freedom
• One practice that we can do to deepen our connection to ourselves and our partners
• How we can create deeper desire in relationship
• How we can become more trustable with our desire
• How we use desire to deepen trust in our interactions

Connect with Justin Patrick Pierce:

Website: ⁠⁠https://www.justinpatrickpierce.com/

Yoga of Intimacy: https://yogaofintimacy.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinpatrickpierce/?hl=de

Read Justin's widely acclaimed co-authored book "Playing with Fire": https://a.co/d/0g8ovHdB

Read The Awakened Woman’s Guide to Everlasting Love: https://a.co/d/0fGmJZAA

Join Justin's Live Online Group Calls:  https://www.patreon.com/c/yogaofintimacy

Connect with Alex Lehmann

Website: ⁠https://alexlehmann.co/⁠

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_?igsh=YzVkODRmOTdmMw==⁠

YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast⁠

Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me: ⁠https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching