This week on How Not To Suck At Divorce, we're having wine at 2:00. We're also listening to you, the best audience ever. Many of you have asked us to break down the steps to get a divorce so today we are diving in.

Listen in to find out about the 10 main steps needed to get divorced.

We will answer:

How many lawyers should you meet with before deciding to move forward with one?

What information do you need for the financial affidavit?

Who should you consult when filling out the parenting agreement?

What's it like that final day in court when your divorce is finalized?

Plus, Andrea shares her own story of getting divorced over zoom during the pandemic with her kids e-learning in the next room. Spoiler...it was bizarre.

We LOVE hearing from you so please dm us with your questions, stories or if you just need to be seen and heard.

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Andrea on Instagram

You can also reach us on hownottosuckatdivorce.com

You got this, and we got you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

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Out of all the podcasts in all the world, we’re in the top 5%! What?! How did this happen?! Thank you so much to all of our listeners, especially the 6 of you in Wyoming.

Today's episode is like divorce meets CSI as we welcome Tracy Coenen. You may have seen her on CNBC On the Money, CBS, NBC, and in the Wall Street Journal. Tracy is a certified public accountant, certified in financial forensics, a master analyst and fraud investigator. If you're wondering what all this means, Tracy finds money. Money that has disappeared that you want back.

Tracy breaks down:

-When is hiring a fraud investigator or forensics accountant necessary?

-Common red flags like when a spouse is having an affair.

-How to trust your gut during your divorce.

-What to do if your spouse is telling you “we have no money”.

-If you should be concerned about the spouse who is quiet about finances or has changed passwords.

-If you should you confront your spouse about missing money or being suddenly locked out of accounts.

-What is a lifestyle analysis?

-Would Tracy rather wave a red flaeg or a white flaeg?

You will also hear Tracy's story about the infamous Instagram investigation.

This is a don't-miss episode for sure.

Tracy knows not everyone can afford to hire a private forensic accountant or investigator so she has developed a tool people can use to do it themselves.

Be sure to sign up to be notified when Tracy’s tool launches at sequenceinc.com

You can also connect with Tracy on LinkedIn

Slide into our dms and tell us what you thought of today's episode! Have you found red flags with your finances?

@theandrearappapport

@divorceattorneychicago

Hownottosuckatdivorce.com

I know anything having to do with finances during a divorce is scary, but remember, you got this and we got you.

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Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Today we’re doing something a little different; we’re answering listener questions. And they are good. This podcast is for you and so we love when you dm us your questions and stories. Thank you for being vulnerable with us.

Just a few of the questions we answer are:

How do you support a friend who is going through a divorce when you’re happily married?

What’s the best way to organize your documents for divorce?

How do you answer the dreaded question from acquaintances “how are you”?

We’ll also hear one more way Andrea sucked at her divorce. Learn from her mistake-this is a don’t miss episode.

Wyoming, are you out there? Slide into our dms!

@divorceattorneychicago

@theandrearappaport

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

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We are back with part two with the fabulous Dr. Randy Heller. If you missed part one, you'll definitely want to listen to last week's episode first.

Today we're talking about how to co-parent effectively and why co-parenting should be viewed as a business relationship.

Dr. Heller answers:

How is a family therapist different than a regular therapist?

How can we co-parent effectively?

How can we protect kids during a divorce?

Will kids be ok if we get divorced?

How can I get my spouse or ex to agree to family therapy?

What if my spouse or ex is a narcissist or has bipolar disorder?

How to find a family therapist in your area.

The best ways to manage the business of co-parenting.

We love hearing from you so slip into our dms!

Andrea Rappaport

Morgan L. Stogsdill

Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller:

familynetworkflorida.com

familynetworknewyork.com

646-717-6718 (NY)

954-236-4490 (FL and CT)

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Need Extra Cash?

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This week we are excited to welcome Dr. Randy Heller to the show. Dr. Heller is a licensed mental health therapist, collaborative divorce therapist and a mediator. A true unicorn.

Today we're discussing the three conversations Dr. Heller recommends people have before filing for a divorce. We'll also be addressing the biggest concern parents have, "will the kids be ok?"

We love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms @theandrearappaport and @divorceattorneychicago

Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller:

familynetworkflorida.com

familynetworknewyork.com

646-717-6718 (NY)

954-236-4490 (FL and CT)

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Thank you for 10k downloads (11.8k to be exact)! Your support means the world to us.

