Lala's old podcasts

In this week's episode Lala is joined by the amazing Lemar! Lemar rose to fame after staring in BBC's Fame Academy and went on to release 5 platinum albums. Lemar now has his own podcast 'The Lemar Show' where he delves into the music industry highs and lows with a range of special guests. This week Lemar and Lala discuss:

Adjusting to fame

Gender and race equality in the music industry

Can you suggest tips for approaching a guy who isn't interested

What will you be telling your daughter about boys and your son about girls?

I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years but we haven't met each other's families or friends because he says he isn't ready. Am I being too demanding by trying to push it?

Would it matter to you if a woman had been with one of your friends before you?

This week's podcast is a dating and disability special featuring journalist and disability activist Cathy who has dwarfism(Insta @thatsinglemum) and podcaster Joy who has visual impairment (@joysworldthepodcast). In this podcast we discuss questions sent in by followers on the topic of disability and how that impacts on dating. Including:

I have an invisible disability. When is the right time to bring it up when dating, and how?

How do you calm anxiety when dating?

How do you have conversations with disabled people, about their disability without being offensive?

What should we not say to disabled people?

Ableism is so rife. Can we discuss people feeling sorry for disabled people, and how they think we are sexless?

Is fetishization a fear of yours? Is there anything that a person could do to allay those fears when starting a relationship with a person with a disability?

How do you date as a single mum? Men always ask to come over when my child is asleep and I get called boring if I say no. I don’t get a lot of free time so it’s hard to navigate.

This week Lala is joined by the fabulous Oloni. Oloni is a writer, presenter, and sex positive advocate. One half of the amazing Laidbare Podcast, Oloni uses her voice to empower and educate women around all things sex! This weeks podcast topics are:

Have you ever done any wild shit to snag a man?

Is it OK for my partner to watch porn when I am not around? It weirds me out and makes me feel insecure.

When it comes to dating I have a fear that I am going to get assaulted. I find it hard to invite them over even after a few dates. Any tips for security?

How do you cope with the anger that comes after your ex moves on quickly to a new relationship?

Do you think it’s harder to find people to date in this day and age than it was when you were younger?

How do I stop herpes being such a huge barrier to me getting close to anyone? Can I fuck new people without them catching it?

I love my man from the bottom of my heart but his penis is a bit too small. What do I do?

My orgasm is important to my partner, but I have been faking it because I feel choked when it comes to telling him what I want. How do I learn how to communicate what I want in bed?

In this weeks episode Lala is joined by Chloe and Anny (@_annyma) Chloe and Anny are both patrons (subscribed to Lala's patreon platform to support the podcasts and Instagram). Last month Lala ran a competition for two patrons to win the opportunity to become podcast guests, the winners were picked out of a hat and we think you'll agree that the hat did well! This week we discuss questions sent in by followers including:

Dating a girl that has been previously hurt, what to do to go the extra mile (I’m a guy)

Regretting an abortion when finding it difficult to get pregnant years later

What is your advice for dealing with your boyfriend who is going through a police investigation for a historic rape allegation. It was 9 years ago – he said it never happened. I am so confused.

How do you meet men if you’re nearly 40, in a pandemic and especially anxious about covid?

I love being single but my pool of single friends is shrinking as we get older. How do I continue to be true to myself and not settle for the sake of not being the only single one. And how will I meet other single people in their late 20s?

Do you think it is feasible to date someone with different religious or political views to your own?

I am absolutely broke, I was furloughed and then made redundant. I am considering starting an Only Fans but I am nervous about the potential repercussions. Would you do it if you had no other choice?

This week Lala is joined by Empowerment and Mindset coach @megan_rose_lane . Megan was one of the best guests that has ever featured on this podcast. As always, questions were sent in from followers including:

How do I stop worrying about never meeting a great guy. I am 35 and they all seem rubbish!

I feel that I am going to be single forever because I won't tolerate shitty male behaviour - do you two feel the same?

How do you know if a man will be a good dad? How do you adjust to parenting alone?

How do you get over a situationship of over a year and gain the courage to not go back to it?

My thoughts are horrible and I feel horrible because they seem bigger than me, I don't know what to do?

Mental health for working class people - if people can't afford expensive therapists due to poverty what can they do to help themselves?

Am I disrespecting myself by staying with a guy who cheated?

I wasn't ready to sleep with a guy so he ended it. Should I feel guilty?

