Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Today’s guest is Nathalie Savell of the Empowering Stepmoms Summit. Natalie is a holistic psychotherapist, a certified holistic health coach and a certified stepmom coach. She sees psychotherapy clients dealing with anxiety and life transition challenges, relationship issues and spiritual disease in person, via video chat and through walk and talk sessions in Baltimore, Maryland and coaches stepmoms virtually to help them go from overwhelm, confusion, stress and resentment to confidence, clarity and connection. We are discussing thriving in step parenting. Join us!

“People have more power than they think. I hear a lot of stepmoms feel so out of control and so disempowered by the ex, the kids, whatever their partner is doing and there is support out there."

"It doesn't take as much as you think to get on a path that's a lot more helpful that makes you feel a lot more empowered."

"Get the support that you need and deserve. Reach out and get it."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The mind body connection

-Flexibility and how that relates to kindness and firmness

-The Think Tree exercise and how that facilitates flexibility with boundaries

-Building connection in step-parenting

-Control and step-parenting - finding balance

-Adjusting from step-parenting to raising one's own child

-Parenting and commitment

-Co- parenting as a stepmom when the child's other parent doesn't want them to participate

-Establishing boundaries for self care

-Giving yourself permission to have feelings about your stepkids and not feeling pressured to feel loving all the time

-The value of couple work in being a united front

-Finding bottom line things you agree on and where your boundaries are

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love the term Joyful Courage so much. It's like the courage to keep doing the work. The courage to keep going and you know, I call the stepmoms in my group "stepmom warriors" some times because I'm like "You're a warrior, keep fighting, keep going, fighting the good fight to be a loving person." For me, it's like a spiritual warrior for being on a path of love. It takes a lot of courage because it's not easy and a lot of people are going to judge you. And a lot of people are going to naysay you. And to add in that joy in there, so not only are you being brave and courageous, and like keep putting one foot in front of the other but how can you have fun while doing it and why not? So why not peel back the layers and see how you can be childlike in your battles, in your love battles. I think we all need to be that way, to have fun, so it's important to take things lightly at the same time that you work hard at them.

Resources:

Interview series on NathalieSavell.com

Where to find Nathalie:

Nathaliesavell.com
Stepmom Strong Coaching group on Facebook
Stepmom Strong Facebook page
Stepmom Strong Coaching on Instagram

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at [email protected] to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Solo show:

Resources mentioned:

Eps 133 – Politics and Parenting 

Take the Next Step – Community resource organization

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Solo show:

• Here we are – a new week, another school shooting
• Expanding from the family unit and into the community
• Choices we have when we see people who need help
• We are all in this together – in this life
• It takes a village and we have to look out for each other
• All kids deserve advocates, not just our kids
• What can I do to support connection, feeling felt, feeling understood, inside of my community?
• Political conflict in the family…. My story and how my brother saved the day
• Conscious parenting is really conscious living
• Understanding is not the same as accepting or valuing what others value
• Belonging and significance matters for children AND adults
• Listening to understand
• We get to look out for each other
• “I see you”
• Declaring to inquire about mentorship at the local HS
• What is the action you will take?

Resources mentioned:

Eps 133 – Politics and Parenting  

Take the Next Step – Community resource organization

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at [email protected] to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Today’s guest is Deborah Reber, mother of an autistic son, founder of Tilt Parenting to help parents find more peace, joy and support along the way while parenting an atypical child in a conventional world. We are discussing her new book. Join us!

“It's hard to know what to do when you realize your kid is atypical."

"Kids who are exceptional really just means the exception"

"We have to battle our insecurities maybe a little bit more because what we are doing isn't necessarily working."

"Behavior is all information. It isn't personal."

"Judgment is where we create separation."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I just keep thinking bravery. I think the parents who are raising kids who are moving through the world a little differently have to be brave even when they don't feel brave and so I would say, "Keep going back in, when we have a bad day and showing up and being present with bravery. Presence and bravery. Presence has been the thing that has changed my experience with Asher more than any other tool and it's in the presence that I've been able to find joy in our parenting together.

Resources:

Differently Wired

Where to find Deborah:

Tilt Parenting l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram 

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Today’s guest is Deborah Reber, mother of an autistic son, founder of Tilt Parenting to help parents find more peace, joy and support along the way while parenting an atypical child in a conventional world. We are discussing her new book. Join us!

“It's hard to know what to do when you realize your kid is atypical."

"Kids who are exceptional really just means the exception"

"We have to battle our insecurities maybe a little bit more because what we are doing isn't necessarily working."

"Behavior is all information. It isn't personal."

"Judgment is where we create separation."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The loneliness of raising a differently wired kid
• Accommodating kids with invisible differences
• Introversion vs extroversion and how they are perceived in the classroom
• Applying positive discipline parenting philosophies to differently wired kids
• Managing expectations in problem solving when raising neuro atypical kids
• Becoming aware of our own judgements of other people's children
• How to be a support when you see a child acting out in public
• Approaching neuro differences as parents and discussing them with our kids
• Educators and parents of neuro-typical kids as allies to parents of neuro atypical kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I just keep thinking bravery. I think the parents who are raising kids who are moving through the world a little differently have to be brave even when they don't feel brave and so I would say, "Keep going back in, when we have a bad day and showing up and being present with bravery. Presence and bravery. Presence has been the thing that has changed my experience with Asher more than any other tool and it's in the presence that I've been able to find joy in our parenting together.

Resources:

Differently Wired

Where to find Deborah:

Tilt Parenting l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram 

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at [email protected] to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

 Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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SOLO SHOW!!

