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When you believe the PMDD Stories in your mind it holds you captive in what can become a damaging relationship

We all know that when we are in PMDD we tell ourselves stories, specifically when we are arguing with our partners 

Once you assign a meaning and reasoning behind the lies it makes them true

If you believe that your partner isn’t attracted to you, then you will begin to feel that way around them whether they have stated that or not. What we believe we create, especially about our PMDD partners. How many times have you told yourself that your partner feels a certain way about you without them ever even mentioning it? Even if your partner denies it, you still believe it because the negative thought is cemented into your mind. 

How do you get rid of it? By speaking it and acknowledging the truth. In this case the truth may be that you do not feel comfortable in your own skin, in your body and you are assuming that your partner feels the same way. We let go of the negative thoughts by embracing the truthful ones. The truth may be that your partner loves and adores your body exactly how it is and has no issue with you physically at all. 

First is to acknowledge all of the negative and ugly thoughts you are thinking. Don’t try and deny them, cover them up or make them seem like they are not driving you crazy

Next, I want you to write them out. It doesn’t matter if you type it or hand write it. I want you to be raw and honest and get it all out.

Next I want you to share it with your partner. Yes share it with them because this is an intimacy tool. When you allow your ego to take control, no intimacy and vulnerability is present. By sharing the bad and the ugly truth of your thoughts with your partner you are letting them back in and this will ultimately bring you all closer. Yes they are initially going to attempt to defend themselves from what you wrote but what’s most important is that they now know what you have been carrying around and they will begin to think, “This is why they have been treating me this way, this is why they have been closed off….because they believe this!” This will be relieving to you and eye opening to your PMDD partner. This is not about proving who is right or wrong but it about asking the hard question of “Is my story the truth or a lie?” Once you know this you can move forward in knowing that the PMDD stories that you have been telling yourself are just that….stories and not the truth about you or your partner. This will help connect to your partner again in your relationship.

 If this is something that you and your partner have been struggling with and its impacting your relationship and you know you need help then contact me to book a session at www.inlovewithpmdd.com or on Instagram @inlovewithpmdd and we can go through this technique together and I will provide you with a customized eBook following your session so that anytime you and your partner start allowing these stories to cause you stress in your relationship and ultimately make your PMDD symptoms worse, you can use these PMDD relationship techniques to turn your relationship around that very same day. I truly believe that having PMDD and an intimate relationship is one of the hardest things in the world to endure and that is why I am here to ensure that we all deserve to have the supportive relationship that we desire and deserve. You Got This!

~Rose

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Have you ever felt angry or hurt because of something your PMDD partner said or did and it caused your stress and made your PMDD symptoms even worse?

Setting healthy boundaries can help you reduce your PMDD symptoms that are magnified when you are stressed and deepen the connection within your relationship

When you are already in PMDD and dealing with the stress of your symptoms, adding to that stress can be detrimental to your nervous system which is why these boundaries need to be in place within your PMDD relationship. 

Usually, when the stress subsides, the body rebalances and we start to feel calm again.

Boundaries are the guidelines we set about our expectations, availability, and energy. Because boundaries communicate how we feel, they prevent us from overcommitting or feeling resentful. They also help give others guidelines with how to treat you. 

They do not have to be hard, aggressive rules. Setting boundaries allows us to be transparent with our partner about how we feel, so we can have a deeper, longer, lasting relationship. 

The word boundary might be interpreted as pushing someone away. It is better described as an invitation to let your partner in to learn more about you and your needs.

Setting boundaries with your partner can improve the strength of your relationship. Not only are you inviting your partner to learn more about you, but you are also claiming responsibility for your emotions and how you take care of yourself.

Benefits to setting healthy boundaries:

1. Take care of mental health. Boundaries allow you to take responsibility for your emotional energy and mental health. Setting healthy boundaries can help you name your limits with your emotional energy in mind.
    
    
2. Give both partners a safe space to be transparent and vulnerable. Setting boundaries creates a safe container for both partners to be honest. It’s a way to grow trust and foster love. 
    
    
3. Learn about yourself. Learning where your boundaries are is a process of tuning into your own needs. 

Setting boundaries allows us to care for ourselves and remove resentment.
 
 

Follow these tips to set boundaries in your relationship:

1. Include your partner. Let your partner know why you might be setting boundaries. Check in with their emotions. Invite your partner to learn about setting boundaries along with you.
    
    
2. Explore what you need. Pay attention to where you might feel resentment, guilt, or anger towards your partner.

●     What makes you feel uncomfortable?
 
 

●     What values are important to you?

1. Make the boundary about you and your needs. When you state a boundary, focus on you. 

●     “It was great to spend time together this weekend. I would like to decompress alone the rest of the night. Want to get lunch in a couple days?”
 
 

●     “In order to continue this discussion, I need us to be calmer.”
 
 

●     “I feel attacked when my point of view isn’t considered. I need a space to feel heard and understood.”
 
 

1. Start with thank you. If you have trouble setting boundaries, start by thanking the other person for their thoughts or requests.

●     “Thank you for wanting to spend time together, but I would like to spend some time decompressing.”
 
 

●     “Thank you for inviting me to spend time with your family. I would like to spend some time

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How many times have you been in PMDD and had a full on story about how something your partner said or did was so messed up and then next thing you know you are looking at them differently or even worse, they look different to you

Have you ever noticed that when you are feeling offended, disrespected, not valued or appreciate d that you partner begins to look differently to you?

