How a child feels in their very first months of school can set the tone for their academic and social future, says speech and language therapist Christian Wright. He gives tips on preparing them for their first day.

How a child feels in their very first months of school can set the tone for their academic and social future, says speech and language therapist Christian Wright.

On their first day, it's a really good thing if they already know someone else who will be in their class, he tells Kathryn Ryan.

"Research shows that children transitioning into a classroom where they already knew a child are significantly better off - they feel a sense of belonging."

If they're lucky enough to know someone starting on the same day, Wright suggests arranging a few playdates with the other child ahead of time and perhaps planning with their caregiver to arrive at the same time that day.

A child's relationship with their teacher is the second biggest influence on their school start.

New entrant teachers have one of the most difficult and important roles in the school, and those who do the job will take time to get to know the child - work on building a strong rapport, identify their learning level and focus on their strengths, Wright says.

A child's learning and wellbeing will be significantly affected if they lack friends at school, and those who start out with skills in turn-taking, co-operative play, empathy and the ability to express feelings (i.e. 'I felt angry when...' or 'I felt sad when..') will be at an advantage.

It can be helpful to make a calendar to countdown the days for the week before the first day at school, he says. A week is enough for their sense of time.

He also suggests taking photos when you do a school visit before the first day.

Ask the teacher if you can take a photo of them and also take photos of the classroom, where the child will hang their bag, where the toilet is and where you'll pick them up. You can put these photos into a book that you'll look at together in the lead-up to the first day.

On the school visit also do some playing with your child - both on the playground and in other parts of the school, i.e. 'Race me to the library, race me to your classroom, race me to the toilets'.

Before their first day, familiarise them with concepts like 'mat', 'desk', 'pencil' and 'counting'.

On the day, arriving 10-15 minutes before the school bell rings is ideal.

If you arrive half an hour before the bell, the child will get too used to you being there, Wright says…

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