Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. Most people will say, "it's just going to take some time for your heart to heal" but I'm here to tell you that's ALL WRONG. After going through my own experience and spending years of helping women through breakups and divorce I know without a doubt time has nothing to do with it, but I know what does. Join me today as I explain this concept and what you can do about it.

In this episode:

• Why time has nothing to do with heartbreak
• What actually does have to do with heartbreak
• What to do instead of focusing on time

Valentine's day is neutral, what are you making it mean? Are you dreading the day? Are you content about the day? Are you excited about the day? How are you thinking and feeling about valentines day and what kind of experience will be created because of that? Learn how and why Valentine's day is neutral and how to create and decide your experience for the day AHEAD of time!

In this episode:

• How and why is valentines day neutral?
• What it means to create your own experience ahead of time
• The exact steps on how to decide YOUR experience today
• Client examples

This is one of my most frequently asked questions on consultations. We think that him moving on or him acting like everything is fine equates to him not hurting. But that's simply not true.

In this episode:

• Why do we let how he's coping dictate how we feel?
• A specific client example
• The exact steps on how to overcome this for yourself

Immediately following heartbreak we often just want to feel better, the pain coming from the end of the relationship can be so overbearing. But what if I told you that by switching "I just want to feel better" to something else, you would find so much relief?

In this episode:

• How to find relief in the overbearing emotions of heartbreak
• 4 steps to feel better
• My experience with feeling better

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Memories are sentences in our brain ABOUT our past. Not everyone will have the same thoughts about the past but after a breakup those thoughts and feelings that come with the past can be overwhelming. Often times we feel at the effect of our emotions in that moment but I promise you, YOU have control.

In this episode:

• Why the overwhelming memories of him flood in
• How to cope with those thoughts and feelings in the moment
• What to do about the memories

Why are we focused on him not giving you what you want? This isn't about him, it's about YOU. Out of all the things we could be wanting and creating in our life why are we focused on changing other people? Why is this a problem and what can we do to overcome our "wants"?

In this episode:

• What does wasting our wants mean?
• 3 biggest problems about "wanting"
• How to overcome wanting

I have many women that come to me who are experiencing an unexpected change in their life because of their heartbreak. They are left wondering, "how did I not see this coming?" "what was I thinking?" and it leads to them questioning and doubting their own judgment. Smart, successful, bomb AF women, questioning their own judgment. In today's episode, I unwrap, what we tend to do this, why it's a problem, and what to do about it.

In this episode:

• Learn why we question and doubt our judgment after heartbreak
• Why it's a problem
• And what to do about it

There is a lot of information out there about why the no contact rule after a breakup is a good or a bad thing. The pros, the cons, the benefits, and why it works or doesn't work. Here's my two cents. Everyone is different. Everyone's relationship is different. I don't think it needs to be a blanket statement. I have some clients that cut everything off and have zero contact, and that works for them. I have other clients who remained friends and hang out in the same friend groups and that works for them. And other clients who have a mixture of the two. The secret is having an "ex communications protocol".

In this episode:

• Learn the no contact rule you haven't heard of before
• My secret "ex communications protocol"
• How to use the protocol for yourself
• Examples of the protocol in action

Nothing is worse than running into your ex unexpectedly, showing up all kinds of weird and awkward. So many of my clients live in the same area as their ex and know they may or may not run into them. However, they don't create a plan for how they want to show up in this moment. SO, in today's episode, I give you the step by step process I walk through with my clients to create a plan on purpose for running into their ex so they are 100% never caught off guard!

In this episode:

• What to do when you run into your ex
• Learn the 3 steps to create your plan for running into your ex
• Client example

Today is the first interview I'm launching on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast! So excited! Alexander James and I talk through the book Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas and his personal experiencing using this book to breakup with his partner.

In this episode:

• What is conscious uncoupling?
• How can I use this in my breakup? What are the biggest takeaways from the book?
• What if it's just me and my partner doesn't want to read it?
• What is the best way to breakup with someone?

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