Infinite Devotion

If a belief is true, questioning it makes it stronger. If it's fear wearing the mask of morality, questioning it sets you free.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
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Question everything is a maxim I've lived by since I brought it to a men's Bible study years ago, back when Dawn and I were still in the institutional church. In this solo episode I talk about how most of us live by rules we never wrote, handed down by parents, culture and religion, and why we fight to defend them. When a belief feels like who you are, questioning it can feel like death, so we stay small and call it morality. I look at the nice guy belief in men, the women whose mothers told them never to rely on a man, and the beliefs we carry about monogamy, money, the body and sex.

I share what happened when Dawn and I left the church and our whole social circle stopped talking to us, and why grieving a false life is part of the process. We get into choosing truth over safety, love over control and integrity over image, and three questions to ask of any belief: who told me this was true, who benefits from me believing it, and what am I afraid would happen if I let it go. Power exchange magnifies everything. A Dominant leading from fear becomes controlling, and a submissive submitting from fear is performing.

Unexamined beliefs about love shape how you lead, how you follow and where you'll accept love. Rapture is where Dawn and I teach a dynamic built on truth, polarity and surrender from both of you. It's our flagship course for couples. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep098&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Every man says he wants a wild woman, and every woman says she wants to be free. So why are we all so afraid of it?

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep097&utm_content=notes_top

Early in our dynamic I realized the authority Dawn granted me could be used to constrain her or to set her free, and I chose freedom. In this solo episode I talk about genuine desire: what it is, how it differs from obligation and performance, and why so many women have cut themselves off from it. I share how I first wanted Dawn free only inside the box I built, and how I collapsed when her honest desire told me she wasn't attracted to me when I was 80 or 90 pounds heavier.

For men, I get into why we choke out the fire we claim to want, the boyhood need for a mother's steadiness, and how polarity collapses when we manage her to soothe ourselves. For women, I talk about confusing wanting with worthiness and rationing your desire to fit someone else's comfort. Freedom is expensive for both of you, so I close with how to start making space for real desire: wanting without editing, building inner strength that doesn't need her to shrink, and choosing the long road of devotion.

Making space for her real desire, and holding it without collapsing, sits at the heart of everything Dawn and I teach. Rapture is where we go deeper into desire, intimacy and polarity inside a D/s relationship. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep097&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

A week after Dawn opened the sexual side of our dynamic to the world, here is what I learned.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep096&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep096&utm_content=notes_top

Last week Dawn shared that her six months away had become a sexual and spiritual awakening, and that she was starting an OnlyFans. This episode is my reflection on the first week. The response was about 98% positive, starting with an email two minutes after we hit publish. Then I take on a woman's question: if a masculine man is territorial, isn't letting other men see Dawn passive? I share why protecting her by limiting her is just more suppression, and why I choose to keep her safe in her freedom.

We get into simplicity before and after complexity, and how a relationship gets to be easy again once you've done the work. I share what men told me they felt, mostly envy and inspiration, why almost 80% of subscribers were women, and the people who decided everything we teach is now irrelevant. When people can't be themselves around you, you feel the lack of intimacy. Unconditional love is what lets Dawn and me bring each other everything.

Getting through the complexity to a relationship where you can bring each other everything without fear is what Rapture is about. It's Dawn and me sharing everything we've learned about building a dynamic that works in real life. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep096&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
Dawn of Desire, our adult content together: https://dawnofdesire.com

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What happens when a church girl stops hiding her desire?

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep095&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep095&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn steps back up to the mic after six months away to share the sexual and spiritual awakening she went through in that time, and to announce Dawn of Desire, the adult content we now create together.

We talk about the shame and programming that kept her desire locked away, the gap between what turned her on and what she let herself admit, orgasm tears, exhibitionism, and why meeting each other's desires with total acceptance changed everything. It's explicit and honest, and it's the fullest picture yet of what a long-term devoted relationship can open up.

Desire buried under shame is one of the most common things we see in the women who come to us. Rapture is where Dawn and I teach how D/s can hold intensity and safety at the same time, so you never have to choose between love and passion. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep095&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
Dawn of Desire, our adult content together: https://dawnofdesire.com

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Dawn is back for the first time in six months, answering your questions about submission, surrender and living fully.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
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GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep094&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn rejoined me on the podcast for the first time in six months, and since we were launching Rapture, we put out an Ask Me Anything on Instagram. She answers whether the collar gets hot in the desert, whether she wants this dynamic at 75, and how she stays submissive when she disagrees with me. We talk about women who want to submit only in the exact ways they want, and why being right or having your way is a poor man's version of self-worth.

She shares the choices she makes about her clothes and hair, what she says about family and kids, and what the most liberating parts of surrender have been. We get into jealousy and the fear of the loss of love, why you can't break your ego, and where sharing a desire ends and topping from the bottom begins. And Dawn tells how letting me decide her workouts freed her from one of the places she held on to control the hardest.

So much of what Dawn shares here, from needing her way to controlling her workouts, comes back to letting go of control. Living Surrendered is her workshop on exactly that, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep094&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does it really take to build a Dom/sub dynamic that's loving and lasts? I share what Dawn and I call devotional dominance and submission.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep093&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep093&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn and I were together ten years in a vanilla relationship before we started our 24/7 dynamic at the end of 2018. What we live now, we call devotional dominance and submission, and we earned it through years of mistakes, hurting each other, and staying in the discomfort. Devotion starts with devotion to yourself, bringing all of who you are into the relationship. For the Dominant that means leadership rooted in presence and purpose, and for the submissive it means surrender chosen from safety, with structure and love held together.

I walk through the patterns that quietly take dynamics apart: the fear of being too much, resistance to structure, control disguised as love, performance-based submission, and avoidant dominance. Then the five things that make it work: clear structure, emotional transparency, inner work and self ownership, erotic permission, and shared devotion. At the end I share how I led from insecurity in our early years, the hammock where I chose Dawn, how she obeyed from fear and performance, and what changed when we started telling the truth.

Building this kind of dynamic means letting it reshape you from the inside out. Rapture is the most complete journey we've created for couples who want to do that together. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep093&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

You sent in your questions about how Dawn and I actually live our dynamic day to day. I answer them live.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
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I took your questions on an Instagram live, some about our life and some looking for advice. I talk about why the Dominant is the solution whatever the problem is, the difference between a wounded inner child and a man who likes Legos, and how I asked Dawn to be my submissive with years of fantasy and almost no research. I answer the wife who asked how to get her husband to dom her harder, the shy woman afraid to tell her boyfriend she wants D/s, and the submissive whose Dom goes dismissive and avoidant under stress.

I also share how we live it: D/s on the road in an RV, the O-ring on Dawn's collar, how I handle money, Dawn calling me Sir around friends and family, and what happens when she's sick. There are no breaks from the dynamic, so I talk about keeping myself full, the two-way code of conduct in our contract, why we don't do punishments, and why a Dom who can't stop in a scene has lost his inner dominance.

So many of these answers come down to the structure underneath our life together: our contract, our code of conduct, how decisions get made and how I correct without punishing. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building that structure for your own relationship. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep092&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Is disagreement a sign your Dom/sub dynamic is failing? I think it's one of the best things that can happen to it, if you know what to do with it.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep091&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep091&utm_content=notes_top

This episode came out of an online conversation with someone who was feeding my words into an AI chatbot, insisting that a Dom/sub dynamic needs structure to prevent disagreement. I see it differently. Disagreement is inevitable between two human beings, and how you meet it decides whether your dynamic deepens or slowly rots under resentment. You can have all of your kink and still treat each other like human beings.

I speak to Dominants about the difference between leading and managing her performance, and to submissives about how false obedience puts a brick in the wall of resentment that shows up later, often in the bedroom. I share how Dawn learned to speak up, why our structure includes a pause button, the weekly check-in I teach, and the realignment protocol we use: pause, she speaks first, I speak last, find the fire under the smoke, and reaffirm that she's mine. Handling disagreement this way has made our dynamic deeper, kinkier and more fun.

A dynamic that can hold disagreement has repair built into its structure. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building yours, including the weekly check-in, the rituals and the agreements that bring you back to each other. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep091&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

You crave a man who leads with clarity and doesn't flinch. So why does he never seem to show up? This one is for the women.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep090&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep090&utm_content=notes_top

After Ep 88, Why Submissives Resist, the biggest reaction came from women: hundreds of messages saying this is what I've been craving, and doubting a man like that even exists. This episode is my answer to you. Your craving for a strong, grounded man is sacred, and longing on its own is not submission. I talk about projection and blame, the subtle ways women block the very leadership they ask for, and why a good man will never fight you for the lead.

We get into the difference between safety and comfort, why "I just need to feel safe first" is so often a stall, and how Dawn jumped in with two feet with no guarantees. I explain why trust starts in your body, why using your voice is expression and staying silent is often the real control, and what it means to surrender beyond your preferences. Then we look at the ego traps of the good sub identity, the resentment that blocks surrender, and how to live devotion in small daily acts, returning to openness again and again.

If you're the woman gripping the wheel while asking to be led, Dawn made Living Surrendered for you. It's her workshop on how she let go of control, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep090&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What if letting go takes no effort at all, and the healing work is what keeps you holding on?

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep089&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep089&utm_content=notes_top

Sven Loss came on the podcast because so many of you asked for him. Sven helps people see who they are behind their conditioning, and he uses relationships as the catalyst. We both came into this work backwards: his shift came crying on an office rooftop, mine came in an EMDR session. Sven puts it simply: if your letting go requires effort, you are still holding on.

We get into why people stay addicted to the problem, the void that opens when that identity falls away, and why living from obligation kills desire and intimacy. Sven explains why trying to be more masculine only reinforces the belief that you are not, and we talk about following impulse, how relationships mirror everything, and enjoying people without needing them. I share why peace is the launching pad for a big life, and why in our dynamic the Dominant submits to the truth.

Sven names the trap so many men fall into: trying harder to be the man you think you should be. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step inner path I walked to stop performing and lead from what is real. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep089&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book