Make Your Damn Bed

"The constant generation of novel and fantastic apocalyptic scenarios serves to extend the horizon for the arrival of the hellish conditions contained in dystopia - if oppression is a nebulous but ever-approaching threat, it’s perpetually obscured, lifted away into a sub-fictional ether. It needs not be interrogated, not now, anyway. Which is how power prefers it." - Brian Merchant

RESOURCE: https://onezero.medium.com/its-always-been-a-dystopia-858ef606832f

ANOTHER RESOURCE:https://medium.com/20minutesintothefuture/the-dystopia-is-already-here-4a4304807e2e 

ONE MORE RESOURCE: https://thefrailestthing.com/2017/11/09/the-dystopia-is-already-here/

OH THIS TOO: https://www.wired.com/story/dystopia-tips-prepare-fight-back/ 

AND FINALLY: https://communemag.com/dystopias-now/

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The dystopia isn’t coming, it’s been here, and we’re finally starting to see it. Fictional dystopias are not imaginative horrors - they are reframed versions of lived experiences for marginalized communities. It's our job to recognize the reality that "looming dystopia" is already here for so many people, and it's our job to help those involved fight against it before it grows to envelope all of us.

RESOURCE: https://onezero.medium.com/its-always-been-a-dystopia-858ef606832f

ANOTHER RESOURCE:https://medium.com/20minutesintothefuture/the-dystopia-is-already-here-4a4304807e2e 

ONE MORE RESOURCE: https://thefrailestthing.com/2017/11/09/the-dystopia-is-already-here/

OH THIS TOO: https://www.wired.com/story/dystopia-tips-prepare-fight-back/ 

AND FINALLY: https://communemag.com/dystopias-now/

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"We must never forget the joy of doing something slow and something difficult, the satisfaction of not doing what is easiest." - Tim Wu

THE SOURCE: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/16/opinion/sunday/tyranny-convenience.html

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"The burnt out don't need more alone time." - Ayesha Khan Ph.D.

"A world where we are isolated is a world where it is easier to pit us against each other." - Luke Allen

RESOURCE 1: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/you-dont-need-to-fill-your-cup-first

RESOURCE 2: https://substack.com/home/post/p-138757510?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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Capitalism + consumer culture has taught us that independence = success, but what if our culture is wrong? What if community's inconveniences are less cumbersome than the inconveniences that come from isolation?

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"That's why it's hard to make friends when you're older," she said. "Friendship is rude."

Her friend's eyes widened. "What?"

"Think about it! When we're kids we decide who we like and stick by them no matter what. As adults, we're taught to be polite. But, friendship is an imposition— at least, I want it to be. Call me after nine o'clock. Don't think you'll ever wear out your welcome. Overshare, show up at my door, go to the grocery store with me so we can waste another hour chatting. We'll never be friends if we spend all of our energy trying not to bother each other." - LAURA CLIFT

RESOURCES: https://www.instagram.com/l.a.clift/reel/DDubSuJpihV/

AND: https://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html

AND: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ravenishak/friendships-small-favors-economy-anticapitalism-tiktok

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Jia Tolentino said "We have not “optimized” our wages, our childcare system, our political representation; we still hardly even think of parity as realistic in those arenas, let alone anything approaching perfection. We have maximized our capacity as market assets. That’s all. For the way out, I think, we have to follow the cyborg. We have to be willing to be disloyal, to undermine. The cyborg is powerful because she grasps the potential in her own artificiality, because she accepts without question how deeply it is embedded in her."

Today I share the final part to Jia Tolentino's article titled "Athleisure, Barre and Kale: the tyranny of the ideal woman."

THE SOURCE: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2019/aug/02/athleisure-barre-kale-tyranny-ideal-woman-labour?utm_source=chatgpt.com

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Jia Tolentino said "Figuring out how to “get better” at being a woman is a ridiculous and often amoral project – a subset of the larger, equally ridiculous, equally amoral project of learning to get better at life under accelerated capitalism. In these pursuits, most pleasures end up being traps, and every public-facing demand escalates in perpetuity. Satisfaction remains, under the terms of the system, necessarily out of reach." and I felt that.

Today I share the introduction to her article titled "Athleisure, Barre and Kale: the tyranny of the ideal woman."

THE SOURCE: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2019/aug/02/athleisure-barre-kale-tyranny-ideal-woman-labour?utm_source=chatgpt.com

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"Slow living is a conversation inherently steeped in privilege. “So many systems are stacked against members of our society who are, in theory, desperate to slow down, but the structure of capitalism is built around burnout and scarcity,” explains DeVos. With this in mind, let's consider some strategies for practicing slow living in your life:

• Take it back to the origins of the movement and focus on food. 
• Schedule breaks.
• Live mindfully. 
• Set boundaries.
• Do what you can, where you can."

THE RESOURCE: https://www.verywellmind.com/the-end-of-the-resolution-6823991

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It’s their first time being a person too. Grief distorts reality. Joy is not passive. Done > perfect. The obstacles in your path are your path. Be a good parent to you. Instead of figuring it all out become fascinated with the process. You don’t have to be agreeable to be likable. Real happiness, contentment, life satisfaction, etc. is an inside job. Most shit comes back to balance. Nobody is judging you as harshly as you’re judging yourself. Don’t let short term feelings affect long your term decision making. Leave it better than you found it. Sensitivity isn’t a curse but it can feel like it. Learn rituals to reset and protect yourself. You have to feel weak to get strong you have to feel stupid to get smart. If it can be done in less than three minutes do it now. Keep a list of things that make you feel at home and comfortable and safe. Instead of trying to “fix” your life all at once focus on adding good things until the goodness outgrows the things that need fixing. Rest is growth. Fear won’t keep you from dying but it will keep you from living. Self awareness isn’t only critical. If you’re claiming to be self aware you also have to be aware of the good stuff too. If you can’t find community make it. Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Confidence is less about people liking you and more about knowing you’ll be okay if they don’t. The future isn’t real. Only the present matters. Your attention is the most valuable asset you have.The things you do are not means to an end. Look for the magic in everything you do. If you’re struggling to find happiness, seek interesting instead. Nobody is mad at you. Criticism without empathy is bullying. Confrontations don’t have to be scary. Happiness is a direction, not a destination.If you want to heal a wound, you can’t keep messing with it. Gardens work in seasons and so do you. We can’t change what we refuse to notice. Quit waiting for a better time to get your shit together. Authentic magnetism means both attracting and repelling. The words you speak become the house we live in. Just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. Your job is to BE the light. Not make anyone see it. You are a Human being. Not a human doing. Let others be the one to tell you no. Learning should add to your sense of agency. Not remove it. Live your values. Don’t just claim them as an identity. There are many ways up a mountain. Don’t break a sweat on an escalator. Think globally, act locally.

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