Many men don’t understand the difference between sadness and self-pity. And this lack of understanding comes with a big cost: You sacrifice joy and growth when you confuse sadness for self-pity. 

Now, this isn’t your fault, per se. Most modern men grew up believing toxic masculinity myths like that crying is a sign of weakness. Not only is this false, it’s objectively wrong and science has proved this. 

When you embrace and process sadness in a healthy way, it’s no longer an emotion to be feared but an opportunity for growth. But when you ignore, neglect, and repress your sadness, it can morph into self-pity, which, besides nuking your happiness, also leads to actual health problems. 

In today’s show, you’ll discover how to spot the crucial differences between sadness and self-pity, why self-pity is so detrimental to your emotional and physical health, and tools to navigate sadness in a way that opens doors not closes them.

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why confusing sadness with self-pity sabotages your entire experience of life (0:22) 
• How to use gut-wrenching sadness to open doors to your higher self instead of letting it slam doors shut (2:04)  
• The “Self Pity Quicksand” that traps you in your own head, prevents you from growth, and spirals you into destructive actions (3:25) 
• How masculinity myths not only cause mental and emotional pain, but keep joy and fulfillment out of your reach (6:18) 
• Do you think it’s unmanly or weak to be sad? Here’s why this toxic thought process will block you from true love (9:39) 
• The scientific proof that sadness leads to profound self-growth while self-pity leads to high blood pressure, cortisol, and a weakened immune system (12:45) 
• How to embrace your emotions instead of shying away from them with the “signal” mindset shift (17:26) 
• 4 tools that will help you embrace sadness without devolving into the quicksand of self pity (20:39) 
• A real-life example of how to turn self-pity into sadness and growth (26:44) 

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