Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

I love to get some quick things to use in times when things feel hard or heavy.

Our brains are so amazing. They function exactly the way we need them to- it's more about the directions we give it.

So learn today how to direct your brain in those moments when things feel hard.

Show Notes:

As we've grown and had experiences, we've started to craft a box that we sit in. This box is made up of our beliefs about who we are and what is possible for us.

This is our box of limitations.

In order to get what we don't have in life, we have to understand and operate outside of the box we've put ourselves in.

Show Notes:

We often try to get other people's validation and approval of who we are so that WE then can believe it about ourselves.

But that validation need doesn't end.

Instead, we need to learn to decide on our own who we are. We have to own that other people can have their opinions and it means nothing about us.

Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/08/19/ep-146-other-peoples-opinions/

Who are you?

How do you answer that question?

We often can get lost in our identity when we base it off a role we play, or the things we do.

And when those roles change, or circumstances change, we can find we crumble under the change.

This is because we've built our identity on sand- things that we can't control.

Instead, we want to build our identity on what is sure, and strong.

Show Notes:https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/08/12/ep-145-identity-built-on-sand-or-rock/

When you are rejected... what do you think? feel? and how do you respond?

Often we try to do things to prevent getting rejected.

But then we play small, we don't grow, and we don't live our lives.

What if you could look at rejection as a redirection? What would be different? How could it be true?

Show notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/08/05/ep-144-rejection-is-a-redirection/

Gratitude comes in hard things.

Gratitude lightens loads.

Gratitude is the magical miracle we need.

Gratitude can be found in any circumstance.

Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/07/29/ep-143-gratitude-amidst-tragedy/(opens in a new tab)

We tend to think we just have strengths and weaknesses. And we can think those weaknesses are a problem that we need to fix.

However, I find when we think about this way, we can tend to be applying shame and judgement which doesn't usually give us any leverage to change or create a strength.

I want to introduce this idea of a weakness is just a strength overused.

Listen in to discover why this is a powerful way to consider our weaknesses.

Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/07/22/ep-142-strengths-overused/

In sports, we hear what home court advantage is and how it's beneficial for those playing.

They have the endless support of their raving fans. The energy surrounding their playing efforts is massive. Mistakes are met with love and understanding.

While we appreciate the idea of home court advantage in sports, I want to create the space and idea of creating a home court advantage in life, business, and for ourselves.

Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/07/15/ep-141-creating-a-home-court-advantage/

There's a metaphor I learned about from a fellow coach that correlates our brain to a castle.

In a castle there are so many different rooms.

The same can be said for your brain.

Depending on the room you are choosing to be in, depends on your experience.

Today we'll dive into what these rooms look like and what to do with these rooms and how to redecorate them.

Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/07/08/ep-140-the-rooms-in-your-brain/(opens in a new tab)

What are your highest values?

Have you ever considered that your values might be a reason you're stuck?

Maybe you have values that are competing.

What about the value of health and wealth. Is that something in your highest values?

Today I share why I believe having health and wealth in your top values on purpose to create the results you want.

Listen in: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/2021/07/01/ep-139-how-knowing-your-values-plays-a-role-in-your-business/