Oftentimes we leave closure up to someone else. We think we need to have a conversation with our ex but closure isn't what we think it is. And we have the power to create it for ourselves. Stop giving away your power and learn how to close this chapter on your own without his input.

In this episode:

• Why we tend to give him the power when we're looking for closure
• Why we don't want his input in the closure discussion
• The exact steps to find closure for yourself without having a discussion with the ex

Why does it seem like we are in constant competition with our ex? We were once a team and now all of sudden I feel like I'm losing at life. Comparison is normal however I'm seeing with my clients that we use it against ourselves instead of to help us.

In this episode:

• Learn why we compete and compare ourselves with our ex
• The different types of comparison
• The exact steps to use comparison as a way to catapult yourself into the life results you actually want

When we choose to find limitations in our life we will find limitations. It's so hard to see opportunities and possibilities in the midst of heartbreak but doing so can be the difference between you staying stuck in heartbreak or finding the life you've always wanted.

In this episode:

• Learn about opportunities vs limitations
• What's on the other side of heartbreak
• How to focus and find your opportunities

I often hear people talking about others as "toxic" or a relationship was "toxic" when in reality there are no toxic people, only toxic thoughts. And when we choose to think of someone as toxic, we are only doing ourselves a disservice.

In this episode:

• Learn how there are no toxic humans just toxic thoughts
• How it hurts us to think about other humans in that way
• How to deal with "toxic" humans and relationships

Yay, you Bravehearts ask and I'm here to ANSWER. Today we are talking about frequently asked questions aka a question and answer session. I am here to serve you so therefore I wanted to answer some of your most burning breakup questions!

In this episode:

• I can't break away from wanting him back, I've tried to change my thinking but I just can't
• Revenge
• Closure
• Getting back together with your ex
• Reaching out during isolation
• Guilt of leaving
• He moves on quickly
• Forgiving myself

Today we talk about how having fun during your breakup journey is 1) possible and 2) super transformational. We explore a specific client example of this and how having fun helped her let go and move on from her suffering and feeling sorry for herself.

In this episode:

• How can we have fun during a breakup
• Why it's so important to have fun during healing
• How having fun will speed up getting over your ex

Today we are talking about breakup lies that I'm seeing so many of us mistake for truth. They are common and oh so sneaky. Many of us think them, believe them, and mistake them as facts when in reality there is so much evidence for how false the lie actually is.

In this episode:

• What is a breakup lie
• How do I identify it and change it
• The steps to crack the lie so you can move on

There are two types of pain going on during heartbreak. We have clean pain which is the typical grief, sadness and loss we experience with heartbreak but I also see a secondary pain that is being compounded which holds us back from actually getting over our ex and moving on. That pain is called "dirty pain" where we tend to shame ourselves because we are even experiencing emotional suffering in the first place.

In this episode:

• What is clean pain vs dirty pain?
• How do I know if I'm experiencing dirty pain?
• What do I do about it?

Post-traumatic growth is something I talk about with my clients pretty often however it's very relevant to what everyone is experiencing in the world right now so I wanted to make sure to cover it with all the Braveheart listeners. During times of trauma or crisis, we can come out of it stronger and more developed than prior to the event taking place. What would it be like if you used this heartbreak as one of those moments to up-level your own personal development?

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In this episode:

• What is post-traumatic growth?
• How do we apply it to our situation?
• Why should we utilize post-traumatic growth?

Overall this is a time to rise up. In 3 to 4 months from now I want you to be STRONGER I want you to come out of this like OMG what did she do?!?! This is not a time for vacation, this is not time to buffer away our lives and just eat, drink, watch Netflix and chill. It's time to step up, to provide value to the world, to create our goals, to overcome this all, together, as one. This is the time to CHANGE YOUR LIFE. This is the opportunity you've been looking for, you just haven't seen it yet.

In this episode:

• How humans are handling chaos right now and why
• What obstacles do we have when there is chaos and heartbreak at the same time
• How do overcome each of those obstacles
• What you can be doing to better yourself during the pandemic