HR Coffee Time

It can be hard to know what to say or do when a colleague passes away or experiences the loss of someone close to them. Unfortunately, bereavement is a fact of life and something that you’ll have to support your colleagues within your role as an HR and People professional. However, it’s likely that you’ve never been given any training to support you with this.

So, this episode of HR Coffee Time is here to help. Career Coach Fay Wallis is joined by Director of Empower Workplace Solutions; Michelle Smith, who shares key considerations and advice to support your bereaved workforce compassionately.

[02:06] An introduction to Michelle Smith

[06:50] In the last two years, one in eight people have experienced a bereavement (statistic from Respecting and supporting grief at work. How employers can better support their staff through personal loss)

[08:05] Michelle shares an important checklist that she has created - Supporting your bereaved workforce - 10 key considerations

[09:13] The importance of inclusion considerations

[14:29] Setting & maintaining boundaries

[17:23] How Mental Health First Aid training can be beneficial in the workplace

[20:13] Michelle explains the different ways to provide support:

• The initial response
• Checking in with each other
• Empathy

[27:33] Different ways an organisation can honour loss within the workplace

[30:33] Details of Michelle’s services

[31:47] How to connect with Michelle

[32:20] Michelle’s book recommendation - Indistractable by Nir Eyal (Disclosure: this is an affiliate link which means Fay will earn a small commission from Amazon if you choose to purchase the book using it).

[34:34] Fay recaps the key points from this week’s episode

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• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• Connect with Michelle on LinkedIn
• Michelle's website: Loss, Grief and Bereavement Support

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Discovering your values can help your career in a huge variety of ways...

• Not sure whether to change career because you hate your job? - Understanding your values can help you figure out whether you’re unhappy because of a values clash at work, or if a complete career change could be best.
• Experiencing friction with someone else at work? - Knowing more about your values can help you pinpoint whether it's differing values that are at the root of the problem.
• Feeling a bit flat in your current role? Finding ways at work to lean into your values more can help re-energise you.

In this Episode of HR Coffee Time, Career Coach Fay Wallis takes a deep dive into values as a topic and demonstrates a values elicitation coaching exercise with Coach Trainer and Director of In Good Company, Zoe Hawkins.

[00:39] The importance of values within your career

[03:23] An introduction to Zoe Hawkins

[09:11] Zoe begins a values elicitation activity from the field of NLP

[12:05] Fay shares her values

[18:11] Zoe and Fay discuss the value that most represents Fay

[22:08] Reflecting and understanding your values

[23:56] Zoe shares more information about her book: ‘Deciding To Coach: The Coaching Mindset & Business Strategy for Aspiring Coaches’ by Zoe Hawkins and Joanne Wheatley

(Disclosure: this is an affiliate link which means Fay will earn a small commission from Amazon if you choose to purchase the book using it).

[25:08] How to connect with Zoe

[26:02] Zoe shares her book recommendations - Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones by James Clear (Disclosure: this is an affiliate link which means Fay will earn a small commission from Amazon if you choose to purchase the book using it).

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• The Coaching Crowd Podcast
• The Coaching Crowd | Facebook
• Zoe’s website: In Good Company

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Do you find yourself with your head in a good book most days? Perhaps you have a bookshelf filled with all different genres but always looking for more recommendations to add to your collection? As World Book Lovers Day is fast approaching, on this week’s episode of HR Coffee Time, Career Coach Fay Wallis shares her top three book recommendations.

Disclosure: the book links below are affiliate links, which means Fay may receive a small commission from Amazon if you choose to make a purchase through them (at no cost to you).

[00:03] Fay explains where you can find the ‘show notes’ to each episode – HR Coffee Time Podcast - Bright Sky Career Coaching

[01:37] Fay takes a moment to thank everyone who has left a review and rating

[03:32] Fay’s first book recommendation - ‘Dare to Lead’ by Dr Brené Brown

[04:58] Background information about Dr Brené Brown - The power of vulnerability TED talk

[07:39] Fay’s second book recommendation - ‘Think Big - Take Small Steps and Build The Career You Want’ by Dr Grace Lordan

• Fay refers to last week’s episode where she also mentioned this book - Episode 45 - 6 ways to stop procrastinating & find time for important projects at work

[08:27] Background information about Dr Grace Lordan

[10:57] Fay’s third book recommendation - ‘The Culture Map: Decoding How People Think, Lead, and Get Things Done Across Cultures’ by Erin Meyer

[12:45] Fay shares examples from a previous job that relates to the ‘Culture Map’

[16:51] Background information about Erin Meyer.

