When your team, family, and friends rely on you for everything, and you don’t know how to say no, then you’re on a path of self-destruction. 

Why?

Because an inability to set boundaries and assert yourself stems from toxic shame you picked up at some point in your life. If you don’t address this toxic shame, burn out, resentment, and self-loathing follow. 

That’s the bad news. 

The good news?

While learning how to assert yourself might not be the easiest thing you do, it’s possible.

And today’s episode is your first step towards reversing your toxic shame, figuring out how to set boundaries without feeling guilty, and creating space for tremendous growth. 

Tired of feeling exhausted because you’re saying yes to everything?

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The most single most insidious word that causes good husbands and leaders to snap, burn out, and spiral into resentment and self-loathing (0:55) 
• How to tell if you have a healthy or toxic form of shame (2:51) 
• The sneaky way toxic shame sabotages your confidence, assertiveness, and self-respect (5:03) 
• Try this simple exercise the next time you feel guilty about setting a boundary (6:37) 
• Why avoiding asserting yourself sends you down a wicked toxic loop of resentment and burn out (and practical ways to better assert yourself) (14:13) 
• The “broken record” technique for setting boundaries if it usually makes you uncomfortable (16:14) 
• Ask your inner critic these questions next time you hear it to siphon away its power (19:29) 

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery