Infinite Devotion

She says she wants to submit. So why does she keep pushing back? This one is for the Dominant men.

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GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep088&utm_content=notes_top

When a submissive says she wants to surrender and then questions, tests and resists you, the easy move is to blame her. In this episode I turn the mirror back on the Dominant. Her resistance is feedback, and it shows you exactly where your frame isn't yet deep enough to hold her. I share how Dawn's little questions used to irk me, and how they faded once I dropped my fear of upsetting her.

We get into real dominance as presence, pressure and vision, containment instead of control, and why her body can't submit until yours does. I walk through the mistakes that crack the container: overexplaining, inconsistency, leading from need, and softening when she gets emotional. Then we look at structure plus stillness, holding her chaos without flinching, why your goal is to be trusted, and dominance as a vow you live every day.

If she wants to submit and keeps resisting, the work starts in you. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I took to build the inner frame she can finally let go into. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep088&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What are submissive women really asking, and what is the heartbreak underneath their questions?

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
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GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep087&utm_content=notes_top

This Q&A comes from my submissive listeners, and so many of the questions carried the same theme: the ache of craving submission and the pain of not having that need met. Men, I want you to hear this one too. I answer how to live the dynamic with kids and family, why you keep dating each other, how a woman with a dominant career can transition home through ritual, and what to do when he compares you to online submissives.

We get into why women can't emasculate men, why your voice is essential to healthy submission, and where a submissive's work begins: setting down the fixing and receiving first. I talk about the feminine descending into her felt sense, surrendering outside the bedroom by acting from desire instead of obligation, believing in a man who is still learning to lead, expressing sadness and anger without blame, and how to know when it is time to walk away.

Every answer here comes back to receiving first, speaking up and letting go of the fixing. Submissive Foundations walks you through building that ground in yourself so your submission can be free. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep087&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What happens to the rest of your life when you build Dominance from the inside?

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
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GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep086&utm_content=notes_top

Dominance, the way I teach it, is about the man you become. In this episode I walk through the ways I've watched inner Dominance change men's lives far beyond their relationship, starting with how you relate to yourself: trusting your decisions, holding yourself accountable, and trading self-doubt for confidence. I share how leaving my nice guy decision-making behind showed up in my business, my finances and my negotiating. We get into social magnetism, and why easing social anxiety means getting underneath the neediness for approval.

I talk about boundaries as the way to prevent burnout, being present with her emotions and with chaos, and leadership rooted in trust and a clear vision. I share how this work took me from close to 300 pounds to taking care of myself because I wanted to, and why integrity means being the same man everywhere. Then fatherhood, creativity and a spirituality that stays grounded. The more your Dominance shows up across your whole life, the safer she feels to let go of control.

Every area I covered here grows from the same 12 steps, starting with taking 100% responsibility for your life and taking care of yourself first. Becoming a Dominant Man walks you through all of them. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep086&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does a woman's surrender look like when it comes from truth, desire, and a body she trusts? Ginger Kern joins me to go all the way to the core of it.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep085&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep085&utm_content=notes_top

Ginger Kern is a dear friend, and she and Dawn journeyed together in a women's container a few years ago. Ginger serves women's desire and voice, and we go straight to truth as the highest value, and why even a Dominant man needs to be in submission to it. She describes what it feels like to stand in front of a man who holds his own spine, and widens the word desire to mean aliveness itself: tears, rage, moans, whatever is moving through her body. Then she guides the women listening down out of the mind and into the body.

We talk about hungry minds, why confusion is not a feeling, and why reading another book won't change what your body is holding. Ginger shares how she built trust in herself painstakingly over decades, and why a woman has to create the space within her to receive a powerful man. I speak to the woman who wants to surrender: you can only give what you own. We also get into men settling for a shadow of submission instead of earning it, men as vessels, and what unconditional love really means.

Surrender that comes from owning yourself is what Submissive Foundations is built on. It walks you back into your body, your voice, and your desire, so you have a whole self to give. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep085&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What happened to our dynamic when Dawn stepped away from the business? This is the update so many of you asked for.

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GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep084&utm_content=notes_top

Around the first of the year, Dawn had a deep knowing over breakfast that she needed to be done with her part in the business. In this solo episode I share what has happened since. Her feelings were valuable information, and I made the decision, which is an important nuance for any Dominant: you have to know the difference between egoic resistance you lead her past and a deep truth you need to follow. Our dynamic had become so intertwined with the podcast, coaching and courses that we were analyzing ourselves constantly, and pulling her out brought it back to life.

With the stress gone, Dawn's sexuality has gone into the stratosphere and the kink side of our dynamic has exploded, so going forward I'll be sharing more of it. I also talk about how I had to grow. I had become too patient and overly reliant on compassion, so I raised the standard, stopped backing down, and let her resistance burn itself out while I stayed grounded in where I'm taking us. Much of what I thought was her resistance was a mirror of my own hesitancy.

If you keep circling the same resistance with her, look at your own hesitancy first. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I took to build leadership solid enough for her resistance to melt into. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep084&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What happens when a woman who teaches union finally marries, and finds her own work standing in the way?