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website

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If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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Have you ever woken up with the best intentions to prioritise a piece of work or project you are working on that will help accelerate your HR career, but after yet another busy day you still haven’t made the progress you set out to complete? This episode of HR Coffee time is here to help, as Career Coach, Fay Wallis shares six practical tips to help stop you from procrastinating and to make sure you find the time you need for important projects at work.

[01:45] Information about The Essential HR Planner

[02:44] Fay refers to Episode 7 | What to do when you don’t have enough hours in the day’

[03:17] Tip one – Eat that frog

[06:25] Tip two – Start using the five-minute rule

[09:05] Tip three – Go lean

• Fay refers to Episode 44 | Succeeding as an HR professional – how to influence at a senior level

[12:39] Tip four – Check your emails at set times each day

[16:18] Tip five – Assess and plan your time

• Laura Vanderkam recommends using a time diary to track time. Her TED talk is – ‘How to gain control of your free time’

[22:13] Tip six – Try out a carrot or stick as a commitment device

• Fay would like to hear how you get on with your public commitment - stickK

[25:03] Fay celebrates the one-year anniversary of HR Coffee Time, since releasing episode 1 on 28th July 2021 (which is, ‘How to feel more confident at work)

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• The Essential HR Planner
• Brian Tracy's book - Eat That Frog! (Disclosure: this is an Amazon Affiliate link. If you purchase the book using it, Fay will receive a small commission from Amazon)
• Dr Grace Lorden's book - Think Big: Take Small Steps and Build The Future You Want (Disclosure: this is an Amazon Affiliate link. If you purchase the book using it, Fay will receive a small commission from Amazon)

If you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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Are you aspiring to work in a senior HR role, or perhaps you have already reached this level and would like to work on your influencing skills? In this episode of HR Coffee Time Career Coach, Fay Wallis shares how incorporating the six principles of persuasion can help to influence across your entire organisation.

[02:07] The importance of being strategic in a senior HR role

[04:26] How to incorporate elements of Dr Cialdini’s six principles of persuasion into your work

[05:28] The first principle – ‘Reciprocity’

[06:12] Fay refers to Adam Grant’s research into Givers, Takers & Matchers, as mentioned in: Episode 16 | How to become more confident about networking

[07:43] The second principle – ‘Commitment and Consistency’

[09:22] The third principle – ‘Social Proof’

[11:23] The fourth principle – ‘Liking’

[13:13] The fifth principle – ‘Authority’

[16:17] The sixth principle – ‘Scarcity’

[18:27] Let Fay know if you’re interested in joining the waitlist for joining the second cohort of the Inspiring HR group coaching programme

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• Robert Cialdini’s book, “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion” (Disclosure: this is an Amazon Affiliate link. If you purchase the book using it, Fay will receive a small commission from Amazon)

If you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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Working in HR can be incredibly demanding; you’re in a busy and often emotionally draining role. Boosting your resilience is one of the key ways of making sure you don’t burn out and that you can continue enjoying your work and progressing with your career.

But how do you build your resilience? Listen to this episode of HR Coffee Time to find out. Career Coach Fay Wallis is joined by Tom Cleary from Train Your Mind and he shares the one thing that will help.

[00:47] Fay would love your leave feedback about The Essential HR Planner

[01:59] Introduction to Tom Cleary

[04:53] Tom shares the one thing that will boost your resilience throughout your HR career

[09:48] Language matters – finding the words that work for you

[11:49] How to spot the signs you aren’t being self-compassionate

[13:25] Why practicing self-compassion can be difficult

[16:40] Practical steps to move forward – small changes that make a big difference

[22:21] Why valuing your strength is important

[26:20] Tom shares his book recommendation - The Mindful Self Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff & Christopher Germer

(Disclosure: This is an Amazon Affiliate link, so Fay will receive a small commission if you use it to purchase the book.)

[29:15] Tom explains the main services he offers

[29:15] Tom explains the main services he offers

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• Connect with Tom Cleary on LinkedIn
• Tom’s website - Train You
• Episode 10 – Tackling stress & building resilience, with Adele Stickland

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If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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Career Coach Fay Wallis is joined by Dr Jonathan Ashong-Lamptey, Founder of The Element of Inclusion Consultancy and host of The Element of Inclusion podcast.

Dr Jonathan shares the 7 mistakes organisations make with their approach to Diversity & Inclusion at work and explains what to do instead.

