Life Uncut

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Laura has had a really heart breaking week. Her wonderful step father passed away last Tuesday night and today she shares some of the best bits of who he was as a man. We also have a conversation about living alongside grief and how life is somewhat expected to continue 'as normal' when you're experiencing it. Laura also shares how she's finding it challenging knowing how to explain what has happened to her two young daughters.

Britt has tried on her first wedding dress and it brought her (and only her) to tears!
The wedding date is closer than any of us expected! We have a bit of a laugh about what styles of dresses we expect Britt to pick. Was the dress you ended up choosing to be married in the 'style' that you expected or was it different?

Is it best to publicly call out a cheater? 
We unpack the growing trend of people using Tiktok to call out what they think is cheating in an effort to out them and find the wronged partner to let them know. 
Is it always better to ‘expose’ them? Or do you think that is more humiliating for the person who has been cheated on?
Is publicly calling out a cheater justified, or does it cause more harm than good?

We mention an episode with a polyamorous family that we absolutely loved! You can listen here

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Hey Lifers!

Producer Keeshia is filling in today and Britt is curious about her chewing gum and toilet choice habits. 
Britt has had a very serious emergency that could have had a very dire outcome. This story isn't for a laugh but more a word of warning!
Vibes for the week can be found on our website
Britt: 
Keeshia: Modern Wisdom - How to stop feeling like your success is never enough
and Apple airpod max headphones

Then we jump into your questions!

IS HE LYING TO ME?
A few years ago when I was around 7 months pregnant I noticed a condom missing from the pack. The only reason I noticed this was because we don’t use condoms and only had them because we were going through fertility treatment and advised to use them prior to egg collection and embryo transfer. I confronted my husband about it and he said he likes to wear them when he ‘relieves’ himself because he likes the feeling of it. Fast forward to now and we have been trying for a second baby for almost 9 months. We have embryos frozen so have decided to go through fertility treatment again. Again, we have been advised to use condoms to avoid multiples etc. My husband hasn’t used any of ours since then, or told me that he’s brought more. For the past few months he has been working away a few nights a week and staying at a friend’s house while he’s away (this friend is married with kids). The other day our 2 year old was going through his bag. He opened a zip and pulled out 2 condoms saying ‘daddy biscuits’. A few hours passed and a comment was made and we ended up talking about it. He told me again he liked the feeling of it and that I have nothing to worry about. My sex drive has been very low the last few months trying for a baby again and sex feels like a chore. He doesn’t want to push me or put any pressure on so finds the need to ‘relieve’ himself which is totally fine. I explained to him why it seemed suss and he understood where I was coming from and said he never even saw it that way. Now the question is - I don’t know if this a red flag and he’s lying to me or is this a legit thing and I should just trust him? We are about to have another embryo transfer and I’m just all over the place with my emotions and how I feel about this. I don’t have actual proof he’s done anything wrong or cheated and I don’t have reason to not trust him.

AM I A BAD FRIEND?
I’ve got a friend who seems to chase chaos in relationships. She is clearly the reason her last wonderful relationship didn’t work out, and since then she has dated multiple toxic guys back to back, and says she loves red flags - as if it’s funny, until it’s not funny anymore. She also never takes any accountability for her bad behaviour. I wish I didn’t get so invested and didn’t care what she did with relationships but it’s put me off our friendship. She’s never done anything bad to me but I find myself with the ick and not wanting to hang out with her because I can’t possibly listen to one more of these chaotic and red flag guy stories. Am I being a bad friend?

NOT BUDGETING FAIRLY
My family is going on a big holiday for a whole week. I’m talking about my sisters, their husbands and their kids + my parents and me (I’m single). One of my sisters has been the arranger of the whole trip. It was her idea so she has booked and budgeted everything and explained how much everything is costing and how it’s getting split. Now it’s coming to the crushing time of paying everything and getting close to us all going but I’m starting to feel as if things haven’t been fairly budgeted. What’s your perspective? We are 3 sisters helping pay toward ours and our parents' holiday however 2 of us have partners also contributing to the 1/3 expected on each of our behalf and then there is me who has to support the whole 1/3 on my own. Is this just the way the cookie crumbles or should this actually be split by 5 to include my sister's husbands?