Today Morgan and Andrea are stuck in a snowstorm talking to wealth advisor Franco La Marca.

Earlier this week Andrea posted on Instagram about financial abuse in a marriage and throughout the divorce process. So many people reached out sharing similar stories and many women said they didn't realize what they were experiencing was actually financial abuse.

So they decided to have the financial expert himself, Franco La Marca, join in on the conversation and share 3 essential things everyone should be doing to protect their finances.

We would love to hear from you after today's episode. Please feel free to message Morgan @divorceattorneychicago and Andrea @theandrearappaport.

You can find Franco La Marca at:

www.bernstein.com

[email protected]

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Need Extra Cash?

Why not see how much Worthy can get you for your ring? It's a risk free process- and Worthy works with you to get the best price possible. Get an extra $100 if your ring sells for more than $1500.

Warning: Our favorite F bomb is dropped at 8:52 (thanks Rob!)

Just in time for Valentine's Day, Andrea and Morgan are talking love! The love you had, the love for your kids, the excitement of future love and the love for dress shirt on top/pjs on bottom.

We are so excited to welcome our special guest Rob Roseman from the popular podcast WTF Divorce. Rob gets really real with us as he talks about his own divorce. Rob hasn't spoken publicly about his experience and we're so honored he chose to share his story with us.

Morgan, Andrea and Rob discuss how you decide if you should stick it out for the kids, how checking your ego at the door can help you have an amicable divorce where the kids thrive and the truth about what dating is like in the aftermath.

Where to find Rob:

WTF Divorce podcast

Insta: @wtfdivorce

https://www.wtfdivorce.com/

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Need Extra Cash?

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From the floor of Morgan's son's closet, Andrea and Morgan toast Andrea's grandma, talk olive martinis, and how not to suck at divorce.

This week they're discussing the importance of taking your time when you're going through the divorce process so you're not reacting from an amped up mental space. You are going to hit a point where you just want to wrap it up because you're exhausted, but there are parts of a divorce that are irreversible and you don't want to make mistakes. So take a breath.

Don't forget the SUCK acronym:

Set aside an hour before you respond. Don't react.

Utilize help. You don't have to go this alone. Lean on your lawyer, your therapist, your friend.

Calm yourself. You will make the best strategic decisions when you are level-headed.

Knowledge, get it. Don't be afraid to ask your lawyer if there is something you don't understand.

Ok friends, tell us what you want to know about Morgan and Andrea and maybe we'll include it in "Decline to Comment" on a future episode!

Email your questions to [email protected]

Remember, you got this and we got you. And Morgan has Enrique Iglesias.

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Need Extra Cash?

Why not see how much Worthy can get you for your ring? It's a risk free process- and Worthy works with you to get the best price possible. Get an extra $100 if your ring sells for more than $1500.

We're so excited to be back for Season 2! Today we have a very special guest, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, author of Moms Moving On, divorced mom, certified divorce specialist and coach and podcast host. If you're not yet following Michelle on Instagram, you'll definitely want to check her out @themichelledempseyJoin the Moms Moving On community for free here. When you preorder Michelle's book, you'll receive access to a live summit with Michelle and other divorce experts.

Be sure to stay until the end for our fun new segment "Decline to Comment".

As always, our dms are open. You got this and we got you (unless you need someone to pump your gas, then you're on your own).

Morgan

Andrea

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Need Extra Cash?

Why not see how much Worthy can get you for your ring? It's a risk free process- and Worthy works with you to get the best price possible. Get an extra $100 if your ring sells for more than $1500.

Join us for our 1st annual holiday party and season 1 finale! From the floor of Morgan's son's closet. We play divorce "would you rather", discuss family dynamics, covid hangovers, and regular hangovers and Andrea sings. Make sure you're subscribed because season 2 drops in January!

Mentioned in this episode:

Guided Divorce Meditations

For the moments when you're about to lose your sh$t. We've got you, baby. Just press play and you'll be calmer. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations

Guided Meditations

Need Extra Cash?

Why not see how much Worthy can get you for your ring? It's a risk free process- and Worthy works with you to get the best price possible. Get an extra $100 if your ring sells for more than $1500.