January 07, 2026

How to Get Closure From Someone Who Won't Give It | Anxious Attachment

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If you have an Anxious Attachment style, the urge to get closure from someone who pulled away, ghosted you, or shut down can feel overwhelming. But chasing closure from the wrong person often keeps you stuck, emotionally drained, and unable to move on.

In this video, Thais Gibson explains why seeking closure isn’t actually the need and what to do instead to regain emotional stability, certainty, and peace.

🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY

When someone won’t explain themselves or emotionally meet you after a breakup, it can feel impossible to move forward. But what feels like a need for closure is often a need for certainty.

In this episode, Thais walks Anxious Attachment styles through a grounded, practical framework to stop chasing answers from someone who isn’t capable of giving them. You’ll learn how to evaluate whether a person can provide healthy closure, how to understand the emotional “void” left behind, and how to begin meeting your own unmet needs so you can heal more quickly and fully.

These steps help you stop looping in rumination, regain emotional safety, and build secure self-connection, without needing anything from your ex.

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why seeking closure from the wrong person keeps you stuck

• The difference between closure and certainty

• How to tell if someone is capable of giving healthy closure

• Why Anxious Attachment styles struggle most with uncertainty

• How to reframe unmet needs after a breakup

• What you’re really grieving when you miss your ex

• How self-validation and need-meeting accelerate healing

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Seeking Closure Is Not Always the Answer

00:45 – Step 1: Ask Yourself if This Person Is Capable of Giving You Closure

02:11 – Step 2: Remember That You Are Experiencing a Void of Certainty in This Situation

04:22 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo

04:41 – Step 3: Look at How Other Needs Were Being Met in That Relationship

05:32 – Step 4: Make a List of the Things You Miss About Your Ex

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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