In this episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Jaylynn, a woman who was betrayed by her husband's secretive pornography use. She talks about the healing process she's been involved with for the past few years. Program highlights include: - This process has taught her that people can change - Healing can’t be rushed. Forgiveness and trust will come with time - Getting triggered by past betrayals is her “new normal” and how she copes with this new reality - It’s normal and healthy to feel these strong emotions as part of the healing process - Why forgiving and forgetting isn’t a helpful approach for women who have been betrayed. - Why it’s important to slow down and heal thoroughly instead of trying to get better quickly - The nature of betrayal and how it overwhelmed her ability to cope with life - How to find peace regardless of what your addicted spouse chooses - Why making your addicted husband your focus creates more chaos. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.