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- 133: Rachel A. - first call
🔸 Rachel sees an IFS therapist, but thinks they may have hurried through some steps (protectors before exiles). We get to know those protectors, and it's wonderful. We explore some aspects of the process more deeply; perhaps a good illustration for anyone new to IFS.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- The projecting into the future part
- Afraid of being alone, not good enough
- Rather be relaxing
- Thinks shes ~5th grade
- Needs what they all need
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:It went well, but I showed up feeling tired + jittery, so I'm not sure how to rate my work here. It takes two.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"1 hr 4 min - 132: Curtis A. - first call
🔸 Productivity > stress > freeze > flatten/avoid. Amazing how similar these patterns are in so many of us, and how profound an introduction of Self is to that cycle… But what’s in that snow globe??
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- Freeze, chest, fear of the system collapsing like an old building
- Rather be free
- Thinks he’s 6
- Flatten/avoid/distract, similar fear.
- Rather be socializing, enjoying nature.
- Thinks he’s 4
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:Was that second part an exile?-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"42 min - 131: Brandon A. revisits
🔸 We aim for the angry firefighter, but managers don't want us to go there. The exile is so close.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):🎓 What I'd like to do differently:My response to repeated blending was to stay quiet, non-reactive. I would have been more by-the-book, and guarded more against blending, if I didn't trust Brandon's process and know he's doing the work. That's why I was doing more commentating, trying to provide context and reassure parts. What do you think? Am I too reserved? Is there enough combined-Self in the room?-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
49 min - 130: Jo A. revisits
🔸 New parts? Sexual harassment triggers Jo’s firey protector, who could relax if this “afraid to set boundaries part” wasn't so afraid… these parts are young young, we do some unburdening
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- This second part, exiley, is like a holocaust victim.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
48 min - 129: Luke A. revisits
🔸 The Exile. We’re at full power.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- The exile, the boy in the sandbox
- Age 4 or 5
- Needs are simple
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I almost lost it! Hooray for the buddy system!-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"1 hr 10 min - 128: Elena A. revisits
🔸 A part says “your crazy”, but an irritated protector doesn’t want us to go there. It then reveals an exile of helplessness. We also meet a scared part, and the exile behind “crazy” of loneliness.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I learn so much from calls like this. She shows up with multiple parts but sees and expresses each so clearly. With her intuition and experience about how to work with them, she suggests approaches I wouldn’t think of.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"52 min - 127: Ian A. revisits
🔸 Got 'em!
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- Exile: "I've been waiting here all my life"
- Age 10
- It's not ok to just be yourself, to fuck up, to not know
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:We could have talked less. We were excited.And now I'm more certain than ever that calling-back to last convo, exile, is maybe the most important thing I can do. Keep holding the thread, the space for the exile, until caller is ready to take over.
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"1 hr 6 min - 126: Brandon A. revisits
🔸 The anger. The isolator. The little boy. The disassociator. Bullied, misunderstood, alone, yelled at, bored. We got a great map, and make contact with the exile.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):🎓 What I'd like to do differently:(Here is the shoveler that I confused with Ian call # 121) His responses were slow I had lots of time to think of 5 next questions, so I'm not scrambling, but still not so sure. Brandon is committed to self work, IFS, etc. I trust his intuition. A part says “I should have steered us here or there”, but another says “or you could do even less, Brandon’s got this”.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"54 min - 125: Jo A. revisits
🔸 The little boy is at it again. Busy busy. Some wandering around trailheads, then connection is formed. We both try to get creative around killing that monster.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- busy boy
- chest neck jaw
- Have to stay busy or the monster comes
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I'm rusty from a couple-week hiatus, don't want to do that again.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"42 min - 124: Luke A. revisits
🔸 Rage shows up when it's not wanted. How is it connected to the sprinter, the panic, the black hole of worthlessness? And did he have that convo with his wife?
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- Rage
- Clenched jaw, tense face
- Fear of the panic
- Rather be competing athletically
- Something happened at age 6.
- Needs more physical play and challenges, more spontaneity
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:At one point I said something like “I appreciate the detailed explanation but..” and I know that came off like a rebuke. It's not how I wanted to say it.I wanted to convey more of a blanket statement; not about what he had shared. I wanted to give the message: “In general, you can do less explaining to me and more attending to them”, in a more positive, reassuring tone.
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