They begin to look less attractive and all of the features about them that you do not particularly like are now magnified

You can feel yourself cringe at the sight of them and you ask yourself what are you even doing with this person and think how much better your life would be without them

Well during PMDD, this is pretty much the norm every single month and it can sometimes get to the point to where you are constantly pulling and pushing and your partner and they never know if you’re coming or going

To you this may seem emotionally and often times physically exhausting

If this is something that you constantly struggle with every month I suggest you go to my website www.inlovewithpmdd.com and purchase my signature PMDD affirmation cards and use them as a remind, I believe they are now priced at only 9.99 because I wanted to make sure they are affordable for you to use again and again each month. 

You can also book a private session with me with you or you and your PMDD partner on my website or DM me on Instagram @ inlovewithpmdd and we can go through these reframing and taming techniques together with real life situations that are going on in your relationship. It is amazing to see how quickly my PMDD Partners transform after these sessions and go back to having the relationship that they desire and deserve.

Remember that I am here for you, we are in this together and most importantly…You Got This!

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I AM MINDFUL OF MY ACTIONS TOWARDS MY PMDD PARTNER- PMDD RELATIONSHIP AFFIRMATION SERIES

I know it’s hard to always be kind to your partner especially while you’re in PMDD 

You’re irritable

You’re overwhelmed 

You’re thinking that life isn’t fair that you have to live with this disorder with no cure

Being unkind to your partner only ADDS to your list of frustrations 

How many times have you said things to your partner during PMDD that were harsh and things you know you would never say when you’re not in Pmdd and then felt bad and regretted it later

You have to have PMDD specific relationship tools or you will struggle every month trying to make it work without threatening to leave…again

Save yourself some regret (and save this post) to remind you to Be Kind to your partner…they deserve it and most of all YOU Deserve to have the supportive relationship you Desire!!

Go to my Website: https://www.inlovewithpmdd.com and purchase these Exclusive PMDD Relationship  Affirmation Cards

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inlovewithpmdd

~Rose

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Welcome to the In Love with PMDD Podast I am your Host Rose. I personally have suffered with PMDD for 15 years and what it has affected the most is my intimate relationships. It always seemed like I could keep it together as a mom, with work even with friends but when it came to my partners I was always so overwhelmed and frustrated with the cycle of wanting to break up with my partner every month and not knowing I’d the issues that we were having were real or if they were because of PMDD or both!

So let’s get into the affirmations these are specifically designed to be reminders for you while you are struggling with how you see your partner and your relationship in Hell weeks AKA when PMDD is at its worse 

PMDD Relationship Affirmations 

I am grateful for the support of my PMDD Partner

I am kind to my partner despite my PMDD

I love my life with my partner 

I am focused on the positive qualities of my partner

I am committed to my partner 

I am willing to show my partner Affection, Attention and Affirmation 

I am hopeful of my future with my partner 

I am aware that my life is better with my PMDD Partner

I am good enough for my Partner despite my PMDD 

I am Mindful of my actions towards my PMDD Partner 

These Affirmations will be available on my website www.inlovewithpmdd.com tomorrow for a very affordable price of only $9.99 because I want everyone who has a PMDD Partner to use these affirmations as a reminder during PMDD 

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                                                      Welcome to the “In Love with PMDD” Podcast

•  I am the Host Rose, your PMDD Relationship Coach. Today’s episode is “How to Keep the Peace in PMDD Hell Weeks” Pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder, commonly known as PMDD affects 1 in 20 women, some are diagnosed and some don’t even know they have it. I personally have had PMDD for 15 years and have a partner with whom I have after years and months of trial and error we have created My signature Transformational Trauma Techniques. Let me be clear, Trauma does not cause PMDD but PMDD definitely causes Trauma. My TTT techniques help you cope with your PMDD symptoms, stop the cycle of wanting to break up with your partner every month and have the supportive relationship that us PMDD Champions Desire and Deserve. My signature Transformational Trauma Techniques. Let me be clear, Trauma does not cause PMDD but PMDD definitely causes Trauma. So lets jump right into this episode. Today I will be teaching you “How to Keep the Peace when youre in Hell week” First lets address what Hell week is specifically. This is a term widely known in the PMDD community as the Weeks that PMDD is active in your life which is right after ovulation and leading up to your period. Essentially the symptoms do not subside until you get your period, which provides the well deserved relief from the symptoms. During Hell week your symptoms could range from
• Difficulty concentrating
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Sadness
• Feeling of hopelessness
• Anger or irritability
• Lethargy
• Loss of interest in normal activities
• Food cravings
• Insomnia or hypersomnia
• Misophonia- sensitivity to noise
• Suicidal Thoughts

1.   Know that your partner is going to trigger you

2.   Acknowledge your triggers in regards to your partner- for me it is snoring and noises such as closing drawers and doors, something he normally does but during hell week it seems almost intentional and I get resentful because when I am suffering I just want peace and silence so every sound is like a slap in the face. My partner feels like he has to walk on eggshalls around me and when I am out of PMDD I feel bad about it.

3.   Know what it feels like for you to be emotionally triggered. This is different for everyone. For me, I can feel my heart begin to race and I feel my body heat up and my jaw gets clinched. It took me time and consciousness to be able to stop myself in the moment and recognize what I was feeling and actually labling it. How you feel when you are triggered is systematic, meaning it will occur everytime you are triggered and that is your cue

4.   Once you have identified that you are triggered next we will go over How to Handle Your Emotional triggers while keeping the Peace in Your relationship!

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In this episode we will go in-depth with the 5 Love Languages and how they relate to your Partner and PMDD

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For my intrusive thoughts about my partner I began with these question:

§  What do I believe about my partner right now?

§  What is true?

§  How can I focus on the truth instead of the lie?

Once I allowed myself to really think deeply about these questions, the answers came and so did the clarity about my negative actions that had formed while I was in PMDD with my partner.