How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Helping Your Children Deal with Grief from the Divorce with Sara Hadgraft


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Meet Sara Hadgraft

Pete’s out with Covid this week so Seth’s flying solo, but it was an important conversation we wanted to get out to you. Seth talks with Sara Hadgraft from Sparrow Counseling. She’s a licensed marriage and family therapist and a licensed professional counselor who guides families through the pain and disappointment of divorce. It’s a difficult process, but it’s important to learn how to talk to your kids so they don’t feel that it’s there fault that you’re getting divorced.

Sara has a list – “7 WAYS TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN GRIEVE YOUR DIVORCE” – that Seth references. These points are important tools you can use as you talk with your own children. What’s more important to realize, though, is that every kid is different. Every family is different. They all require you to do the work to figure out how to help each one.

That’s also important to remember – you will handle your four-year-old differently than your 11-year-old differently than your 17-year-old. And it’s also not a quick fix. This is help you’ll be providing for years as they grow up and become adults.

So tune in to this conversation. There’s a lot of helpful information in here that you can use as you create those conversations with your children about your own divorce.

Links & Notes

  • Sara’s Blog: “7 WAYS TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN GRIEVE YOUR DIVORCE”
  • Sara’s Blog: “10 TIPS FOR COPARENTS FROM A COPARENTING COUNSELOR”
  • Sparrow Counseling
  • Sara and Sparrow Counseling on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube
  • Schedule a consult with Seth
  • Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
  • (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
  • (00:26) - Meet Sara Hadgraft
  • (01:57) - Her Background
  • (04:02) - Different Ages, Different Conversations
  • (06:22) - Perspective
  • (08:58) - The Right Word
  • (13:25) - Having a Narrative
  • (15:21) - Being on the Same Page
  • (17:09) - Kids Figure It Out
  • (18:07) - Find Time to Play
  • (20:22) - Being Ready in the Moment
  • (21:58) - Do the Work
  • (23:34) - 7 Ways to Help Your Children Grieve Your Divorce
  • (24:53) - A Culture of Vulnerability
  • (28:06) - Complaints About the Other Parent
  • (30:43) - Telling the Truth Without the Blame
  • (34:01) - Be Patient
  • (36:46) - Your Job, Not Theirs
  • (38:13) - Wrapping Up
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