Self-Helpless

How Confidence, Culture & Self-Worth Shape Success with Big Asian Energy’s John Wang


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Delanie Fischer chats with John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, about confidence, culture, and the power of conversation. They unpack how cultural conditioning, fear, and the desire to be "good enough” shape identity and self-worth. John shares the lessons he learned from his year-long experiment in radical honesty—during which he came clean to friends and family about past lies and committed to always speaking his mind in every interaction—and reflects on how this experience led to deeper connections and a new way of being.


Discussed in this episode: 

  • What Is Charisma, Gravitas, and Executive Presence? 
  • Biases, Stereotypes, Discrimination, and Coded Language 
  • Asian American Culture and the Workplace 
  • Fear of Conflict, Confrontation, and Avoidance 
  • The 1 Year of Radical Honesty Experiment
  • 7 Adaptive Patterns: Achiever, Fixer, Chameleon, Charmer, Commander, Rebel, Invisible One 
  • The Belief Behind Your Behavior and The Fear (and Illusion) of Death 
  • Rejection as Redirection to Alignment + Finding Community and Belonging 
  • The Achievement Monster & How To Get off the Treadmill 
  • Internal vs. External Validation & When Affirmations Don’t Work (Try This)
  • Self-Worth and Creating Your Own Metric for Success 
  • High-Context vs. Low-Context Conversation 
  • Self-Diminishment vs. Respecting Cultural Norms 
  • The 6 Levels of Mitigating Language (Great for Baby Steps!)
  • Saying No, Giving Direct Feedback & Becoming More Assertive 
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