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Dedication: I love you Jessica, Micki, Stephanie and Jennette. Thank you for being my support and my safe harbor through the journey of raising teens.

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Solo show!  I am digging into my own trenches and what is currently alive in my experience of parenting two adolescent kids.  Pulling back the curtain to share what it means to truly pull back the curtain and TRUST the process.

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Content:

• The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting
• Parenting for the long term…
  • Keeping in mind brain development
  • Mistakes are opportunities for learning
  • Everyone should have a voice
  • Relationship matters
  • Kindness, firmness and trust
• Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model
• My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen
• Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together
• All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society
• In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices
• I know I am not alone in this rub
• We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor
• Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound
• GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com
• If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves
• We then can evoke trust in our relationships
• Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes)
• The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back
• Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding
• Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly
• “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer
• Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter
• Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available
• Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!)
• Neutral allows space for relationship with our children
• The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them.
• Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy
• There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up
• Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably
• We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different
• Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life!
• DAILY INTENTION CARDS – 31 cards for setting a daily intention joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards coupon code: PODCAST for 10% off your first order J

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

One more in 2017 – Boise, ID November 4th - This is for every mom
For more information, shoot me an email – [email protected]
Or register now at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

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Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

• Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully
• Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”
• Navigating fear
• The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard
• Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing
• Our olders have mixed feelings
• The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings  - awareness of what is happening internally for us
• What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression
• What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible
• Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings
• Cure – more connection, more empathy
• “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”
• Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”
• Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks
• Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!
• Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release
• Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig
• Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time
• “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings
• Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them
• Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older
• Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham
• ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out
• Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child
• Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent
• Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

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Sarah’s FREE Stop Yelling Ecourse
Sarah’s virtual Introducing New Baby Workshop ((STARTS 10/19)

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Daily Intention Cards

Ready for some support in the practice of being a conscious parent??  I am so excited to share my latest project with the community. A deck of DAILY intention cards that you can use as you grow in your awareness of BEING the parent you most desire to be!

Follow me on Instagram as I roll them out to the community!

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Welcome to this week’s solo show! Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America. Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves...

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Welcome to this week’s solo show!  Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America.  Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

• Classroom management is slippery
• Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have
• Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers
• Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics
• Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know”
• Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students
• There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home
• Teachers fall back on behavior systems
• “Charting” children’s behavior
• Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom
• Temperament matters
• So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need?
• You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team
• When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers
• Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others
• Teachers have a tricky job
• Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included
• Use curiosity
• How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children
• It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child”
• Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher
• Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship
• Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others
• The person that benefits the most is your child!

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Where to find Angela and Maren:

Website l Facebook l Instagram

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call. Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves...

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

• College friends turned podcast co-hosts
• Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas
• Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents
• SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like
• Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience
• Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule
• Freedom to travel
• Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing
• Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing
• Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills
• Vastness of homeschooling
• Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism
• Being conscious about what your main goal is
• Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest
• Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready
• Early entry into extra-curricular activities
• Simplicity Parenting John Paine
• Supporting kids through their changes of heart
• It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story
• The process of navigating waning interest is rich
• Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream
• Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Where to find Angela and Maren:

Website l Facebook l Instagram

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

Registration remains open for my Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

:::::

Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week! Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

A Free Spirit Life

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.  Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/

or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

Todays Content

Thank You!

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Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week!  Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

A Free Spirit Life

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.   Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/

or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

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• Join us today!
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Todays Content

• Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends
• Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD
• Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters
• Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about
• Shopping cart analogy
• My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences
• Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way
• Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do?
• The space between authoritarian and permissive styles
• Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness
• True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust
• Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship
• Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable
• My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world
• You have to be who you are
• So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill
• Children get to DESIGN themselves
• Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear
• My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust
• What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group
• GIVEAWAY!! Win a copy of Love Warrior by writing a review of the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes

Thank You!

Come back next week for a brand new interview! Listen to the podcast through the website OR subscribe!!! Find me on iTunes, Google Play or iHeartRadio! 

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting. Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully. As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work. In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

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 Where to find Alison:

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 Change the World in A Generation (video)

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