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In this episode Lala is joined by sexual harassment lawyer Deeba Syed from The Rights Of Women to discuss sexual harassment in the workplace. We answer questions from followers including:

Can you report bullying/non-sexual harassment years after you have left the job?

My boss has made several comments about me probably getting pregnant in the future during meetings. I feel uncomfortable with this. Do I have the right to be?

My senior boss at work said that my Insta posts were too saucy and that men will start assuming that on my days off I get up to a certain kind of thing and that I should avoid bikini pics . What could I have done in this situation? I didn’t report it as I was scared of repercussions.

What can you do if it’s a co-worker but if it’s outside of work?

What do you do if there is no HR department at work?

One guy from work gets handsy (arm around back or hand on knee) with females at the Christmas party every year. Everyone knows about it and even warn newer female employees to watch out for him but no one will do a single thing to stop him or even speak on his behaviour. He has never touched me or actually assaulted anyone else but is there anything I can do to make it stop?

Is it sexual harassment if someone asks you out at work?

My manager is a narcissist and now someone is leaving because of him. How do I deal with him?

What is your advice to people who don’t think that they will be believed?

I work in a male dominated environment – they have never been directly nasty with me but I hear the way that they speak about other women. They will talk about women they have slept with in really nasty ways and they often make sexualised comments about female customers. Do I have the right to say something even if it’s not directed at me?

How do you deal with little ‘banter’ comments. For example – my manager spilt a bit of water on my foot and said ‘Sorry did I get you wet?” I knew what he meant but I know that if I had complained he would have been able to justify it because technically he did get me wet. How do we deal with things like that?

In this episode Lala is joined by @natashakbenjamin from the wonderful charity Free Your Mind @Freeyourmindcic. Natasha is an abuse survivor who now provides therapy to children who have suffered parental violence. Natasha's vital work with children has earned her the title of Lorraine Kelly's Woman Of The Year 2019.

In this episode we answer questions from followers including:

Can you ever fully recover from witnessing abuse in childhood?

How does DV in childhood impact on us as adults?

How do we spot the signs that a child is living in a violent household?

How do we speak to children about abuse?

And much much more! Please follow on your preferred platform, like, comment, and share if you enjoy x

In this episode Lala is joined by Claire from @earlymenopauseandme and clinical nurse specialist Georgia to answer questions about fertility, infertility, miscarriage, and all things related including questions sent in by followers including:

Why are the NHS so unprepared? Why is there no space in the EPU or labour ward for women miscarrying? Why are early miscarriages palmed off when they have the same mental effect?

When is the best time to bring up that you have a fertility issue with a partner?

How do you cope with people constantly asking when you are going to have children?

What does PCOS mean for fertility?

3 miscarriages in 12 months, how can I mentally deal with getting pregnant again?

I am struggling to find my place in the world, if I am not a Mum, what am I? In the long term?

How do I stop myself feeling bitter when I see shit parents?

Is it insensitive or upsetting when you see people say they don’t want children or had termination?

How do you support a friend or relative who desperately wants children but cannot physically have them?

Can stress cause miscarriage?

Donor eggs, pros and cons?

How do you talk about it without people feeling bad for you?

How can I feel hope?

In this week's episode Lala is joined by @sidemanallday and @stevothemadman1 to discuss questions sent in by followers including, do all men cheat, are belly rolls a turn off, gender roles, what would you teach your daughters about men, do men get the ick, and much much more!

In this episode Lala is joined by Ellie from @themummydiary and Zoe from @frolo_app to talk about the highs and lows of single parenting. The following questions were sent in by followers:

I’ve just found out that I am pregnant after a one night stand. I am more than happy to do this on my own but I know that my child needs a Dad in their life and he deserves the opportunity to be a dad. I just can’t let go of the idea of having to hand over my baby to this person that ultimately I don’t want anything to do with. I would never deny him seeing his baby but I feel awful about it.

When is the best time to introduce your kids to a new partner?

Top tips for balancing working/earning money/ and childcare as a single parent?