[00:30] Fay recommends listening to Dr Jonathan Ashong-Lamptey’s podcast – The Element of Inclusion

[02:17] Introduction to Dr Jonathan Ashong-Lamptey

[09:14] The 7 common mistakes organisations make with their approach to Diversity and Inclusion: BRISTOL

[12:04] The downside of Employee Resource Groups only focusing on ‘flags, food & fun’

[14:48] The ‘B’ from ‘BRISTOL’ – the business case for Diversity.

[15:30] The problem with the McKinsey reports

[23:49] The three biggest problems everyone should focus on – ‘people, potential, performance’

[26:25] Purposeful reading, listening & sharing

[28:17] The power of Employee Resource Groups

[31:49] Dr Jonathan’s book recommendation - Disability - The Basics by Tom Shakespeare

(Disclosure: This is an Amazon Affiliate link, so Fay will receive a small commission if you use it to purchase the book.)

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• Dr Jonathan Ashong-Lamptey on LinkedIn

If you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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If you’re stuck and unsure about how to build a relationship with a difficult person at work, don’t worry, this episode of HR Coffee Time is here to help. Career coach Fay Wallis shares three top tips to find a solution that works for you.

Disclosure: some of the links in these show notes are affiliate links, which means Fay may receive a small commission if you choose to make a purchase through them (at no cost to you).

[01:26] Fay refers back to Episode 3 - Building relationships with difficult people at work

[02:03] Tip 1: Listen – Fay refers to Stephen Covey and The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

[05:07] Tip 2: Spend time with them regularly

06:23] Finding a solution that works for you

[10:41] Tip 3: Give (Fay refers to previous episodes about building relationships):

• Building relationships with difficult people at work
• How networking can help your career
• How to become more confident about networking
• Networking - three most important networks for your career

[12:20] Adam Grant’s research into Givers, Takers & Matchers. His TED talk: Are you a giver or a taker? | Adam Grant

[15:47] Fay refers to the book; How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website

If you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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Podcasting is a low-cost but effective way of sharing crucial HR and wider-business information, building a strong employer brand, onboarding, or delivering content for in-house professional development programmes.

In this episode, career coach and podcast host; Fay Wallis, takes you behind the scenes of the HR Coffee Time podcast. She explains why starting a podcast could be a great idea and how to do it.

Disclosure: some of the links in these show notes are affiliate links, which means Fay may receive a small commission if you choose to make a purchase through them (at no cost to you).

[01:33] How a public or private (internal) podcast could help your organisation.

[03:46] Where to access the HR Coffee Time podcast show notes

[04:46] Fay explains why she decided to start her own podcast

[07:55] The Podcast Launch Accelerator online course

[09:07] Graphic Designer, Floss Gibbs designed the podcast cover art for HR Coffee Time

[10:08] The RØDE USB microphone Fay uses

[11:49] Fay uses Camtasia video editing software to edit HR Coffee Time but Audacity is free podcast editing software to consider

[13:01] Fay’s podcast editor, Frodo on Fiverr

[14:51] Remove unwanted ‘ers’, ‘ums’ and sections of speaking from your podcast recording by using Descript or Audiate

[16:26] For recording guest interviews remotely, Zoom, Squadcast and Riverside are all options to consider.

[20:57] Transcribing the audio using Otter.ai to then create the show notes

[23:06] The podcast host provider Fay uses is Captivate

[25:30] For free tips and advice about podcasting, listen to Lynsay Ann Gould’s podcast: The Podcasting for Business Show, or join her Podcasting for Business Community Facebook group.

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• Fay’s online CV writing course
• Fay’s LinkedIn course

If you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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Have you lost your direction and motivation at work and don’t know what to do about it? In this episode of HR coffee time, career coach Fay Wallis shares one thing that might help. Have a listen and get ready to feel reenergised about your career.

[01:08] Fay explains what a ‘career anchor’ is

[03:28] The first career anchor – technical or functional competence

[04:14] The second career anchor – general managerial competence

[05:15] The third career anchor – autonomy or independence

[06:11] The fourth career anchor – security or stability

[07:11] The fifth career anchor – entrepreneurial creativity

[08:27] The sixth career anchor – service or dedication to a cause

[09:23] The seventh career anchor – pure challenge

[09:59] The eighth career anchor – lifestyle

[13:03] Let Fay know your career challenge or topic you’d like to have covered on the show

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• The Bright Sky Career Coaching website
• Career Anchors: The Changing Nature of Careers Self Assessment

If you found this episode of HR Coffee Time helpful, please do rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

If you're kind enough to leave a review, please do let Fay know so she can say thank you. You can always reach her at: [email protected].

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