Big, impossible goals are sexy. That’s what the world wants us to think. We have to do all of the things and be great at each one. But unrealistic goals are a challenge for adults with ADHD, and they set us up for failure.

Michelle Carter is an American shot putter and three-time Olympic athlete who took home a gold medal in the Rio 2016 Olympic Games. But more importantly, she’s an adult with ADHD who’s achieved some pretty amazing things by giving herself the space to choose what’s a priority to her and working on her goals one step at a time.

Michelle shares what she learned about ADHD that’s helped her identify and achieve her goals in a way that works for her — plus, we discuss the emotional moment she realized she’d won gold at the Olympics.
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If you're an adult with ADHD who struggles with hobbies, all I have to say is, "SAME!" I find that a lot of us ADHDers struggle to rest and play, and we have all the drama about participating in activities that are not 'productive.' Want to stop over-working and actually get a hobby? I've got 7 doable steps for you! You'll learn why we struggle to have hobbies and how to go out and actually find something that you enjoy doing (and yes, I include a LONG list of hobbies for you to try!).

Books featured in this episode:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Children of the Self Absorbed
You're Not Crazy, It's Your Mother
Dr. Ramani's YouTube Channel
Was It Even Abuse? Restoring Clarity After Covert Abuse

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We end our relationships series by circling back to the most important relationship: the one we have with ourselves. Dr. Russell Ramsay is here with us to chat about why self trust is especially difficult for adults with ADHD, and what we can do to build it.

Dr. Russell Ramsay is co-founder and co-director of the University of Pennsylvania’s Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program and a professor of clinical psychology in the department of psychiatry in the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania. He’s authored several books on ADHD including one that that I reference often called Rethinking Adult ADHD: Helping Clients Turn Intentions into Actions

Learn more about Dr. Russell Ramsay here!

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Saying no can be very difficult for any human, but I believe it's especially hard for adults with ADHD. In this episode you'll learn:

• Why saying no is hard for us
• What executive functions are involved in saying no
• Practical tips on exactly HOW to say no

ADHDer, the more you say no when you want to, the more you are in the driver's seat of your own life. Enjoy!

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ADHDers are notoriously bad at setting boundaries. So many factors go into this, but I believe it’s mostly because we feel poorly about ourselves, we don’t have a lot of self-trust, and we are embarrassed about our annoying ADHD symptoms. The result of this is that we ADHDers often don’t believe we even deserve to set boundaries. Additionally, many of us were not raised in families that talked about or even allowed boundaries to be set…so, it comes to boundaries, most of us are floundering.

A big part of having healthy relationships is being able to express our own personal boundaries. But, how? Like actually, HOW?

I am by no means an expert on this topic, so I invited an expert on to share her wisdom with us: best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab.

Nedra has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This episode has the potential to change your life, so enjoy it!

Nedra’s book, "Set Boundaries Find Peace" and the accompanying workbook are available on amazon, And I highly recommend that you visit her website to take her boundaries quiz…this will help you to determine your next step when it comes to boundaries.

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We are on a mission to improve all of our relationships, and today we discuss the difference between someone who is safe verses someone who is unsafe. This has been a critical (and truthfully, painful) exercise that I have gone through in my own life that has improved my experience of every single relationship that I have. Tune in to hear why it's important to understand safety in relationships and exactly what makes someone relationally safe verses someone who is relationally unsafe. Click here to read the Psychology Today article that I reference in this episode.

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In this episode, we talk about surrounding ourselves with people who are willing and able to meet our needs. AND we talk about the importance of being willing and able to meet THEIR needs, too. It's both/and. You'll learn my 4-tier system for prioritizing relationships and I'll give you permission to let some relationships go. If you want to take these concepts deeper, join my coaching program FOCUSED.

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Most ADHDers struggle with relationships, and I am no exception to this. In the last 3 years, I've done a TON of work in therapy and in coaching, and I've really changed the way that I view relationships. In this 4-part series, I'll share everything I've learned about healthy relationships with you so that you can change your relationships, too.

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It's that time of year when I want to set 100 goals. BIG GOALS. I want to do all the things and I want to do them all perfectly. On today's episode, we talk about why ADHDers struggle to set realistic goals, and how to make sure that we don't set ourselves up for failure by setting outlandish, unreachable goals. You'll walk away with a more grounded sense of how to set goals that you can actually accomplish! Let's go.

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Today you'll hear from 3 of the coaches that I trained this year. They tell you about their experience, why they decided to become coaches, and what they loved/hated about my program.

Interested in training with me? Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/coach for all of the information!

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