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
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GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
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Christina McBoyle has guided women around the world into their feminine essence and into union for over twelve years, and she's a friend Dawn and I have known for several years. She met her husband Ryan right after a painful surrender of her desire for marriage, married him six weeks later, and was pregnant within six months. In this conversation she shares how much her work was taking from her, how pouring herself into teaching was quietly sabotaging the polarity of her marriage, and the dream she had the night before we recorded. I share what I once told her by the water near Austin: I would never let Dawn do what she does.

We talk about why you can't lead and follow at the same time, the idea that union begins where ego dies, and her deeper understanding of she descends and he rises as the full deconstruction of a woman's identity. Christina describes setting down the curated self, the freedom of being fully kept by a man, and what marriage and motherhood feel like now. Then we take on the question many women will ask: do I have to quit working? We get into prioritizing the relationship, desire as the feminine imperative, and how pouring yourself outward can numb you to your own longing.

If you're the woman gripping control and pouring yourself into everything but your relationship, Dawn made Living Surrendered for you. It's her workshop on how she let go of control, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep083&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What if the way out of performing your life is to perform, fully, with your whole heart?

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep082&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep082&utm_content=notes_top

Madelyn Moon, author of Artist of Love, joins me to talk about expression as a woman's capacity to hold and move everything she feels. We get into decision fatigue and its roots in losing touch with her own desire, and how the impulse women have learned to override is where the oracle lives. Madelyn shares how bodybuilding once gave her a false sense of control, and how sacred theater, improv and play at her Unbound intensive help women break through perfectionism by stepping fully into the very performance they feel stuck in.

We talk about shadow work as the darker material your ego protects you from, how a push pull experience of love learned from a parent gets passed on, and how fully embodying a shadow creates real compassion. Madelyn speaks about harsh grief and soft grief after losing her young puppy, Jack, and I share my own loss of Barkley. We close with turning your drama into dharma and making art out of everything life hands you.

If you're the woman who lives in her head, always trying to do it right, Dawn made Living Surrendered for you. It's her workshop on how she let go of control, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep082&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Nobody believes men. Traver Boehm does, and he believes in them too.

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep081&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep081&utm_content=notes_top

Traver Boehm is the founder of the Uncivilized men's movement and the author of Today I Rise, Man Uncivilized and 28 Days in Darkness. He tells how his own divorce turned into a year of phone calls with men who had nowhere else to go, and why he fell in love with the courage and sensitivity of men. We talk about a culture that labels men by their behaviors instead of asking what happened to the boy, and why the walls around a man's heart are there to protect something precious.

Traver shares why we can't selectively numb, how to swing into emotion without losing your structure, and why the mastery is moving between the primal and the emotional as the moment calls for it. I ask what would happen if you took one week off from your distractions. Then Traver takes us inside his 28 days in total darkness, what it taught him about death and who he is beneath every skill, and why he's going back in for 49.

Traver and I both believe a man can take the walls down around his heart and keep every bit of his power. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12 step path I walked to do that inside my own marriage. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep081&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does it really take to live polarity in a relationship? Isabelle invited me onto her podcast, A Date With A Divine, to go deep.

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep080&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep080&utm_content=notes_top

Isabelle had me on her podcast, A Date With A Divine, to talk about polarity and the relationship Dawn and I have built. I share how the passion between us had faded, the night I asked Dawn to be my submissive, and how our dynamic taught us what masculine and feminine really are. We get into why most people don't know their truth, how codependency hides behind spiritual language, and how I used to abandon myself to keep Dawn from being even a little unhappy.

For the men, I talk about power with an open heart, why her truth lives in how she feels, and why her emotions only feel like too much because of the young boy in you who never healed. I walk through a day in Dawn's life: how I hold the structure, track her cycle, and make my own choices without caving. Isabelle asks what Dawn gives me in return, and I get emotional answering. We close on God as authenticity embodied, and why meeting the divine means sitting with your own pain.

Becoming the man who can let her feel everything she feels is inner work, and Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I walked to do it. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep080&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Dominance and submission go far beyond the kink. For Dawn and me, they became the structure for the deepest intimacy either of us has ever known.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep079&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep079&utm_content=notes_top

In this solo episode I lay out what D/s really is in our marriage. It starts with intimacy, the willingness to let all of yourself be seen and to see all of your partner without turning away. A dynamic like ours exposes both people over and over, and that's exactly why it's so powerful. From there I get into polarity: the masculine as container and presence, the feminine as flow and life force, and why a flat relationship is almost always a polarity problem.

Then we go to surrender, on both sides. She can't surrender into a void, so the man has to go first and make himself strong enough to hold the weight of both of you. I talk about why faking it in a scene never lasts, why there's no doormat in a truly submitted woman, and why your relationship is a mirror showing you where you still aren't free. Strip away every label and this is still what's playing out in your relationship.

If this is the kind of dynamic you want, one built on intimacy, polarity and surrender from both of you, Rapture is where we teach it in full. It's our flagship course for couples. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep079&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book