October 22, 2025

How to Effectively Communicate with An Avoidant Partner (This Changes Everything!)

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re speaking a different language when trying to connect with a Dismissive Avoidant partner, you’re not wrong. They process emotions, safety, and closeness differently at both the neurological and subconscious levels, which can make even simple conversations feel confusing or one-sided.

In this video, Thais Gibson reveals how to communicate so an Avoidant actually hears you, without triggering withdrawal or shutdown. You’ll learn the five key principles that transform connection, backed by neuroscience and attachment theory, plus how to stay calm and secure while getting your needs met.

You’ll learn:

✅ The 5 keys to communicating with a Dismissive Avoidant, without chasing or pressuring

✅ How to speak to their subconscious mind so they actually feel safe opening up

✅ The neuroscience behind why Avoidants pull away when emotions run high

✅ The difference between emotional expression and logical communication — and how to balance both

✅ How to frame your needs without sounding like an ultimatum

✅ Why timing, tone, and body language matter more than words

✅ Practical scripts to get your Avoidant partner to listen and respond

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 – Intro

01:53 – 1. Communicate Your Feelings in a Logical, Factual Way

04:29 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo

05:07 – 2. Use Timing Properly

07:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Avoidants and Connection

09:06 – 3. State Your Needs

09:47 – 4. Leave It Open-Ended

11:04 – 5. Timebox When Asking the Dismissive Avoidant for Something

13:46 – Conclusion

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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Mastering this kind of communication can completely shift your relationship dynamic, helping you connect with empathy, clarity, and emotional safety on both sides.

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