My ex and I aren’t together but he is supportive, his mum does 3 school runs for me a week so I really need her in my life, the problem is that she constantly makes comments about the kids coats or shoes not being right for the weather, or she’ll make sly digs about me always being at work. How do I handle this without losing her support?

How can you make it work while co-parenting with a narcissist?

My ex is now with the woman he left me for last year and has asked if our daughter can meet her. The thought of this makes me feel completely sick, what should I do?

How the fuck do you juggle dating and being a single Mum? I am struggling

Strategies for handling the responsibility of being solely responsible for everything. Mother’s guilt

What are the good things about being a single parent?

In this weeks episode Lala is joined by @drnaomisutton from E4's The sex Clinic for a sexual health special. In this episode we discuss all things sexual health and contraception related. Including questions sent in by followers including:

I am too embarrassed to get tested in a clinic. What are the alternatives?

Is it common for older women to get recurring bouts of thrush?

Since getting the coil fitted I get thrush every time I have sex. Could it be linked?

I’m having really bad outbreaks of herpes at the moment and suppression treatment is not working. What do I do?

My ex has given me an STI again. How do I get him to go and get treated? I've given him all the facts

Can we talk about that new STI Mycoplasma genitalium?

How do you explain herpes to a new partner?

How do you prevent yourself from catching warts or herpes when condoms don’t always help with that?

Is it dangerous or damaging for a woman to have sex in a bath/pool?

Can you have sex whilst you’ve got thrush?

Why do I get BV every time I sleep with my new partner?

After being treated for an STI do you need to get tested again to be sure?

Do you always get a flu like illness when you first catch HIV? Could you catch it without any changes at all?

How can you have anal without things getting messy? Does anal mess with your bowel movements?

How can I feel confident to have sex without the need for alcohol?

Is it true that we could have HSV but never have an outbreak? Could an outbreak just come one day years after contracting the virus therefore meaning you wouldn’t know who gave it to you?

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In this episode Lala is joined by two women who inspire her. Fitness guru Natasha Knight and charity founder and author Nicola Dad, both who have overcome all the madness that life has thrown at them to be bad ass inspirational women. In this episode we answer questions from followers including:

How can you stop yourself from comparing yourself to your exes new girlfriend when she’s perfect?

Can you love two men at the same time? Both completely different qualities. :)

I am a 34 year old single woman and I haven’t had much experience. I can’t seem to find the confidence to just go for it. Help!

Why are men so intimidated by strong successful women?

What is life like after cancer?

How do you stay motivated to go to the gym regularly when you are a lazy person?

Is it a bad sign if a guy brings you to his Mum’s house for the first time and they both expect you to clean? He suggested several times that I clean his room.

I would love some advice on overcoming low self-esteem in terms of body image. I have some permenant scarring on my chest and back and I don’t ever feel confident wearing strappy tops and it makes it hard to be intimate with someone new.

I don’t know how to deal with my boyfriend. He is so jealous of my past and can’t deal with the fact that I’ve even had one. Long story short. I left photos on social media of my ex and he asked me to delete them a few times. But he’s a hypocrite because he’s been liking facebook pictures of people he’s slept with and he’s slept with a lot of people! I don’t even care about his past but his paranoia about mine is making me suspicious. He can’t seem to get his head around the fact that I don’t want my my exes back. He’s been going to counselling because he reacts really badly to things when it comes to my ex. He shuts me out – can be up to a week and says really nasty things which then cause me to feel insecure and worried that he might not want me. Help!

I’m in recovery from alcohol addiction – I’m currently 8 months sober. On dates I always have to explain why I don’t drink which always ends up with me rabbling on and giving way too much detail on my recovery. When people say ‘oh one won’t hurt’ I feel like screaming and it puts me off them. What is the right amount to share? Should I really tell a date why I don’t drink?

