What if discomfort isn't a problem? 

What if it's just part of being alive?

In this episode, I explore one of the biggest traps Sixes fall into:

Believing that if we just work harder, do more, know more, prepare more, or get things "right," we'll finally feel safe.

But underneath so much of our striving is a quiet belief:

"I need to earn safety."

"I need to earn approval."

"I need to earn enough."

And that belief keeps us locked in a cycle of over-functioning, self-pressure, and chronic discomfort.

In this episode, we explore:

A question to take with you:

What if I stopped trying to earn what is already mine?

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What if the thing causing the most suffering isn't the anxiety, fear, frustration, or self-doubt?

What if it's your resistance to them?

In this episode, I unpack one of the biggest obstacles Sixes face:

The constant internal battle with ourselves.

We resist our feelings.
We resist our reactions.
We resist our humanity.

And then we wonder why we feel stuck.

Using stories from a recent family vacation, I explore how real change happens when we stop trying to force ourselves into being different and start becoming curious about what is actually happening.

In this episode, we explore:

This episode is an invitation to stop fighting yourself.

Because the moment you stop resisting yourself...

you finally have the space to change.

A question to take with you:

What part of my experience am I fighting right now?

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What if the thing Sixes are actually looking for isn't certainty?

What if it's alignment?

In this episode, I share a new framework I've been developing for understanding growth and healing as a Type Six through the lens of the three centers of intelligence:

🧠 Head
❤️ Heart
💪 Body

I explore why self-compassion isn't just a nice idea or another thing we "should" do.

It's foundational.

Because when we learn how to create a different relationship with ourselves, something remarkable begins to happen:

Our head, heart, and body start working together instead of against each other.

In this episode, we explore:

This episode is really about one thing:

Learning how to become someone you trust.

A question to take with you:

What would change if I treated myself like someone worthy of trust?

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We've spent the last several episodes talking about the shadow.

The parts of ourselves we don't see.
The parts we reject.
The parts we push away.

But what about the opposite?

What lives in the light?

In this episode, I explore the traits and identities that many Sixes willingly claim as part of who they are:

✨ loyal
✨ responsible
✨ prepared
✨ helpful
✨ truthful
✨ reliable
✨ the questioner
✨ the protector

These are real strengths.

But they're not the whole story.

Because when these qualities become identities instead of abilities, they can become rigid, exhausting, and limiting.

In this episode, we explore:

This isn't about giving up your strengths.

It's about holding them lightly.

A question to take with you:

Who would I be if I stopped defining myself by what I do for others?

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 In this final episode of the shadow work series, we get very specific about what may actually live in the shadow of Type Six.

And yes… some of it may sting.

Because shadow work is not about finding “bad” things about yourself.

It’s about discovering the parts of yourself you pushed away in order to feel safe, accepted, supported, or secure.

In this episode, we explore:

This work isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about becoming more whole.

Because the parts of ourselves we refuse to see…
often end up running the show.

A question to take with you:

What part of myself still feels too dangerous to fully own?

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Sixes often believe:
“If there’s something wrong with me… I need to fix it immediately.”

But what if that approach is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I continue our conversation around shadow work and why this kind of inner work can feel especially threatening for Sixes.

Because for Sixes, seeing parts of ourselves we haven’t acknowledged can feel dangerous.

Not just uncomfortable.

Dangerous.

We explore:

This episode is ultimately about learning how to create an internal environment where:

- your whole self is allowed to exist

- fear can be acknowledged without shame

- and you stop living in battle with yourself

Because healing isn’t:
“becoming perfect.”

It’s becoming more whole.

A question to take with you:

What part of myself do I still believe makes me unsafe to love?

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In this episode, we explore shadow work through the lens of the Enneagram — specifically what it means for Sixes.

I talk about:

But this episode is not about “fixing” yourself.

It’s about learning how to:

Because the things we push away don’t disappear.

They just operate from the shadows.

In this episode, we explore:

A question to take with you:

What part of myself feels too dangerous to fully acknowledge?

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This episode is a behind-the-scenes look at season one of Inside Story what I actually learned from that experience. It might not be what you think. 

The huge fear so many Sixes carry: if people think ___ about me, then ___. I walk through how to actually finish that sentence, ask resourcing questions, and stop leaving yourself hanging in the worst-case story.

The difference between insight (seeing yourself from a distance, which feels kind of good) and self-awareness (catching yourself in real time and going huh). Why the second one is what this work is actually about.

The courage required of a Six: not more vigilance, but the willingness to look inside and trust that you have more than you think you do, that you're more supported than you realize, and that you don't have to know everything you think you're supposed to know.

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Ep. 166 — The Missing Piece

In this episode, I unpack a Type Six Enneathought from the Enneagram Institute and what it really means to go to type 3 and  borrow the inner-directedness and self-respect that finally dissolves the chronic insecurity and lack of faith in ourselves.

It's not about becoming someone else. It's about balancing the scales — bringing ourselves back to:

In this episode, we explore:

A question to take with you: Where am I outsourcing my own authority right now — and what would it look like to take it back?

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Sixes don’t just experience stress.

We experience stress… and then stress about how we handled it.

In this episode, I break down a simple but powerful way to understand stress — and more importantly, what to do about it.

Because stress doesn’t end when the situation resolves.

Your body still holds the activation.
Your mind still wants to analyze it.
And how you respond in that moment matters.

In this episode, we explore:

This isn’t about avoiding stress.

It’s about learning how to move through it — and come back to yourself afterward.

A question to take with you:

How am I treating myself after stress?

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