Live IFS

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Live IFS episodes

March 22, 2022 54: Jo A. revisits
🔸 A 5 year old exile brought back from a dark place.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- The judge part that lives in the head and gets mad at her for laying around, watching TV etc.
- It would rather be relaxing in a mumu

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I say textbook, but can that also mean "just going through the motions"? I forgot to mention anything at first but I was thinking about efficiency and not wavering as much on my questions and also asking some of the questions that I usually skip as an experiment and i did all of those things!

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50 min
March 20, 202253: Me, James revisits
🔸 So nice! I'm surprised by an unfamiliar part after I show up with what I assume are the usual problems that I either don’t want to face, or already have…

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

Judgy about screwing around w things of little significance

back of neck, head

waste of life, potential

needs me to put it on the calendar, take our time together more seriously. calendar a walk just with it at least once per week, don’t waste time on retreats… work hard play hard, or work hard play more. But that means deep thinking and commitment to the work stuff. And eliminating some buckets / areas so that the playful parts are at least playing in the right neighborhood.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

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52 min
March 18, 2022 52: Molly A. revisits
🔸 Whoa! I won’t ruin the suspense but it’s a great one, and only our second call!

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- A shadowy figure…
- anxious, chest..
- afraid Molly can’t handle it, Will have regrets…
- We can’t see the age at first…
- needs Daily check ins.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I was working on having a less-flat affect, I don’t think I succeeded. What I’d like to do differently in future is get the age of that part! It’s so important and I think something finally clicked for me today: they’re all kids.

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1 hr
March 16, 2022 51: Emily A. revisits
🔸 A celebration! An exile she hadn’t met before, unburdened. I say very little in this call. A good template for how to do IFS solo.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- like a raccoon or cat, scared of the unknown, scared of Emily leading herself.
- rather be celebrating
- needs daily checkin and go to fun places

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
A most organic conversation. In the past I’ve felt like I’m playing chess with parts, having to be very sharp. This was a good blend of conversation and IFS.

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1 hr 10 min
March 14, 2022 50: Aizhan A. revisits
🔸 We're way off-script! Starting with tears, and a cacophony of parts vying to be heard. Despite the sadness, fear, doubt, Aizhan communicates with and holds parts.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I don’t know. I went off-script very early but felt like I was in the right space to do it, and the convo seemed healing in the end.

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1 hr 2 min
March 12, 2022 49: Jo A. revisits
🔸 "If the sadness comes out, we'll be punished. It's not ok to be sad"... A protector is comfortable being uncomfortable . We try a couple new approaches with a familiar exile, the teen.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- busy pacing, insisting. It lives in the head. - a few protectors. The fear that Jo won’t know what to do with this sad part when she works with it - the sad teenager is in her throat. - It needs Jo to witness more - wants to be on the beach. And the protectors want to join it

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Two things: - get more permission explicitly by starting sentences with "are you OK with..." and "would it be OK to…" I did that a bunch in this call and it wasn’t as hard as I had feared. - I want to do more bookmarking and following up with Jo, to suggest early in the call to just follow up with part from last time. I did that! it also went better than I had feared. I say five stars for improving on the things I wanted to improve on : D

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1 hr 21 min
March 10, 2022 48: Me, James revisits
🔸 Jo is practitioner! And guess what, I'm nervous! Nervous I might want her to do something differently and not know how to say it, or that I won’t be able to go deep enough because I’ll be focusing on her practitioning. Nervous about losing respect of listeners and peer-workers by sharing these parts of me.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- The part that doesn’t want to ask for help. In the chest. Heart. - deeper fear is more like grief of not having community, and that asking exposes that - rather be fighting for it. - not sure it’s age. Feels like a whole life problem - needs me to reprioritize and recommit to this project, to get mad about and fight for issues that deserve it

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Connecting the right amount before call and keeping my “analyzing” part at bay. I know as “client”, I can ramble and explain forever, and asking that part for space, without completely denying it, is a challenge for me.

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53 min
March 08, 2022 47: Molly A. - first call
🔸 The most efficient call? Too efficient? The longing sounds exile-y to me, and I’m being more insistent about not going to exiles with first-timers. Thankfully, this isn't our last call.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- The part that wants her to move on, move past this longing feeling - in The throat - worried she will get sucked back in to abusive relationship - rather be on the beach, but also an equal, it’s decisions respected - thinks she is 13 - need to be listened to

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Working on connecting more pre-session especially with new callers. I don’t think i did a great job of that here. So I had some more than usual nervous energy. But how bad am I at it? What's normal or good? It's hard to get data on that.

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29 min
March 06, 2022 46: Emily A. - first call
🔸 Emily has significant IFS experience! She is quick to touch-in to a vulnerable exile part. Still, I encourage her to stay with the protector: the witness.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- The part at the bottom of the stairs - it’s protector, the witness, standing by - a quivering in the sternum, like after crying - thinks Emily is 16 - needs a voice

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

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51 min
March 04, 2022 45: Jo A. revisits
🔸 A scary clown with sharp teeth in her stomach and shoulders, afraid of the monster. Thinks she’s a teen... We're going in.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- the exile is a teen, chained up in a train car. - Can’t be playful. Became religious fanatic instead. - Been there too too long, wants to be silly - wants to scream it out, they go be in the woods, safe and calm and fun

🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Textbook!

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1 hr 15 min