Hope For Wives

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Listen now: Today, we are continuing our discussion around, "How to Make Time for Healing." In the last episode, we walked through how she can care for herself through the first phase of healing, safety and stability. Our incredible guest, Casey Allison, is back with us today! In our questions now, we will focus on the second stage of healing, remembering and mourning. We Will be Discussing:

1.What are some experiences busy women have when they enter into grief?

2. What are some practical tools we can offer women in this season?

3. What hope can we leave our listeners today?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Episode 20: Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Through Grief

• Come Awake with Coach Casey Allison

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Listen now: Today, we are discussing how to make time for healing, especially when you are a busy, maybe you're a mom with a full-time career, or a woman who runs her own small business, or a woman who has a passion for volunteering. We Will be Discussing:

1. What are some experiences busy women have when first discovery rocks her world?
2. What are some first steps for her to consider to move toward stability and safety?
3. What hope can we leave our listeners today?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Come Awake with Casey Allison

• So Help Me God by Benjamin Hastings

Scripture references:

1 Peter 5:7

Romans 5:3-5

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Listen now:

Today, Lyschel has a conversation with Kim Hansen Petroni around the question of divorce. Kim is an APSATS certified partner coach and has experienced divorce. She is in the process of becoming a certified divorce coach.

We Will be Discussing:

• What should a wife ask herself when she's struggling around the decision of divorce?
• What about the tension between the grief/the emotions and the next right thing?
• What are some free or cost-friendly legal resources?
• What are some free or cost-friendly resources for women who have already divorced?
• What is the number one thing a woman needs to heal?
• What does God really say about divorce?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• To find all of Kim's resources and blog posts, check out her website, Coaching Hope 4 U.

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Listen now: Today, Pam and I are finishing our conversation around "How Do I Know That I'm Healing." (Lyschel still isn't with us, but she will be back soon! We have a practical conversation, about things you can do to assess are you healing or stuck? We Will be Discussing:

1. What can she practically do to help her move forward in her healing and recovery?
2. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• Writing to Heal by James Pennebaker, Ph.D

• Clearing Cognitive Distortions by Pam Blizzard

  22 Examples of Cognitive Distortions and Worksheet from Positive Psychology

Scripture references:

2 Corinthians 10:5

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Listen now: Today, Pam and I are discussing, "How Do I Know I'm Healing?" (Lyschel isn't here because she is taking a very small sabbatical because her plate is very full at the moment. She will be back soon, promise! I know we will all miss her!) Back to our topic, "How Do I Know I'm healing?" sometimes, in the worst of the pain or when we have a day full of triggers it can feel like we are going to be raw and seeping for the rest of our lives. We want to give you validate your experience and give perspective on how healing happens. We Will be Discussing:

1. What can a woman experience that makes her feel stuck?
2. What questions can she ask herself to assess if she is in fact stuck?
3. What hope can we leave our listeners?

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today we are continuing our discussion around, "When Your Husband Keeps Lying," adding practical tools to care for yourself while navigating continued deception. So, the scenario is, she keeps discovering his deception (and possibly it is not deception about his acting out behaviors, it can be deception about anything), whether it's through words or actions. We Will be Discussing:

1. What are some things she should ask herself?
2. What are some practical strategies to help her stay sane?
3. What is some hope we can leave her?

Resources mentioned in this show:

• For Hope Redefined's small group listing and retreat information go to: Hope Redefined

• For Strong Wives' Sexual Clarity Class go to: Sexual Clarity Class

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today we discuss, "When Your Husband Keeps Lying." We understand that experiencing constant deception is not only emotionally exhausting, but can keep us in a state of complex trauma. . We Discuss:

1. Let's talk about what women are desiring when it comes to honesty in their marriage relaitonship.
2. What is complex trauma and how does continual deception promote it?
3. What hope can we leave?

Resources

Episode 6: Boundaries for Partners of People with Unwanted Problematic Sexual Behavior

Episode 21: Q&A - Boundaries and Why do I Stay?

Building True Intimacy by Dan Drake and Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today, Bonny continues her conversation with Jessica Eidens, a betrayed families specialist.

We Discuss:

1. How does a betrayed partner (wife) navigate when the person with SA has been objectifying their own child (not in a physical manner, just in the brain).
2. What does a healthy family in recovery look like?
3. What hope can we leave our friends?

Resources

• You can find Jessica through her practice's website: https://www.eidenstherapy.com/jessica-eidens-lmhc-cmhs-csat-ccps

• "Come As You Are," Emily Nagoski, book.

• "Before the Sex Talk," by Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, book.

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Our previous episode, "What about the kids?" is one of our most downloaded episodes. This tells us there is a need for more insight and understanding around how problematic sexual behavior affects the family.

So, today, I'd like to welcome Jessica Eidens, a betrayed families specialist.

We Discuss:

1. What are the red flags children exhibit from the dynamics of a marriage in conflict over problematic sexual behavior?
2. What are some tools for children to learn how to navigate their emotions?
3. What is a family disclosure and when is it appropriate?

Resources

• You can find Jessica through her practice's website: https://www.eidenstherapy.com/jessica-eidens-lmhc-cmhs-csat-ccps

• Big Little Feelings

• Gottman Emotion Coaching

• Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child by Dr. John Gottman

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With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

Today, we continue our discussion around how a wife can heal even when her husband is not in good emotional and behavioral health, yet. We will be focusing on practical tools and ideas you can use to care for yourself and move into personal growth in spite of her husband's lag in recovery. We Discuss:

1. Why should a wife focus on herself in this season?
2. What are some ways a wife can care for herself in this tough season? (Self-assess your safety, get into a support group for validation and education, do your own personal therapy work for childhood trauma, join a boundaries group if boundaries are hard for you)
3. What hope can we leave our listeners?

Resources

Episode 8: Self Care with Practical Ideas

Episode 33: Why are Cognitive Distortions Important to Understand when Healing from Betrayal Trauma?

Episode 34: How Do We Navigate or Heal From Cognitive Distortions

Pam's Clarity and Peace with Boundaries Group

Lyschel's Hope Redefined Boundaries Group

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