My friend is quite overweight and she constantly has a very bad odour down there! Other friends that have known her longer than me say that she has smelt like that since school. Whyyy! It’s honestly so bad. I want to help her and tell her but I feel awful. How do I get the message

In this episode Lala is joined by @karen_hobbs from @eveappeal Gynae Cancer Charity for a chat about gynae cancers, cervical screening (smear tests), sex, vaginas, and vulvas as well as answering questions sent in by followers including:

If you have had abnormal cells removed does it just prolong getting cervical cancer or do your chances go back to that of someone without HPV?

What is the process of the smear? What can you do if you find vaginal examinations traumatic?

What is HPV?

My smear test is due next year but I will be living in Abu Dhabi. I have previously had abnormal cells but I don’t know the system over there or whether I trust it completely. Can I get an early test in the UK for this reason?

Can you please talk about pages that promote Yoni detox for purging the vagina? Do they work? Do we need to cleanse internally?

Can your inner lips stretch over time, for example if you pull them to shave or dry yourself?

Is there really a way to tighten the vagina – do exercises really work?

My cousin has had vulva cancer 3 times, what are the chances of me getting it?

My clit is really small and hidden/buried so I find it really hard to have a clitoral orgasm. Any advice?

Does porn give us an unrealistic view of vulvas?

This week Layla is joined by special guests rapper and mental health advocate @anontheartistofficial and mental health vlogger @sorayastuart to discuss questions sent in by listeners including:

My family aren’t understanding of mental health at all and feel that I just need to get on with it. I need to seek help before my mental health gets worse, but how can you deal with unsupportive relatives and friends? It’s really putting me off getting help

What can I do to help my best friend? There’s days when she won’t speak or let me see her as she doesn’t want to see anyone. I feel like as her best friend I should be doing more but I don’t know what to say.

I lost my Dad to suicide and I have a real fear of getting close to a man just in case they just leave in an instant. I have been single for 6 years, I just can’t bear the thought of getting close to someone for them to just leave.

I recently came out of a short relationship with a guy with mental health issues (depression/anxiety)Unfortunately he ended things as he started to get anxious about the relationship What wold be your advice for dealing with mental health issues in a relationship and how to respect someone’s boundaries when starting something with someone with a history of mental ill health?

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am finding it very hard to get the correct help as I work full time but it affects my life massively. Any suggestions on self-help or is seeing a therapist my only way to cure this horrible disorder?

How can you tell the difference between normal pain/heart-ache after a break up and real depression?

How do you stop MH issues and traumas impacting on dating?

Can being neglected and abused as a child make you treat your girlfriends badly even if you are in love?

I have children and a professional career, I am in a dark place but I don’t want to seek professional help in case a referral is made to social services or my employers find out and think I am not capable of doing my job. What options do I have?

What do you do when your anxiety has crippled you for months but you still have bills to pay and deadlines to meet?

Is self-medicating with cannabis going to make things worse?

This week Lala is joined by @erin_budina and DJ @samsupplier to answer questions sent in by followers including:

• What do men really want for Valentine’s Day?

• Why do women throw themselves at DJs? My DJ boyfriend says that I can trust him but I don’t trust the women

• I need help with my relationship. I have been with my fiancé for 3 years and he cheated on me 2 years ago. He continues to message his ex even though she has moved on and is happy. We have amazing sex and I feel like that is the only reason we’re together. What do I do?!

• My long term partner often casually refers to women as slags / dirty slags and tarts. It is really putting me off him and making me lose respect for him. Are these differences in outlook deal breakers? Will it just end up driving us apart?

• What do you do if your man won’t have sex with you? It kills my confidence like you wouldn’t believe. I have tried everything, from sexy lingerie to pretending I don’t care. We’ve been together for 14 months and I am going mad with frustration

• I started talking to a guy on tinder, got on really well. After 48 hours of talking I decided I had to meet him and things went really well. The sex was intense and passionate and we told each other we loved each other. It feels 100% right. But can you literally fall in love with someone after 7 days of messages and calls and less than 48 hours in their actual company!?

•What is the best way to deal with slut shaming on how you dress or act?

• Would you stay friends with someone who was sleeping with a married man?

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