How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

“I want to date you… you remind me of my mom.” Yep, a guy actually sent that as an opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 15 real messages and sorts them into three categories: magnificent, meh, and mortifying. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you might even steal a line or two that actually works.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

01:47: The Insult Opener That Somehow Got a Reply

02:43: Say This on the Apps—It’s Genius

04:25: The One-word Christmas Message that She (Rightly) Hated

08:50: A Line Only Hannibal Lecter Should Use

13:43: The Most Painfully Boring First Message on Earth

20:02: The Secret to Writing Charming Openers


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If you’re an introvert who freezes up around women, help is here. Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Charlie, a client who went from from doubting his romantic worth to meeting his dream girlfriend Rachel. Connell and Charlie cover the mindset shifts and real-world wins that worked—and they talk some baseball, too. If you want to find your person, this episode is your roadmap.

Episode Highlights:

11:38: The Two Toxic Thoughts that Kept Charlie Stuck

17:23: The Weekend of Approaching that Changed Everything

21:12: The Dating Lesson he Learned from MLB Baseball

34:44: The Moment Rachel Saw Him Differently

47:05: When He Destroyed His Fear of Rejection

53:11: Charlie’s Advice to Introverts who Feel Left Behind

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You see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required.

Episode Highlights:

01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle

04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head

07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar

12:04: What to Say at the Gym

25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix It

BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN IRL: www.DatingTransformation.com

You get matches, but then you’re not sure what to write for your opener. You don’t want to sound boring or try-hard, so you overthink it, and the conversation dies before it begins. In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Evan, who got great at writing openers that women reply to. Plus, Evan gives some tips on how to meet women in coffee shops and get instant dates, just like he does.

Episode Highlights

03:20: From Shaking Hands to 80+ Confident Approaches—Evan’s Transformation]

06:01: What to Say and Not Say When You Approach

09:15: The Coffee Shop Icebreaker that Led Evan to a Make-Out in Just 30 Minutes!

18:45: The Funny Hinge Opener that Gets Women Writing You Back

1:01:02: The One Dating Tip Every Guy Needs to Hear

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Are you ready to flirt with women without coming off as “creepy”? In Part 2 of his 26 New Rules of Dating, bestselling author and dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the invisible blind spot that makes good guys accidentally seem creepy—and he helps you fix it. Learn how to flirt with confidence and authenticity, and make 2026 the year you meet your dream girlfriend.

Episode Highlights:

01:47: The Classy Approaching Move that Women Find Fascinating

06:58: Do This to Get Girls Texting You Back

13:13: The Right and Wrong Way to Use A.I. on the Apps

16:34: The Flirting Flaw that Makes Decent Men Seem Creepy

20:37: The Question to Ask on Every First Date


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Be mysterious. Don’t double-text. Use “tricks” to make her chase you. Yuck! Most dating advice is as outdated as flip phones and Fax machines. The old playbook just doesn’t work. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett unveils his 26 New Dating Rules for 2026. In part 1, he shares how to be kind and confident, why texting “like a girl” is a good thing (seriously!), and reveals the playful dating app opener that women love.

Episode Highlights:

02:05: Why Women Want You to Talk to Them IRL (and How to Do It)

07:05: How to Channel Your First Date Nerves to Spark a Connection

09:14: The Dating App Opener You Must Try

20:50: The Dreaded Mistake to Stop Making on Dates

24:51: Talk about This to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say


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You see women you’d love to meet IRL, but you just don’t know what to say. So you freeze up. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method, a simple, rejection-proof framework that makes it easy to meet women in bars, coffee-shops, or the gym. Learn how to start light, flirty conversations without memorized scripts or awkward pickup lines—and finally feel confident talking to women anywhere.

Episode Highlights:

02:17: The What to Say Method: 3 Simple Ways to Break the Ice Anywhere

05:52: Option A: The Charming Compliment

07:15: Option B: The Insightful Question

10:39: Option C: The Playful Observation

17:15: Client Win: How Robbie Went from Anxiety to Instant Coffee Dates

20:45: What to Do if You STILL Freeze When You Want to Talk to Women

BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO APPLY HIS WHAT-TO-SAY METHOD AND MEET WOMEN IRL:www.DatingTransformation.com

Andrew was the dateless, anxious guy who never approached women. Now, he gets numbers and dates—and after one especially bold effort, two strangers literally applauded him. In this live coaching session with dating coach Connell Barrett, Andrew breaks down the simple, practical strategies that changed everything. Andrew isn’t a natural extrovert. He just did the work. And if he can do this, you can too.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

02:10: From Anxious to Approaching Women Anywhere

35:55: The Daily Confidence Ritual that Changed Everything

38:25: Exactly What Andrew Said to Her that Sparked an Instant Make-out

43:47: The Exact Moment Andrew’s Fear of Approaching Vanished

46:42: What to Say When A Woman You’re Dating Asks, “Are We Exclusive?”


BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com

EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: [email protected]

Ever had a jaw-dropping dating disaster? Wait until you hear about the guy who sent a cringe-worthy voice note about his date’s breasts… directly to her! But what if a screwup like that gets her MORE into him? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers listener questions, reveals why dating disasters happen, and shares how to recover with confidence and class.

Episode Highlights:

00:54: The Vexing Voice Note: How Screwing Up Can Actually Help You

02:35: Whoops! Connell “Hits On” a Stranger—in Front of His Date

05:40: The 3-Step Framework to Recover from a Dating Disaster

16:47: The Do’s and Don’ts of Sexting

21:58: Exactly How Many Texts to Send to Get a First Date


BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM WOMAN: www.DatingTransformation.com

Online dating is changing faster than you can say “swipe.” And not knowing what works on the apps in 2026 will cost you matches, dates… and even keep you from finding love. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the rest of his 26 new rules for online dating success in 2026. Apply these practical tips to go from frustration to finally getting great dates—just like Connell’s clients do.

Episode Highlights:

01:45: The New Way to Use Audio Prompts on Hinge

10:10: How the “3 Passions Rule” Makes Your Bio Magnetic

12:00: What Causes Swiping Fatigue—and How to Fix It

16:41: How to Set Up a First Date in Just 3 Messages

19:23: Connell’s Texting Framework to Stop Getting Ghosted


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