Teacher posted about a difficult class…

Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….” 

Lets talk about this:

Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership.

Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught”

Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship.

Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children.

KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION. 

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SOLO SHOW!!

Teacher posted about a difficult class…

Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….” 

Lets talk about this:

• The swing from authoritarian to permissive
• What is kind and firm
• Authoritative – structure and freedom
• The most important tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship we build with our children – that is what this week in the Academy is all about.
• No boundaries/limits – not a solid relationship
• No voice/ freedom – not a solid relationship

• Mutual respect?
• Problem solving?
• Dignity in tact? – Dignity, the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.

Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership.

Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught”

Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship.

Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children.

KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION. 

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EALY EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH MAY 15TH!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at [email protected] to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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Today’s guest is Mary Nelsen-Tamborski, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego and also a certified positive discipline trainer and parent coach. Mary’s formal training is secondary to the life training she got from her mother, Dr. Jane Nelsen, a marriage and family therapist and author of all the positive discipline books. Mary is a popular keynote speaker, and workshop presenter. We are discussing mistakes as opportunities to learn. Join us!

“I find that these principles are universal so they are great, obviously for parents and children but it's also just human beings in general.”

"The lens that we see our kids out of is everyone being equally worthy of dignity and respect it's no wonder that how we treat our kids , it should be a mirror of how we treat our friends and how we treat our coworkers and the checkers at the grocery store. It's about human to human relationships."

"You have to break down to break through." `

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Resources:

Jane Nelsen’s book Serenity

Where to find Mary:Website

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Today’s guest is Mary Nelsen-Tamborski, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego and also a certified positive discipline trainer and parent coach. Mary’s formal training is secondary to the life training she got from her mother, Dr. Jane Nelsen, a marriage and family therapist and author of all the positive discipline books. Mary is a popular keynote speaker, and workshop presenter. We are discussing mistakes as opportunities to learn. Join us!

“I find that these principles are universal so they are great, obviously for parents and children but it's also just human beings in general.”

"The lens that we see our kids out of is everyone being equally worthy of dignity and respect it's no wonder that how we treat our kids , it should be a mirror of how we treat our friends and how we treat our coworkers and the checkers at the grocery store. It's about human to human relationships."

"You have to break down to break through." `

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• How positive discipline impacts other relationships in our lives
• Positive discipline as a theory and the reality of implementation
• Mistakes as opportunities to learn and navigating shame
• Solutions oriented problem solving versus consequences
• Dealing with your own emotional stuff when encountering challenging behaviour
• The role of regular family meetings
• The importance of apologies
• Making amends after we make mistakes
• What to do when you "lose it"
• Post-conflict communication and rebuilding closeness
• Managing triggers and being called out on your stuff
• Learning and growing as a family in positive discipline
• Assumptions & consequences - 3 R's & 1 H
• Brain development and consequences
• Genuine curiosity and asking curious questions to improve communication
• Curiosity as a way of being
• Shedding ego to engage in a meaningful way
• Connecting early to keep the lines of communication open for adolescence
• Treating your children as friends - a positive discipline perspective

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I really think it's about accepting yourself as being an imperfect parent, that there's no such thing as a perfect parent. You would think I would have an amazing advantage being raised by the author, being trained and being a therapist. Like, I really should have this parenting gig down and there's a helpful reminder with my children daily that there is no such thing as a perfect parent and just having, like you had said in the beginning, progress. Progress, not perfection and just really kind of being gentle with yourself that when you do blow it, because you will, having the courage to accept it, admit it, and then repair it and know that this courage stuff is never ending. We get opportunities to practice it daily and you can have joy in that when you accept, when you shift your thinking, as in, "Oh my gosh, I was imperfect, ha! I have an opportunity to teach my child that they get to be imperfect too and that we are in this journey together, this is the first time that I've been a mom of a 9 year or a 5 year old or an 11 year old, this my first time. I can read all the books in the world, I can even be raised by the author and guess what? It's still my first time." So, I'm doing the best I can and the courage to accept that I'm not perfect and we get to be joyful while we go through that process.

Resources:

Jane Nelsen’s book Serenity

Where to find Mary:
Website

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE 

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at [email protected] to explore the possibility.

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Where to find Mary:

Website

Thank you community! You are all so amazing.

TOGETHER we are making an impact on the world.

Today is a solo show…. I am getting vulnerable once again and shedding light on an area that I am not so proud of AND see as an opportunity for us all to grow as humans in relationship with each other.

The white bubble.

I know I am not the only person that lives a really homogenous life when it comes to diversity. AND, I know that many of you can celebrate LOTS of diversity in your life and relationships.

Today I just wanted to call myself and anyone else in the community out in an effort to DO BETTER. The world is made up of a variety of people, from a diverse pool of cultures, experiences, and backgrounds.

When I look out into the “positive parenting” world, I see lots of white faces. When I think about the people that listen to my show and participate in my community, I see a lot of white faces.

I love all those white faces AND, I am recognizing that I could do more to bring more diverse voices onto the show and into our community – and into MY personal life as well. AND, because I get to speak from the platform of Joyful Courage, I get to be transparent and invite you all to join me.

Whew!

I am excited! We all get to take steps to shift the way the world is currently operating, and those of us with privilege, even if it is simply the color of our skin, have a part to play in that shift. I hope you will join me.

And for those of you in the community who ARE people of color, please feel free to reach out and let me know how I can do better! I value your voice. Help me find guests that can tell stories and give support from a POV that is different from my middle class white woman lens.

I love you all!

Thank you for listening!!

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