Memories are sentences in our brain ABOUT our past. Not everyone will have the same thoughts about the past but after a breakup those thoughts and feelings that come with the past can be overwhelming. Often times we feel at the effect of our emotions in that moment but I promise you, YOU have control.

In this episode:

• Why the overwhelming memories of him flood in
• How to cope with those thoughts and feelings in the moment
• What to do about the memories

Why are we focused on him not giving you what you want? This isn't about him, it's about YOU. Out of all the things we could be wanting and creating in our life why are we focused on changing other people? Why is this a problem and what can we do to overcome our "wants"?

In this episode:

• What does wasting our wants mean?
• 3 biggest problems about "wanting"
• How to overcome wanting

I have many women that come to me who are experiencing an unexpected change in their life because of their heartbreak. They are left wondering, "how did I not see this coming?" "what was I thinking?" and it leads to them questioning and doubting their own judgment. Smart, successful, bomb AF women, questioning their own judgment. In today's episode, I unwrap, what we tend to do this, why it's a problem, and what to do about it.

In this episode:

• Learn why we question and doubt our judgment after heartbreak
• Why it's a problem
• And what to do about it

There is a lot of information out there about why the no contact rule after a breakup is a good or a bad thing. The pros, the cons, the benefits, and why it works or doesn't work. Here's my two cents. Everyone is different. Everyone's relationship is different. I don't think it needs to be a blanket statement. I have some clients that cut everything off and have zero contact, and that works for them. I have other clients who remained friends and hang out in the same friend groups and that works for them. And other clients who have a mixture of the two. The secret is having an "ex communications protocol".

In this episode:

• Learn the no contact rule you haven't heard of before
• My secret "ex communications protocol"
• How to use the protocol for yourself
• Examples of the protocol in action

Nothing is worse than running into your ex unexpectedly, showing up all kinds of weird and awkward. So many of my clients live in the same area as their ex and know they may or may not run into them. However, they don't create a plan for how they want to show up in this moment. SO, in today's episode, I give you the step by step process I walk through with my clients to create a plan on purpose for running into their ex so they are 100% never caught off guard!

In this episode:

• What to do when you run into your ex
• Learn the 3 steps to create your plan for running into your ex
• Client example

Today is the first interview I'm launching on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast! So excited! Alexander James and I talk through the book Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas and his personal experiencing using this book to breakup with his partner.

In this episode:

• What is conscious uncoupling?
• How can I use this in my breakup? What are the biggest takeaways from the book?
• What if it's just me and my partner doesn't want to read it?
• What is the best way to breakup with someone?

Alexander James Information:

www.alexanderjames.space

Facebook - Alexander James (Cupid)

Instagram @ThereAlexanderJames

Podcast: Dear Gay Men

In today's episode, I cover the third phase (getting excited about life again) to getting over your ex in 90 days. I remember freaking out about my future after my breakup. The future I built was with him so how in the world could I be excited about what is in the future if there was for certain no way I'd have that future without him?

In this episode:

• Why it's so important to build a future you're obsessed with
• How to get excited about life again after a breakup
• Tactics and tools I used along my journey

In today's episode, I cover the second phase (rebuilding your confidence and rewriting your breakup story) to getting over your ex in 90 days. Rewriting your place from a confident place is vital to not recreating your past over and over and over again. I give you the next steps to go and implement the second phase into your life so you can start the process of getting over your ex.

In this episode:

• What does it mean to rebuild confidence and rewrite your breakup story?
• How do I build confidence?
• How do I rewrite my breakup story so I don't see old patterns in my present and future?

Getting over your ex doesn't have to just take time. Time has nothing to do with it. In this three week series, I walk you through the three phases to getting over your ex in 90 days. This 3 phased approach is the process I take my clients through and today we take a deep dive into phase #1.

3 Phases:

1. Taking back control of your emotions
2. Rebuilding your confidence to rewrite your breakup story
3. Getting excited about life again

In today's episode, I cover the first phase with you and give you next steps to go and implement this first phase into your life so you can start the process of getting over your ex.

In this episode:

• What is the 3 phased approach to getting over your ex in 90 days
• What is emotional maturity/responsibility and why is it important
• How do we take back control of our emotions?

This past weekend I had the opportunity to speak at The Summit of Love. I did a working session on following your intuition to live a happier and healthier life. So in the past 4 months I've done a DEEP DIVE into what does that actually mean? And what can I provide to the audience in this area?

One of the biggest reasons people don't listen to their intuition/inner voice is because of fear. Fear of failing, fear of uncertainty and ultimately it comes down to fear of feeling a negative emotion.

Are you willing to listen to the answers you already have?

In this episode:

• What is intuition/inner voice?
• Are you listening to the answers you already have?
• How do I overcome fear to listen and follow your intuition?
• 4 tangible solutions to overcoming fear and following your intuition