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- 330: Brandon A. revisits
🔸 Going in. Part 2/2.
🔹 Parts:
- Afraid of failure. If I fail it’s true. I have to succeed to earn love
- Research and prepare
- Striving/fighting. Mom would ask “are you stupid?”
- I want my dad's approval more than anything, Feels like a secret, That would fix everything. I really miss my grandpa
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Continuity! I've been concerned about our work, the scheduling being sporadic, and my failure to address that more directly. But suddenly Brandon's on my calendar regularly! That plus “permission to follow up” keeps us on track and I feel like it permits me to be more pitbullish.
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56 min - 329: Theresa A. revisits
🔸 A carrot, an orange; fun in the kitchen.
🔹 Parts:- P: Food for entertainment (eating & cooking). We have to have something fun and interesting to experience. The other fun stuff is less simple so it doesn’t happen. Wants real savoring
- P: Hunger is a weakness.
- E: Dont wan't at the wrong time, Inconvenient to have that need, So don’t ever feel hungry. Wasn’t in charge. Feels like mom thinks she’s bad. Feels trapped. This is stupid. Expectations too narrow. Wish mom could do something fun.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Congratulating myself for not inserting my parts' comments into all that resonated.
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56 min - 328: Olivia A. revisits
🔸 I suck, you're pathetic, they're careless.
🔹 Parts:
- Wanting to be able to accept sadness and discomfort, Possibly related to need to:
- Needs to be cool, always have a comeback. Wants to stop caring
- E: Preschool. Part of me feels judged and unworthy. Everyone can see I'mm pathetic. They don’t have thin skin so i suck if I do
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
That was a tough one for me. I told Olivia I had a stomach ache. It kept me squirming, distracted.
The targeting felt more like tumbling. It sounded to me like she was 25% more blended/distracted, and I was 25% less available than usual. Felt a lot of parts with an agenda, we weren't stopping to get to know them, so I had a kinda "walk the plank" feeling. Only at the end when she said "sorrow" did I start to relax and trust her Self had arrived.
But I know how much parts-work Olivia is doing, and in the big picture I'm confident, that's why I kept handing it back to her. In a way I feel like we're well beyond "here's how to do parts work" and, if I'm a music teacher, she's a student who is proficient/learning on her own, advancing on her own, and our meetings are more "let me hear your latest jam".
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59 min - 327: Bee A. revisits
🔸 Balancing the numbers: health, money, appearance.
- control and balance “Get the right numbers”. Rigid. She’s very close to hurry. There isn’t a moment of solace. she’s in a factory with a bunch of imbeciles. If she doesn’t work so hard, the other one will eat sugar all day and turn to shit...
- 15yo: and then we would be a burden. We have to rely on others. Got compliments from father, wanted his attention, but terrified of his attention. I want to be well, I want to be pretty, but I’m afraid to. Covering her body. What number do you want? Looking for a hoop to jump through. trying so hard to get it right. Obey or die.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Felt like that first part “can’t get it right” was exile, I think I played it ok. Re exile, I've gone this route before, of just throwing it out there, when there is more witnessing/redoing to do. Feels alright. Would love feedback!
# exile unburdened
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1 hr 5 min - 326: Justine A. revisits
🔸 All knowing, innocent, and new.
🔹 Parts:
- Exile cries out
- thinking keeps me awake at night
- Pure. Originalness. All knowing, entirely innocent. Is that mommy?
📌 Justine followed up: The babies are doing great by the way. I’ve moved the bassinet into a forest glade with fairy lights, and a mother wolf keeping guard. They’re protected from the wind and the rain, with lots of forest creatures coming to support them.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Lots of stuff I *could* say, but why?
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1 hr 14 min - 325: Sienna A. - first call
🔸 Parts Munchausen: Did I create all this struggle?
🔹 Parts:
- The low me is the real me
- Parts in conflict not ok, must be precise or else my being is broken
- Distrust. Don’t go there.
- Afraid I might get better
- Follow the rules
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:What do you think? Trying to balance welcoming with asking with leading/teaching.
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1 hr 18 min - 324: Genie A. revisits
🔸 Anger, James and whose army?
🔹 Parts:
- PPP: confusion sadness and the desperate need to be asleep
- orange safety mesh makes me sleepy
- the part that wants distance from family
📌 She was referencing Scott #272
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1 hr 43 min - 323: Mio A. revisits
🔸 Single-minded & smart. She didn’t live inside her Self.
🔹 Parts:
- I can’t trust you when you act like that! how could she be so taken over by her feelings? How could she go so into that happiness. What is that??
- 22 yo on cliff edge.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
First 5-10 mins I was thinking "oh i've made a mistake", borderline “passing out” feeling.
I like IFS.
I didn’t know what to say at the end when I stopped the story, but I couldn’t not.
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1 hr 31 min - 322: Clare A. revisits
🔸 Live Live IFS! The meaning of the box...
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59 min - 321: Charlotte A. revisits
🔸 A funeral. And a James' exile.
📌 Context: Charlotte and I have done a couple sessions via text since last call.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I was curious where the stuff about my parts would go, but should have held back. As much as I encourage amateur peer-work, I don't recommend going to your most challenging part, without notice, publicly, with someone you're not sure has ever played practitioner.
I followed up with Charlotte when I noticed: Swimmer; kickboard
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