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The inner child gets stuck emotionally at the age that the abuse happened. We internalized the abuse and have carried it as our responsibility, and we have shamed ourselves for it ever since. We have mirrored our experience as not being valued, loved, or worthy of being cared for and carried it as our self perception.

Joe discusses how Healing the inner child is first understanding that an emotional child lives within us. We then reparent this child to give them what they need to grow, develop and evolve into an empowered adult. What this child needed was safety through love, care, attention, and nurturing. As your inner child starts to feel safer within you and the two of you learn to trust each other, we then begin to discipline the inner child. We set limits and healthy boundaries as we guide this child through its fears towards internal freedom.

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In this episode, Joe talks about the self-conscious, shame-based feelings that he constantly faces and how he has learned to deal with them without mood altering. This episode delves deep into the protective actions one takes to hide feelings of shame and paralyzing yourself from life’s most simple activities!

Topics in this Episode:

-Starting with his first drink at 10, followed closely with prescription drugs and eventual heavy drug use later in life, Joe discussed the mind-altering use to mask the feelings of shame and the ultimate exhilarating “freedom” that followed

-Building the Wall of Hiding from Yourself and Everyone Else

-Looking into the Mirror and Seeing an Emotional Child, Not an Adult Ready to Live in This World

-Dealing with “Going Outside Your Comfort Zone”

-Learning to Adjust to New Surroundings and Protecting Yourself by Withdrawing from Daily Life Activities

-Self-Sabotage

-Seeing below the False Self…

-Cutting Off from Your True Self and Realizing “Shame Rolls Down Hill”

-Leaving Situations or Family Gatherings where Shaming is Continual

-Heal the Shame by Coming Out of Hiding

Shame is Exhausting, Depressing and a Dull Ache You Can’t Pinpoint

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What is below all those layers you have built up? What are you hiding down there? What is your secret? 

Uncovering your secret is an emotional process that can't be forced, it requires patience. There are things in our path that only time can move. 

While we wait for the next layer to reveal itself, we allow ourselves time and a safe space to grieve the previous layer and feed our soul as part of the healing process. 

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How do we recover from our traumatic experiences? When does the feeling of shame enter into the equation? What is the "pain of shame," and how should we deal with it?

In this episode, learn how to deal with these emotional pains...and the dull ache that resides with it every day of your life! Learn to resolve trauma, not just store it away! Joe covers the effects of feeling "shamed" and not resolving the traumatic events that have led you to this point, as well as the difficulty in taking the steps necessary to face what put you in this place, to begin with. Learn how to overcome all of this to move forward and leave the shame and abuse you feel and have experienced behind!

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In this episode, Joe talks about how to deal with anger and not being afraid of being angry or having people being angry at you. Avoid feeling like you have to be a "people pleaser" to avoid people getting angry with you!

Learn to set boundaries and not allow people to disrespect you and cross lines. Learn how boundaries can make everyone involved feel uncomfortable, yet become easier over time to set and manage. Overall a short but to the point revealing episode that effectively brings to light a crucial interpersonal relationship rule for those struggling with feelings of avoiding showing angry at all costs!

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In this episode, Joe dives into the topic of feelings, thoughts, and self-pity. See how emotions take you over and how you should just let thoughts just "be." Learn how self-pity can actually be a good thing in your grieving process.

Find out how going deeper into your pain can eventually lead you to greater joy in life. Learn to expose yourself to your fears and learn how to make them part of your daily existence. Dealing with situations that can lead to rejection makes everyone uncomfortable, and the natural reaction is to try to avoid it. Joes' response to that is to face it head-on and put in the work to turn your nervous system down to become more comfortable with these scenarios….scenarios that are currently destroying your peace!

Finally, hear how re-living those negative experiences in your mind will allow you to become stronger! 

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When The Pain Of Avoiding Your Past Becomes Greater Than Facing It, The Journey Begins. Strap In; It's Going To Be A Long Hard, Tough Road. But At The End Of It, There Are Great Rewards 

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Humiliation; being exposed before you're ready to be exposed. Humiliation brings a vast wave of powerful, uncontrollable emotion that can lead us into a shame spiral and emotional paralysis. 

I guarded against humiliation at every moment, in everything I did in life. Not dealing with the emotions of embarrassment, I learned not to feel safe within myself, to have no internal boundaries, and to have no self-protection in guarding against the extremely debilitating feelings of shame that the humiliation triggered.

To overcome humiliation, we need to embarrass ourselves to ourself. By becoming comfortable with being embarrassed, we fear humiliation less and, therefore, slowly healing our hypervigilance, codependency, panic, self-hate, and shame.

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We internalized happiness and success based on what society tells us it should be, not based on our internal moral compass. Our sole purpose has become to portray the image of an illusion that does not exist. Conform and be accepted or be authentic and be shammed. 

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Today I Answer Your Questions. We Cover Fitting In Vs. Belonging To Self, Sitting With The Feelings Vs. Feeling Sorry For Yourself, And How Do I Reveal My Trauma In New Relationships.

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