Few phrases hit harder than “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” In this episode, Tim Tedder explores what it really means, why it often shows up in the shadow of an affair, and how to respond with steadiness instead of panic. Discover when a relationship can be rebuilt—and when it may be time to let go.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
2:20 The Meaning of ILYBINILW
05:40 In what conditions is this statement made?
11:50 How should you respond?
17:25 Can relationships survive this? Should they?

LINKS & EXTRAS

The BUILDING US Course for Couples: AffairHealing.com/building-us

Discernment Counselor Directory: DiscernmentCounselors.com

Other resources to consider if you feel like you’re not “in love” anymore: The Neuroscience of Affair Fog, Is It Affair Fog or Real Love?

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