🔸 This is different. I try to make good on my commitment to followup with an exile, but that "shoveler" was from the wrong notes, wrong caller. Sorry, Ian. Still, Self is present & we make progress, but how many of us are in the room…?

As a student, I see so much to unpack and review in this call... 

Yes I had suspicions from the start when it seemed too easy to go to this exile. And then I talked too much, from naive optimism that maybe all was well. In hindsight, obviously, there was a lot I could have done differently there. 

I didn’t feel like I had the right language or the freedom to say what I was seeing sooner. And perhaps my own parts are ashamed or resentful of what I am calling the “no problem” part.

 But I did see it sooner, as “how does he feel?” was never answered straight, or in the use of “I think…”.

 I was just winging it with the “go journal on it” suggestion. I didn’t know how else to work here. I could have gone direct access, etc, sooner. 

Finally, thinking “should I just say what I see?” Cuz I feel like that’s the least I can do. ""If I fail as a 'practitioner', in that moment, I can at least be an honest witness."" 

I'm praying we hear from Ian again, I want to get this right. 

**UPDATE** He just texted me the list! 

Here it is:

 **Jibberish**  

👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre

🔸 Jo reports some healing since contacting the baby; what a shift In this protector! We do a lot of just talk about IFS.

👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre

🔸 Is LiveIFS a cult? Deception, marriage. Parts are still a'rumblin', but compare this to our first call. He's doing the work; will it pay off?

👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre

🔸 What is boredom? We start with a big bundle and quickly zero in, creating a new relationship and insight with a protector. Afterwards, Alexander asks some great questions about IFS and I share some tips for anyone just starting their parts-work journey.

👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre

🔸 The critic is here now, at work, everywhere. Elena has been playing with IFS for a few months.

👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre

🔸 The rage, the suppressor of rage, and the hurt part underneath them. With her experience and clarity, a part of me worries I'll waste her time, just going through the motions. We're delighted to be proven wrong!

🔸 New parts! Distracted from self care. Exiles protecting exiles, the 4 year old keeps the baby from crying.

🔸 Amanda sees an IFS therapist, though they also use other modalities. Her familiarity with the model shows; we advance through many layers here. Shifting protectors, back to first one, finding an exile, then 3!

🔸 Lightning Round! Can we get anywhere in 20 mins?

🔸 A royal rumble of parts! I'm sure a few of my own are in the mix.