Knowing how to deal with regret helps you build a life that is authentic, ethical, and meaningful. Without regret, you wouldn’t have good information about who you are, what you need, and where you have opportunities to grow.  But if you don’t know how to deal with regret in a healthy way, it’s easy to become trapped in a vortex of guilt and shame that makes you feel hopeless, defeated, or irredeemably flawed. But it’s possible to create something positive out of regret, by transforming it into an opportunity to grow and evolve. This episode of the podcast is all about how you can do that. I hope it helps you find the opportunities in your regrets, and move forward with self-compassion and new wisdom.  Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com P.S. — For more advice on making friends with dark emotions like regret, check our “emotional wellness” collection of articles and podcasts. 

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We all inherit some baggage from our families of origin — and often, we don't even realize we're carrying it! On today's episode, I'm talking about how you can explore the intergenerational cycles that may be holding you back, and then make some intentional choices about what you want to keep, and what you want to leave behind.  Breaking generational cycles is a self-affirming process. It frees you from ways of thinking and behaving that may have felt like "just the way things are," and allows you to become who you truly are at your core. And if you're parent, breaking generational cycles can be even more important, because it spares your kids from inheriting the junk that's weighing you down.  Tune in to learn all about how this works, including:   06:35  What Are Intergenerational Patterns? 09:49  Recognizing Your Patterns and Making Changes 21:22  Getting Help with Deeply Engrained Patterns 25:30  Emotional Intelligence and Generational Cycles 32:06 The Value of  Structured Emotional Intelligence Work  And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll feel inspired to break through the patterns that are no longer serving you, so you can start a positive new chapter.    xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want help with breaking generational cycles? Schedule a free consulation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

#399 - How to Break Generational Cycles

When you have an anxious attachment style, it's hard to feel secure in your most important relationships. But learning how to self-soothe anxious attachment and create a stronger relationship with yourself can be the path to emotional freedom.  On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're discussing how you can stop relying on the people around you to regulate your anxiety, and learn to manage anxious feelings internally. This not only helps you have better relationships, it makes you stronger, happier, and more resilient.  My guest is attachment expert Thais Gibson, a counselor, YouTuber, and founder of the Personal Development School. Thais shared some eye-opening insights in this episode that you won't want to miss!  You'll learn:   00:00  Introduction to Attachment Theory 08:19  Thais' Background and Interest in Attachment Theory 16:21  Understanding Attachment Styles 28:15  The Danger of Pathologizing Attachment Styles 33:51 The  Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships 39:11  Strategies for Healing Attachment Wounds 41:15  Reprogramming Core Wounds 45:40 The Power of  Auto-Suggestion   And so much more. I hope you'll tune in!  xoxo,   Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby   P.S. — Ready to transform your attachment patterns? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

#398 - How to Self-Soothe Anxious Attachment

If you've lived through a divorce, or you're going through one now, you know that ending a marriage comes with a lot of regrets. You might regret not trying harder to save your marriage when you had the chance, or, if the divorce was your choice, you might have difficult moments when you regret your decision. You might even regret marrying your Ex in the first place! Whatever flavor of divorce regret you're experiencing, this episode is for you. I'm talking about how you can not only cope with regret after divorce, but how you can use it to start a positive new chapter in your life.  You'll learn:   03:04  The Purpose of Regret in Healing after a Breakup or Divorce 10:10 Regret's and Its Relationship to Grief 11:07  Shifting Your Perspective on Mistakes and Regret 12:21  Learning from Regret to Build Healthier Relationships 13:47  Differentiating Healthy Regret from Shame 16:43  Exploring Regret through Journaling and Therapy 22:19  Creating a Constructive Narrative that Helps You Grow 24:04 Using Regret as a Catalyst for Change     All of that and more on today's episode. I hope you find this conversation helpful and healing, and that it gives you hope for all the positive things that are still ahead of you.     xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby     P.S. — Want support in healing after a breakup or divorce? Get in touch: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

#397 - After Divorce: The Gift of Regret

Do you have a habit of giving too much in relationships? Maybe you say "yes" when you really want to say no, or you offer much more emotional and material support than you receive in return.  All of this sounds noble, but overgiving is a habit that will eventually wear you down (and, that will keep you from having truly satisfying relationships based on mutuality). So how can you stop being an "over-giver" and start creating healthy give and take in your relationships? That's what we're talking about on today's episode.  I've worked with many clients over the years who were card-carrying overgivers. They were all smart, strong, competent people who excel at getting stuff done. The flip side of these strengths can be a habit of over-functioning in relationships, which leads the people around them to underfunction. The result is a situation where they HAVE to do it all, because otherwise, everything will fall apart.  At least that's how it feels. In reality, when you stop over-giving, you open up space for the people around you to step up. Some of them may disappoint you, but often, you will be pleasantly surprised at how the people around you rise to the occassion. You can stop feeling guilty, resentful, overwhelmed, and unappreciated, and start having the nourishing relationships you deserve.  This episode will show you the way! You'll learn:    Why overgiving is damaging to your relationships and your wellbeing What overgiving looks like Why you overgive in relationships How to stop being an overgiver  Tips for setting healthy boundaries  Creating balance through the power of vulnerability and authenticity.   All of that and more for you on today's show. I hope you'll join me!  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you want to break this habit once and for all, we should talk. Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

#396 - Are You an Over-Giver in Relationships? How to Start Receiving

Has the sexual intimacy in your relationship dwindled to almost nothing? Or, do you long to feel desired by your partner, but instead feel like you're being rejected? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn why  sexless marriages (or sexless relationships of any kind) happen, and how to reignite the spark with your partner and cultivate the physical and emotional intimacy you crave.  When couples stop having sex, it can be a sign that their relationships are suffering in other ways as well. They may be feeling lonely and emotionally disconnected from each other. Often, there's resentment or an old emotional wound that hasn't been healed. Sexuality can be the canary in the coal mine that lets you know your relationship is in trouble.   It takes courage to explore the root causes of a "dead bedroom." But doing so is the path to rekindling the passion you want and deserve.  On today's episode, I'm answering a question from a listener who's feeling adrift in his sexless marriage, and offering some universal advice that will help every couple communicate better about sex, understand each other more deeply, and keep the spark alive for the long haul.  Tune in to learn:  00:00  The Impact of Dead Bedrooms 04:41  The Importance of Addressing Sexless Marriages 19:23  The Difficulty of Talking About Sexuality 23:34  The Process of Restoring a Healthy Sex Life 30:01  The Meaning and Significance of Sexuality in a Relationship 35:03  Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality 41:19  The Process of Creating Lasting Change in Your Relationship    I hope you'll join me!     And, if you'd like to talk with a Growing Self sex therapist about restoring sexual intimacy in your relationship, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/     xoxo,     Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

#350 - How to Deal with Regret

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