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For this episode, we are looking at controlling and abusive relationships. Domestic abuse is often hidden behind closed doors, but for this episode we are joined by the charity Women’s Aid to bring it out into the open. We are joined by Sian Hawkins, Head of Campaigns and Public Affairs at Women’s Aid and Alex, a support worker on the National Domestic Violence Helpline which the charity runs in partnership with Refuge. Just to clarify, the charity does not endorse any products featured on this podcast or the podcast’s sponsors.

In this episode we discuss Lala's followers topics including:

What are the red flags for an abuser?

How do you move on from someone who won't let you go?

I am struggling with different information from social services and housing about what my rights are?

My partner hurts me but I am dependent on him financially and emotionally.

Do perpetrators programmes work?

My friend is in a violent relationship, how can I make her leave him?

My violent ex has a new girlfriend - should I warn her about him?

I miss my abuser even though things were awful when I was with him.

How do I handle mutual friends and family who have been charmed by the abuser and victim blame?

Can an abuser change without professional help?

My ex always put me down, how can I stop his words ringing through my head now I'm dating again?

How do you help children who have witnessed DV?

I have had 3 abusive partners - how do I break the cycle?

What legal support is available?

Why do survivors stay for so long?

How can you ever trust anyone again after an abusive relationship?

If a guy is really jealous and wants to control your every move is that domestic violence?

Is it abuse if it is physical but non-serious like slapping, pushing, grabbing etc?

Is it normal to suffer from PTSD after an abusive relationship?

I am scared to leave my abusive partner because he has threatened to commit suicide if I do.

And much more!!

This week Lala is joined by comedian and presenter Cassandra Maria and 3 shots of Tequila podcaster and promoter Tazer Black to answer questions sent in by followers including:

Do you think we should stop listening to R Kelly’s music because of his behaviour?

Should a man always pay on the first date and if he doesn’t does that mean he’s not interested?

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, he’s REALLY nice, he’s literally everything I’m looking for in a man, the nicest guy I’ve ever met. He told me the other day that he’s not ready for a relationship right now but wants to continue seeing me and getting to know me and hopes it will blossom into a relationship in the future. I’m confused, do you think I should keep seeing him?

How can you tell a man that he doesn’t make you cum without hurting his feelings?

Where are all the men? Where is a good place to meet single men outside of dating apps?

My boyfriend wanks every morning while I’m in bed, even after sex the night before. Is this normal?

I went on a date with a guy, it went well. We spoke again after the date about meeting up and he said ‘It’s my turn to buy the round next time” and now he just won’t reply. Why is he doing this?

Are there any men out there who don’t get violent when they are stressed?

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This week Lala is joined by Dan Mosaku @danagram_ from Channel 4's reality show The Circle and Gamer, presenter and Youtuber @elzthewitch to answer questions from followers including: Is it OK to date someone my ex friend dated 3 years ago? I see a guy on the train all the time on my way to college and we always make eye contact. I've recently seen that he has got a girlfriend, do I leave it alone or pursue it? Why do fuckboys say they don't want you but keep contacting you periodically? Is it true that men can stop themselves from cumming to quickly if they train their brain? Why don't men take condom usage seriously? If you invite a man over to hang does he automatically assume it means sex? Do men care what their friends think of their partners? If you get the ick can you un-ick? And much more....This podcast has been bought to you in collaboration with The Sway subscription pleasure package www.thesway.club

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This week Lala is joined by sex and relationship therapist Dr Karen Gurney (Instagram: @thesexdoctor) to answer questions sent in by followers - unfortunately due to having to edit out the third guest this podcast does sound a bit weird at times and some bits don't make sense at all so keep that in mind when listening!! In this episode we discuss - whether a spark is needed to keep a relationship alive, monogamy and whether it works, porn and it's impact on young people and sex, the female orgasm gap, vaginismus, myths around labia size and shape, and why some people can only orgasm when they are in one particular position! Enjoy! And Please rate and review if you do!

This week Lalaletmexexplain is joined by Radio presenter @elzthewitch and Vlogger @vanillatrilla to answer questions and topics sent in by followers, including - do women care if men are dating multiple people at once, advice on writing a dating profile bio, how to feel confident wearing sexy lingerie if you are not body confident, what to do if your partner lied about being tested and then gave you an infection, is it worth talking to a guy in prison, how do you not take ghosting personally, and am I paranoid for being suspicious about my partner's facebook activity. Enjoy!

This week Lalaletmeexplain is joined by two of her friends Anthony and Grace to answer questions and topics sent in by followers, including - Should you date someone if you've previously dated their friend? Does an old friend owe you loyalty if they are not in your life much now? The couple that has only ever had anal sex. Is it OK to speak to an ex when you are seeing someone new? How to approach your gym crush without looking weird? Is it morally wrong or realistic to have a child alone? And can you trust a partner who has cheated multiple times? Enjoy!

This is the first ever Lalalaletmexplain podcast with special guest @stevothemadman1. In today's episode we talk about women farting around men (we talk about it a bit too much to be honest), 'body counts', raising children in a sexualised society, women carrying condoms, how to keep a relationship spicy, and much more!