This episode is a behind-the-scenes look at season one of Inside Story what I actually learned from that experience. It might not be what you think. 

The huge fear so many Sixes carry: if people think ___ about me, then ___. I walk through how to actually finish that sentence, ask resourcing questions, and stop leaving yourself hanging in the worst-case story.

The difference between insight (seeing yourself from a distance, which feels kind of good) and self-awareness (catching yourself in real time and going huh). Why the second one is what this work is actually about.

The courage required of a Six: not more vigilance, but the willingness to look inside and trust that you have more than you think you do, that you're more supported than you realize, and that you don't have to know everything you think you're supposed to know.

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Ep. 166 — The Missing Piece

In this episode, I unpack a Type Six Enneathought from the Enneagram Institute and what it really means to go to type 3 and  borrow the inner-directedness and self-respect that finally dissolves the chronic insecurity and lack of faith in ourselves.

It's not about becoming someone else. It's about balancing the scales — bringing ourselves back to:

In this episode, we explore:

A question to take with you: Where am I outsourcing my own authority right now — and what would it look like to take it back?

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Sixes don’t just experience stress.

We experience stress… and then stress about how we handled it.

In this episode, I break down a simple but powerful way to understand stress — and more importantly, what to do about it.

Because stress doesn’t end when the situation resolves.

Your body still holds the activation.
Your mind still wants to analyze it.
And how you respond in that moment matters.

In this episode, we explore:

This isn’t about avoiding stress.

It’s about learning how to move through it — and come back to yourself afterward.

A question to take with you:

How am I treating myself after stress?

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Sixes don’t struggle because life changes.

We struggle because we don’t want it to.

Transitions are happening all the time — big ones, small ones, chosen ones, and the ones we never asked for. But for Sixes, change often feels like a threat.

Not because we can’t handle it…
but because we don’t trust ourselves to.

In this episode, I explore why transitions feel so difficult for Sixes and what’s actually happening beneath the resistance.

Because the real issue isn’t the change itself.

It’s our relationship to:

In this episode, we explore:

This episode is an invitation to stop waiting for life to feel safe…

…and start building the ability to meet it as it is.

A question to take with you:

What transition am I resisting right now?

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Sixes don’t just feel emotions.

We manage them.

We analyze them.
We prepare for them.
We try to contain them.
And often… we try not to feel them at all.

In this episode, I walk through some of the most common emotional patterns I see in Sixes — patterns that keep us disconnected from our actual experience and stuck in loops of fear, control, and overthinking.

Because the truth is:

It’s not the emotions themselves that create the problem.

It’s how we relate to them.

In this episode, we explore:

This work is foundational.

Because living uninhibited doesn’t mean getting rid of your emotions.

It means being able to feel them… without being run by them.

A question to take with you:

What do I believe will happen if I actually feel this emotion?

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Sixes don’t need more thinking.

We need a different relationship to our thinking.

In this follow-up to last week’s episode, I take metacognition — thinking about thinking — and make it practical.

Because this isn’t just a concept.

This is a daily, moment-by-moment skill that changes how you experience your life.

In this episode, I walk through real examples of what reactive metacognition looks like (the spirals, the overthinking, the “what ifs”) and what it looks like to shift into something more intentional.

We explore:

This isn’t about stopping your thoughts.

It’s about learning to see them clearly enough to not be run by them.

A question to take with you:

What am I making this mean right now?

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Sixes don’t struggle because they think too much.

We struggle because we’re thinking inside our thoughts instead of being aware of them.

In this episode, I break down one of the most important skills you can develop as a human — and especially as a Six:

Metacognition.

Thinking about your thinking.

The truth is… Sixes are already doing this all the time.
We’re constantly analyzing, questioning, and looping.

But we’re doing it reactively, not intentionally.

And that’s what keeps the fear patterns in place.

In this episode, we explore:

This isn’t about thinking better.

It’s about learning how to see your thinking clearly
so you can stop being run by it.

A question to take with you:

Am I believing this thought… or noticing it?

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Sixes often spend a lot of time trying to feel safe.

But what if the path to happiness isn’t found in eliminating fear…
but in changing your relationship to it?

In this episode, I share a simple but powerful framework for understanding happiness as a Six — one that moves beyond managing anxiety and into actually experiencing more ease, presence, and trust in your life.

We explore how our nervous system, our thoughts, and our patterns interact to shape our day-to-day experience — and how small shifts in awareness can begin to open something different.

This isn’t about forcing positivity.
It’s about creating capacity.

In this episode, we explore:

Why safety ≠ happiness for Sixes

How our patterns keep us scanning instead of experiencing

The role of the nervous system in accessing ease

A simple framework to begin shifting your internal experience

What actually creates a sense of wellbeing from the inside out

If you’ve ever thought:

“I’ll feel better when everything is handled.”
“I just need things to calm down first.”

This episode is for you.

A question to take with you:

What am I waiting for before I allow myself to feel okay?

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Have you ever been absolutely certain about something…
only to realize later your brain made the entire story up?

Sixes are wired for threat detection. When our nervous system becomes activated, our brain often fills in the blanks with a narrative that explains what’s happening — even if that narrative isn’t true.

In this episode, I walk through a real-life moment when my own brain went “super sixy” and created a painful story out of a misunderstanding.

More importantly, we explore what happens after those moments.

Because the real work for Sixes isn’t stopping the stress response — it’s how we treat ourselves once we realize what happened.

In this episode we explore:

Why Six brains create stories when there’s uncertainty

How nervous system activation shapes the narratives we believe

The “certainty trap” and why the brain prefers a painful story to not knowing

How to interrupt the pattern with awareness and self-compassion

The most important skill for Sixes: not turning on yourself after the fact

If you’re a Six who has ever thought:

“I should have known better.”
“I can’t trust my instincts.”
“What is wrong with me?”

This episode is for you.

A question to take with you:

Do I actually know this is true… or is my brain filling in the gaps?

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Sixes often say, “I’m not negative… I’m just realistic.”

But what if that isn’t actually true?

In this episode, I explore how Sixes often mistake threat detection for realism. Our brains are wired to scan for what could go wrong — and when those predictions occasionally come true, it reinforces the belief that we’re simply seeing reality more clearly than others.

But that isn’t realism.
It’s a very specific slice of reality.

I share a simple practice you can try immediately to expand your capacity to take in more of what’s actually possible — not just the negative outcomes your brain predicts.

In this episode we explore:

Why Sixes believe they’re “realists”

How our brains encode threat prediction as truth

The difference between realism and fear filtering

A simple body-based exercise to widen your perception of possibility

A question to try this week:

What else is possible?

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