In this episode, you'll learn two concepts that can give you less shame and more hope on your journey of outgrowing porn. 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Sexual Fluidity in Males and Females by Lisa Diamond 
• The Porn Free Man 2023 Conference (now available)

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In this episode, Rich Wyler answers tough questions with curiosity, compassion, and courage. You'll learn what it looks like to work through internal conflict around sexual arousal and personal beliefs. You'll also learn why unconditional love and acceptance is our starting point.

Rich Wyler is the founder of Brothers on a Road Less Traveled (“Brothers Road”), a non-profit, multi-faith, international fellowship of men. Brothers Road is primarily for men from bisexual and same-sex attracted backgrounds who do not identify with the label “gay” and prefer instead to explore and address underlying issues.

In 2002, Rich created the powerful Journey Into Manhood experiential personal-growth weekend. Rich holds a bachelor’s degree in corporate communications and a certification in life coaching from Coach Training Alliance.

Connect with Rich:

• Brothers Road
• Journey Into Manhood
• A New Man Retreat
• Higher Path Coaching

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What habits are most helpful for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau presents a beautiful menu of ideas to transform habits without pressure, perfectionism, or "shoulding" all over yourself in 2023.

Shawn Bonneteau is a Christian pornography recovery coach and podcast host at Secret Habit. After quitting porn in the summer of 2017, he has spent his life pursuing God's call to transform relationships through coaching men to find freedom from porn. Shawn is a certified Husband Material coach, certified sexual addictions mentor and an inner child recovery specialist. He spends the majority of his time coaching men all over the globe in both 1-on-1 and group settings. He has a deep passion for speaking and has had the privilege to share with tens of thousands of men and women on the topics of porn addiction, masturbation and erectile dysfunction over the past 4 years. Shawn lives in Halifax, Canada with his wife Helena and daughter Violet. In his spare time he loves to watch hockey, play the drums and watch a good mindbender from Christopher Nolan.

Resources by Shawn:

• Secret Habit Podcast
• Secret Habit Community
• Free Recovery Navigator Call

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction (interview with Shawn Bonneteau)
• The Ruthless Elimination Of Hurry by John Mark Comer (paid link)
• Man Cards: Conversation Starters For Men by Husband Material

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In this episode, I'll recommend 3 resources to help you outgrow porn in 2023. Stay til the end to hear a big announcement about HMA (the doors are closing). 

As promised, here are my top 5 episodes of Husband Material: 

• How To Outgrow Porn 
• Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire 
• How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies 
• Why Attachment Is The Key To Healing 
• How To Heal Your Inner Child 

Register now for The Porn Free Man 2023 Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023.

Get your free pass at thepornfreeman.com

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How can I help my partner heal? When she is "throwing rocks" at me, what can I do? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci shares 10 rules for healthy interaction with your grieving partner:

10 Rules:
1. No Explaining
2. No Surprises
3. Validation, Not Defensiveness
4. Don’t Wilt (Be Confident)
5. Don’t Let Your Inner Child Speak To Your Partner
6. See Her Pain
7. Walk Into The Fire
8. Communicate Before Going Out In Public
9. Own Your Impact, Not Just Your Intentions
10. Prepare Yourself Every Morning

Dr. Eddie Capparucci is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's also the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP).

Buy Eddie's latest book (this is a paid link):
Why Men Struggle To Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots

Eddie will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

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• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
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What's the difference between emotional health and emotional fitness? Why does it matter? In this episode, Sathiya Sam explains what emotional fitness looks like and how you can leverage the added stress of the holiday season to become stronger.

Sathiya Sam is an entrepreneur with a passion to see people’s lives transformed. DeepClean, a program that helps men overcome pornography addiction, is Sathiya's most recent work to date. His proven process for freedom has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives. He is married to his lovely wife Shaloma and based out of Toronto, Canada.

Listen to Sathiya's daily podcast: Unleash The Man Within

Connect with Sathiya on Instagram @sathiyamesam

Sathiya will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

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What does it take to unlock a woman's sexual pleasure? Dr. Keith Gregoire explains how sex actually works, why we need to redefine sex, and how men can become better lovers.

Keith Gregoire is a pediatrician who is passionate about building great marriages and equipping couples to parent well. He is co-author (along with his wife, Sheila Wray Gregoire) of "The Good Guys Guide to Great Sex." Together, they have been speaking to couples around the world for over fifteen years, providing healthy, evidence-based, biblical advice for your marriage and sex life.

Excellent books by the Gregoires (these are paid links):

• The Good Guy's Guide To Great Sex
• The Good Girl's Guide To Great Sex
• The Great Sex Rescue

Learn more at baremarriage.com

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What is a real man? Dr. Joe Martin exposes the lies we believe about our value as men, in contrast to the example of authentic manhood set by Jesus Christ.

Wrong perceptions of manhood (what society says):

• Occupation
• Compensation
• Education
• Reputation
• Intimidation

 Authentic manhood is determined by:

• Leading spiritually
• Rejecting passivity
• Loving and serving sacrificially

Dr. Joe Martin is an award-winning speaker, author, educator, and certified builder of men. He’s the author of nine books and the host of Real Men Connect, the top-rated podcast for Christian men. Learn more at realmenconnect.com

Dr. Joe will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

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Have you been sexually attracted to yourself, or someone just like you? In this episode, you'll learn three types of self-attraction, my own personal story, and what to do if you are sexually attracted to yourself.

Come to my workshop "What Do I Do With My Sexual Attractions?" at The Porn Free Man online conference on January 6-7, 2023. It's free. Register now at thepornfreeman.com

Here's the Seinfeld clip I quoted: "Falling in love with someone who's just like you" - https://youtu.be/NVDT1ARABvE

Related Husband Material episodes:

• Unwanted Sexual Attraction
• Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire
• How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies
• The Secret Behind Sexual Fetishes
• What Should I Do With My Sexual Desires?

Also check out my free video series with Jay Stringer, The Sexual Fantasy Framework: sexualfantasyframework.com

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• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
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What's it like to be a male survivor of sexual abuse? In our very first community-based episode, Husband Material men tell their stories of sexual abuse. You'll learn how to respond appropriately to the needs of male survivors.

Mike Chapman is a Certified Husband Material Coach and the leader of our community sub-group for survivors of sexual abuse. Contact Mike at [email protected]

Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist, author, and moderator in the Husband Material Community. Contact Doug at douglascarpenter.com/contact

Jordan, Chris, Kevin, Daniel, "Chaz," and Roger are all members of the Husband Material Community.

Resources mentioned:

• 1in6.org - helpful website
• No Longer Ashamed - podcast for survivors
• What Is CSA Normal? - free document by Mike Chapman
• Healing From Sexual Abuse - course by Dr. Doug Carpenter
• Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development - book by Dr. Doug Carpenter (paid link)
• Husband Material Coaching - get professional help to heal 

Husband Material episodes about sexual abuse:

• Was I Sexually Abused? (interview with Dr. Doug Carpenter)
• Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (interview with Dr. Doug Carpenter)
• Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1 (interview with Mike Chapman)
• Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2 (interview with Mike Chapman)
• Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual Abuse (interview with Wendell Moss)
• Rags To Riches To Ruin To Redemption (interview with Dr. Joe Martin)

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Take the Husband Material Journey...

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• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

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