Raising boys brings up all kinds of questions!

Kristen asks:

Is it normal for a 9-10 year old boy to get into physical altercations with friends at every play date?

Juliann asks for help figuring out how to best support a son who is "generally non-ambitious" when he finally identifies and pursues an ambition. She asks:

How can I tell when I'm giving enough support without smothering or causing learned helplessness?

Leslie finds herself in "constant battles" with her 11-year-old son. An example:

If I ask him nicely to put his shoes away (example: Hey bud, will you please put your shoes up?) he’ll take his shoes to his room and throw on the floor. I’ll tell him nicely to put them up in his closet (where they’ve gone since he was 5), and he’ll throw a huge fit about it. Anything that takes time away from him doing what he wants it’s a battle. Some days are better than others, but this is literally every day since he was about 6.

Brenda wonders:

How to graciously acknowledge the almost daily calls and emails from school regarding behavior.  And then discuss with my 6th grader.  And not feel like a failure on the process.

Jennifer wants to know:

How do you help them stop complaining about EVERYTHING???

Sarah, a mom of three boys, wants to know how to handle bathroom messes:

I’ve told them SO many times - in different tones- to just clean it up, to lift the seat, to sit down instead…etc. My question is: what can I do to encourage them to care about this and to take ownership to make choices to prevent it and in the case of accidental drips they clean it up themselves?! 

Petra, a mom in the middle of separating from her son's father, has noticed that...

our son is not only being more and more alike his father. But he speaks often to me as his father, as if he wanted to speak for him, to help him to make me down.

...and wonders how to respond.

In this episode, Jen & Janet:

Playdates & roughhousing

Boy friendships

The fine learn between "helping" and "smothering"

Picking & choosing your battles

Feeling like a failure

Managing emotions

Communicating & collaborating with teachers

Trusting our boys

Teaching (& modeling) gratitude

Bathroom messes

Parenting sons through divorce & separation

Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:

The Art of Roughhousing (w Dr. Lawrence Cohen) -- ON BOYS episode

Managing Emotions -- ON BOYS episode

Homework and Boys -- ON BOYS episode

Emails & Phone Calls from Teachers -- ON BOYS episode

Why You Need to Stop Focusing on Your Boys' Bickering - BuildingBoys post

Parenting Boys thru Divorce -- ON BOYS episode

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