Loving an alcoholic can be such a devastating, heartbreaking relationship. It's difficult for people to really understand the pain and loneliness you're going through. This disease can make you feel like you're crazy. Because of that, I created a checklist that will help you know that what you're feeling is normal. You're not alone, my sweet reader.

Loving an Alcoholic Checklist

• Do you worry about how much your loved one drinks?
• Do you feel guilty when you take time for yourself?
• Do you put his or her needs above your own desires or over your children's needs?
• Do you cover up for your partner and try to protect them by lying to their boss, friends, or family about his or her drinking?
• Do you search the house, the recycle bin, or the garage for bottles or drugs?
• Have you suspected that your partner is having an affair or looking at pornography?
• Have you been tempted to call the police after your loved one has been drinking?
• Are you exhausted from trying to fix his or her problems?
• Do you feel that if your partner really loved you he or she would stop drinking or using drugs?
• Is there some part of you that blames yourself for your loved one's bad habits?
• Do you feel like the old version of you is gone and you've turned into a woman you don't recognize?

If you said "yes" to any of these questions, you're not alone.

When I was married to my ex-husband, I could have put a giant checkmark next to each one of those. But here's some good news: just because you feel that way today, doesn't mean you need to feel this awful pain and emptiness tomorrow. Have hope. There is a way to go from despair to happiness.

You may have heard me mention my flagship course for women who love an alcoholic or substance abuser called Love Over Addiction. If you're looking for peace, happiness, and joy whether your partner gets sober or not, this program will help.

If you would like to know more about the Love Over Addiction program or how you can get started, click the pink box below. You'll receive an email with the juicy details plus a video training where I will teach you about one of the great lies when you love an alcoholic.