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Ever wondered what it's like to date someone anxious when the other person is avoidant? Or what it's like to date an avoidant when the other is secure? What about avoidant and avoidant?

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- Avoidant & Avoidant Relationship
- Secure & Anxious Relationship
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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)  

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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)  

 FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered

Join us in this episode as we discuss: 

• Managing social pressures & comparison in your love life 
• When life/relationships is not how you thought it would be or wish it was 
• Grieving the life you wanted 
• Breaking up in your 30s and how to embrace the new path that has been laid out for you 
• Emma shares her personal egg freezing process 
• And of course.. Lessons in Love 

Emma is the first and only life coach dedicated to helping those who are turning 30 to feel better at this transitional time. After experiencing her own personal turning 30 struggles five years ago, Emma began her mission to help others struggling with the 'thirty pressures', helping her clients to feel more confident and get unstuck in all areas of life from careers, dating, friendships, finances, lifestyle and more.  

• Check out Follow Your Fire - A Membership for Women Who Lose Themselves in Love: https://carly-ann.teachable.com/p/follow-your-fire-the-membership  
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)

So you keep dating & attracting parters that are emotionally unavailable to you? It can be painful, especially when you have been doing "the work". Understanding WHY you are in this place is a first step in breaking this cycle.

Watch video mentioned: Signs You Are Not available for an Available Relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFNRYesmQ3o&t=54s 

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com   
• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a text

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) 

Having worked as a Learning & Development Manager, Amira has over 12 years experience in the corporate world working with employees, managers and leaders to achieve the best version of themselves. 

Amira’s also coached young people from a variety of backgrounds that have had some of the hardest introductions to life. She’s provided them with practical tools to set them up for university, motherhood and life’s challenges who have gone on to achieve great things. 

She now runs her own business working with businesses and clients on a 121 basis to help them communicate with themselves and others to get the best out of their relationships. This in turn enables them to get the promotion they want, the career they dream of, be the business leader they want, the partner they’ve visualised and enhance their relationship with family and friends. 

In this episode we discuss:  

> The fears that are behind our struggles to communicate such as "being too much" or losing this person + how to overcome this and discover your authentic voice. 

> The impact of our negative internal dialogue on how we talk and communicate 

> How an insecure attachment style can influence your thoughts, words, and choices when engaging with others 

> The power of reflection and repair when communication doesn't go to plan 

> Why it is important to be open about who your partner is/might be 

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership  

• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

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Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) 

This week's video is taken from my youtube channel which you can check out HERE

If you find your anxious attachment or intense emotion difficult to self soothe/regulate when you are triggered, this video is for you.
One of the most common questions I am asked is how to calm yourself down and stop yourself reacting in the moment.
 
In this podcast you will learn:
 
02:45: What is Self-Soothing
07:20:  Why people struggle to self-soothe
09:30: 4 tips for self-soothing

For the bonus tips, you can join my membership here: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com

Watch the full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iockbXnsJ00&t=1s 

• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a text

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)  

Natalie is a confidence embodiment coach, leading women into the new paradigm of confidence through feminine energy embodiment, emotional elegance and communication mastery. Through her own unique style of coaching, which incorporates NLP and somatic healing such as breathwork and movement, Natalie is able to guide women into a deep sense of self trust and surrender, allowing them to reach their desires with ease and grace. Natalie is also the host of The Embodied Confidence Podcast, which is available across all major podcasting platforms.

In this episode we discuss: 

> Navigating anxiety in a relationship 

> Tips for communicating when activated 

> How to handle space & time apart 

> General shared experience 

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership  
• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a text

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)  

Silvana Isaza is a feminine empowerment coach and plant medicine facilitator and she helps women reconnect with their innate wisdom, power, voice, and pleasure through shadow work, belief reprogramming, and embodiment practices so that they can experience a deep connection with life, attract their desires, and feel fully confident in their being & expression. 

In this episode of Lessons in Love we talk about:

> Why we prioritse romantic love over self-love 

> Healing your heart after heartbreak + our views on "healing" 

> The fear of dating and putting yourself out there (especially when you are happy & single) 

> Managing the moments when you are triggered and losing yourself in the moment or an argument 

>  What we mean when we say "Trauma Bond" 

>  The role of the Universe and believing in something bigger 

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership  
• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a text

Are you currently stuck in an anxious-avoidant dance?

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) 

Whether you have the anxious attachment syyle or avoidant attachment style, in this episode, Carly Ann is giving you all the details on: 

> What is The Anxious-Avoidant Dance/Trap
> Insight into my own experience
> What The anxious person gains from this dynamic
> What the avoidant person gains from this dynamic
> What to do next

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership  
• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a text

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) 
 

In this episode we discuss: 

 > How to re-build a relationship with your body & sense of self 

> Self-Love; how to love yourself so deeply and create a life you love 

> The importance of building a life you love 

> Top tips if you do not know your passion and/or purpose right now 

> How to clear blocks, shame, & fears so you can return home to yourself 

> Practical tools you can use today to stop resisting difficult emotions & start living fully 

> How to choose vulnerability in life & love 

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership  

• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a text

Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_) 
 
In this episode we are joined by Justin Sunseri

Justin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. He specializes in treating trauma in his day job of working with high schoolers, but also in his night time private practice working with adults. Justin is the host of the podcast, Stuck Not Broken, and an expert in the Polyvagal Theory. 

In this episode we discuss  

> Polyvagal theory, what it is, & what how it benefits us to understand this framework 

> Understanding the biology behind our behaviours and our human experience of feeling stuck in certain states 

> Justin normalises our experiences of feeling "too much", insecure, and  "needy". 

> We discuss our ability to get stuck in defensive ways of living and how this can impact our ability to choose a safe relationship 

> We discuss the idea of finding a secure relationship "boring" or "too nice". 

> Why we can shut down, numb, and detach + what it takes to move back to a state of connection 

> How to manage difficult feelings in your body such as rejection, loneliness, and sadness 

• You are so welcome to check out the membership I often talk about (Follow Your Fire).  You can join us here: https://www.carly-ann.co.uk/follow-your-fire-membership  
• Get access to the FREE short-course (Attachment Styles: The NEXT Level): HERE 
• Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ 
• Head to https://thehappinessplanner.com to check out all their journal and resources.  
  Use codes: LESSONSINLOVE (This entitles you to 10% off all products in our online stores) and code CARLYANN for 20% off our app subscription 
   
  Audio production by Bethany Donkin.  
  Music by Atch 

Other useful links:

• The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN)
• Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025)
• FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE
• Follow Carly Ann on Instagram