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In today’s eye-opening episode, we bring you the harrowing story of a woman who has endured relentless and ongoing stalking. To protect ourselves, we made the decision to keep our guest’s name anonymous as the further we got into this chat it became apparent just how dangerous the man stalking her is.  For her, the stalking began years ago and despite every effort she has made with police internationally, she has not been able to have the perpetrator convicted. 

In this episode, we discuss: 

• The reality of being a victim of stalking
• Self-gaslighting and doubt: how women often question whether the threat they face is severe enough to involve the police.
• Ongoing stalking & this continuous ordeal with a persistent and dangerous stalker.
• Ignored evidence: despite having substantial proof of harassment and stalking behaviour, law enforcement's response has been disappointingly inadequate.
• The emotional and psychological toll of living under constant surveillance by a stalker.
• Why the police often fail to take stalking cases seriously and the systemic issues contributing to this neglect.
• What needs to change with international stalking and harassment laws

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Hey Lifers,
What're your thoughts on the skateboarding in the Olympics? We're hooked!
Britt has had an old roommate come to visit and it's got her reminiscing on the good old nostalgic days of stitching up a housemate when they bring home a date.

The men (human and canine) in Laura's life keep on sh*tting in inappropriate places but it's bringing a lot of joy to the Life Uncut family!

Republican vice presidential candidate J.D. Vance previously made some outlandish comments that included the country being run by “a bunch of childless cat ladies”. He's joined the conservative Megyn Kelly show on Friday and somewhat doubled down on the commentary. It's a story that now has Jennifer Anniston, Hilary Clinton and Opera involved so we thought we'd throw in our two cents.

It had us asking a few questions:

-Do you think it shifts voter’s perspectives on who will be best to run a country if they have children or not?
-Do your perspectives on how you see the world shift when you have children?
-Are you more ‘entitled’ to a vote if you have a kid that will live in the world that we are creating policies for?

We spoke about being child free by choice with Danni Duncan here

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

On the show: 

• The official 'Olympick up' games 
• Questionable parenting styles
• MAFS cast has been leaked and we have feelings

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Hey Lifers,
Welcome back to your weekly venting session where we unpack all of your deep, dark and dirty questions!
It was our 5th birthday but we missed it... We reflect on what the last 5 years have meant and you're all the fkn best for listening to this podcast and helping us create this community!

WE HAVE A NEW HOME FOR OUR VIBES!!
Vibes and Unsubscribes page!

Britt: Netflix Simone Biles Rising

Laura: One Life film

Keeshia: Book - Everyone Here Is Lying

Then we jump into your questions:

WEDDING SAVE THE DATES
I’m getting married at the end of this year, we sent the save the dates February this year. Since then we have lost touch with a friend (never see them, never talk to them over social media etc) they are still close friends with mutual friends of ours. If you send someone a save the date, do you have to follow through with the invitation? There’s no other aspect of money being an issue or anything like that, just purely aren’t close with them now and don’t foresee us being close in the future?

PARTNER WANTS TO TELL GROCERY STORE, I WANT TO KEEP THE REFUND
My partner and I can’t agree. He collected our grocery order tonight for $140 worth and they have had IT issues so we never got the message to say our ‘direct to boot’ order is ready so he went inside the store to grab it. Two hours later we got a message to say our order has to be cancelled and we will be refunded due to IT issues. I think they will take the refund as they are a huge company - we spend at least $300 weekly (family of four- 3 kids in nappies🙈). We are farmers in drought struggling to make ends meet so I think treat it like winning the lottery. He thinks we should ring them to let them know we got the order. I know he is morally right but surely sometimes you have to just take a win. What do you think? 

DATING SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T QUITE FIT WHAT I PICTURED

I’m 28 and have never been in a relationship. A couple of years ago I wrote a list of my ideal man; ambitious, funny, chatty, reliable etc so when I was dating I wouldn’t entertain anyone who wasn’t right for me. I’m in the early stages of dating someone and he ticks everything off the list: he’s really great, I feel safe with him and my friends love him. There’s one small thing that’s niggling at but as I haven’t been in a relationship before I’m still figuring it out. I always pictured myself with someone being the centre of his friend group, could dominate a room, in a sense a bit cocky. But this guy isn’t quite like that! I’m not saying that he’s not confident, but I suppose it looks different to how I envisioned it. I realise I’m overthinking and doubting but any thoughts or advice?