For this episode Lala was joined Robin and Claire, two ex child abuse investigation detectives who are experts in the field of child safeguarding to discuss child sexual exploitation and sexual abuse. Robin Watts is a specialist trainer and you can hire him to deliver training to your organisation www.rawtrainingltd.com

This podcast will give you the tools to understand how to protect your own children and children around you. I just listened back to it and I thought that there were a few bits that we missed out so I wanted to add them here.⁣⁣

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If you suspect that a child has been the victim of sexual abuse do not ask leading questions. If it's proven that you asked leading questions it can impact the outcome in court. So don't ask "Did Daddy touch you?" ask "Can you tell me what happened with Daddy?"⁣⁣

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Have professional curiosity. If your gut tells you that something is wrong then hang on to that. Keep that child on your radar. Talk to other professionals in that child's life. Try to connect the dots. If a child is acting out and behaving in ways that make you dislike them then make an even bigger commitment to show up for that child. ⁣⁣

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Sometimes victims become abusers, but that doesn't take away from their abuse. For example, sometimes gangs do 'line ups' where they will have one girl in a room who has to have sex with a line of boys. We might look at all of those boys as abusers, but a 13 year old boy who is forced to lose his 'virginity' in this way in a room full of his friends is also experiencing trauma. Sometimes female victims of CSE recruit friends for abuse, again, we need to see the bigger picture. They are all victims. ⁣⁣

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When talking to victims of CSE we need to be careful about the language we use about the perpetrator. Calling him a disgusting piece of shit and saying he doesn't love you might be true, but the child has been groomed and feels loved. It might make them feel more defensive and less likely to listen.

If you are a health care professional look for signs such as frequent hospital attendances. Ensure that you speak to the patient alone, if their boyfriend/girlfriend/alleged relative is always with them, then find a way to see them alone.

If you need to report then contact the police or the children's service based in the area where the child lives. Google the child's local authority. Even if you don't have a lot of evidence it is still worth having a chat with a social worker. You can report anonymously to NSPCC too.

In this episode Lala is joined by magazine editor, model and non-binary activist Jamie Windust and trans activist and model Kenny Ethan jones.

In this podcast we answer question's sent in by followers around LGBTQ+ dating and relationship issues including:

I really want to understand the difference between non-binary and gender neutral and how to refer to non-binary people in language that isn’t genderised.

My gay friend doesn’t date bi-sexual people but he was offended when I said that I wouldn’t want to date a bisexual man, can we discuss this?

How do you navigate being out and proud with relationships when living in a ghetto area where hate crime is more likely?

How can I support my best friend who has transitioned but who has changed their personality so much that I barely recognise their personality and I don’t get them anymore. They are not the person I made friends with but I feel like if I raise it it’ll be seen as being related to their transition?

Is it harder for someone who has had gender reassignment surgery to orgasm?

Why do LGBTQ relationships move so much faster than cis het relationships?

Do you think it’s essential to disclose that you are trans to people who you are dating?

My son is in secondary school and he has come out to me as gay, I want to encourage him to live his best proud life but I also don’t want him to become a target for bullying. Is it oppressive if I suggest that he doesn’t tell his school friends yet?

In this podcast Lala is joined by Eve from the We Can't Consent To This campaign @wecantconsentto.

They are campaigning for the law to be changed so that the rough sex defence can no longer be used to get lighter sentences when women are murdered and seriously harmed. They are also campaigning for choking. spitting and hurting women during sex to not be normalised in popular culture.

This podcast includes graphic discussion about rough sex, murder and rape, but we also hope that it is an empowering conversation that will help women to feel more confident about expressing their needs in the bedroom and that will also inspire listeners to fight for change.

For this podcast Lala was joined by Elliot and Lisa from @bluebaglife. Lisa and Elliot started telling their story of their relationship and experiences of addiction, prison, recovery, and support on their Instagram account. As the account grew they began to offer real life stories and perspectives from people in prison, addicts, recovering addicts and those in relationships with people currently in prison. Bluebgalife is growing a community for the voices of others to connect and form a motivated support network, in the hope of undoing shame and learning and educating to implement social change. Lisa and Elliot currently run workshops in UK prisons.

In this podcast we discuss addiction, dating someone with an addiction, supporting loved ones in prison, taking children on prison visits and much more.

In this episode Lala is joined by Actor and Writer @t1official and self proclaimed 'Dating adviser' @thewayofthealpha_

This podcast features lots of shouting, interrupting and going round in frustrating circles. It's interesting but very jarring so be prepared for it's annoyingness.