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Tori Dunlap is a New York Times best selling author and host of the #1 money podcast for women in the world and was a self made millionaire in her 20’s. Tori is unapologetic about her finances. She uniquely doesn’t just talk about numbers but the systemic issues and value systems behind money and how much control we actually have over personal finances.

In our chat we speak about:

• Unpacking where our values and beliefs about money come from, 
• How the patriarchy really fucked us up when it comes to financial independence
• Why the stock market and investing scares most of us & how complicated it really is
• What the priority is between savings, debt, emergency funds etc
• The mistakes women make investing
• Renting vs buying a home - what is best for you?
• Talking about money in your relationship
• Splitting costs like hens parties & dinner with friends
• Should the person earning more pay more?
• Should you have transparency over what your partner earns?
• Should you ever fully combine finances?

You can find everything from Tori including her book and her website

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Hey Lifers,

First up, have you seen Avatar or Brokeback mountain? They're life changing apparently!
We had a group dinner with some podcast friends that didn't end with Biden stepping back from being a presidential candidate but did end with a huge penis.

Laura has called for a welfare check on someone and created an enemy in the process!

We are seeing an increase in people publicly sharing their breakups on social media, something that previously was almost exclusively done by celebrities. 
Over the past week we saw two opposite types of break up posts. One was from the Princess of Dubai, Sheikha Mahra & the other was a joint statement from Maya Jama and Stormzy. But why are people sharing this kind of content online? Is it for closure? Is it for clarity? Is it for clout?

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

On the show: 

• Mitch is an uncle!
• Delilah is a menace
• Laura's obsession with the Netflix doco - the man with 1000 kids

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Hey Lifers!

Big changes have struck the life uncut team and it's got us questioning 'are you okay?'
We speak about female hair loss and the changes that happen with hair during and after pregnancy. 
Vibes for the week:
Britt unsubscribes from podcast that paywall their content after they've hooked you in
Vibe: Brita water filter
Keeshia: Netflix stand up. Hannah Berner - We Ride at Dawn
Laura: Apple TV doco Jacinta

Then we get into your questions:

TRADIES IN HOUSE

Recently we have been having renovations done to our house, meaning lots of trades coming and going. Tradies were literally arriving at our house and not long after were requesting to use the toilet and doing number 2s (with the sound effects). Not just a once off; this was happening everyday of the renos. Am I the only one to think this is not acceptable? My husband was a lot more understanding than I was; maybe because I’m the one who had to clean it!?). Should tradies not ask to use the toilet if they need to do a poo or am I just being very unreasonable!!

DOES YOUR PARTNER INTERACT WITH YOU AT THE END OF THE DAY?

My boyfriend's default after coming home from work is to be on his phone , watch reels, news, stocks etc. I have told him before to give me attention for a few minutes and just be nice to me so I feel loved. Tonight, Friday night, I'm home from work and looking out onto the balcony as if it's a nice sunset. He comes home, says hi (the door is right across from the balcony ) and sits on the sofa and starts looking at phone. (I was expecting him to walk over to me and give me a hug and kiss). I ask him to come out to the balcony and he says no and continues looking at phone. After a few minutes I ask him to give me some attention (exact words: "babe can you give me some attention?") He throws his phone down and says "stop complaining" and goes into the bedroom and doesn't come out for 45mins. He came out later to the living room and said sorry but he was upset. I asked him to come outside, and he didn't want to. He thinks I'm dramatic and I create a scene ....What do you think? Is it normal to want to be greeted at the end of a work day or am I expecting something that isn’t normal?

SIS IN LAW SHOWER WITH MY DAUGHTER

My sister in law has showered my daughter with her a couple of times, which I don’t feel comfortable with. My biggest issue is that she never asks if it is okay before doing it. I have mentioned it to my husband but he didn’t really think it was a big deal. How do you bring the conversation up without creating an argument because his family is always on the defence about everything I saw and did.

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