Man Alive

Ever wondered how seduction could be more relaxed and genuine? How you could let go of games and lines but still create attraction and spark? Today's episode with Robert Kandell will show you how!

Every man has experiences in life that shape the unique and courageous man he has become. Sharing these stories can be freeing and healing, not only for the man who shares them, but for other men who hear and identify with the pain, triumph and possibility they illuminate. What stories are you holding on to, that in sharing would set you free?

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Most men I meet want to be free. There is a power that comes with the liberation of not having to answer to rigid, stereotypical ideas of how you “should” be as a man — of following your own dreams, and being able to fully express yourself as the unique person you are…

Can you relate?

Society’s made-up stories of what it means to “be a man” can be unrealistic and inhuman.

These stories can foster harm when men work to meet those expectations or don’t manage to do so. Men can then feel they have always to be stoic and tough, be in charge, have power over others, be with lots of women, hide aspects of who they are, not express pain or ask for support…  

But there is a way that men’s real stories can help free us too. 

Instead of holding your stories in silence, which leads to feeling alone, you can bring them into the light by sharing them with others.

Men can have vulnerable, courageous conversations about how they were taught to be “men,” give thanks for sources of love and joy in their lives, discuss costs of harmful notions of manhood as they’ve experienced them and share what they want to create in their lives.

On today’s Man Alive podcast I was joined by Dr. Jocelyn Lehrer, creator of the revolutionary The Men’s Story Project. 

The Men’s Story Project helps groups create live story-sharing events and documentaries where men and boys publicly explore social ideas about manhood by sharing about their own life experiences with unusual directness and candor. 

In this conversation we discussed:

* The challenges that men, women, and people of all genders often face as a result of social norms about masculinity * The importance of shifting some social ideas about masculinity to support all people’s well being and equality* The expanded sense of life possibility, freedom, and healing that comes when men share their less-often-heard stories * That EVERY man has a story to share 

There is a new cohort starting soon to train men to create a Men’s Story Project production! 

If you’re inspired to participate in personal and community healing through creating an MSP event, or share your own story, listen to this episode and check out the Men’s Story Project website and resources. I’ve been considering creating an MSP event myself so let me know If you are interested in collaborating.

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Men’s Story Project and Men’s Story Project trainings

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Every man has experiences in life that shape the unique and courageous man he has become. Sharing these stories can be freeing and healing, not only for the man who shares them, but for other men who hear and identify with the pain, triumph and possibility they illuminate. What stories are you holding on to, that in sharing would set you free?

It can be challenging to find information about how men can have more pleasure in the bedroom from someone who is both knowledgeable about and supportive of men. Susan Bratton is a wealth of knowledge and talks today about 14 different types of male orgasm!

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Last week’s episode was focused on female arousal. It’s something men can overlook even though it has a powerful influence on whether a partner is satisfied, in a relationship and in bed! 

As a heterosexual man, focusing on a woman’s arousal will create more pleasure for both of you. A woman who is opened and attuned to by you will be happier, more loving and supportive. 

AND let’s look at the other side of the equation — your pleasure! 

Since you’re part of this community I know you care deeply about women. Your care is a great foundation for a healthy and successful relationship. 

You just have to look out for something I call pleasing, or giving, mode — putting all your attention on trying to make a woman feel good and forgetting about your own pleasure. 

More pleasure for you has a few foundations…

* You have to understand how your body works and actually be awake in your body so you can FEEL pleasure.  * In addition to feeling pleasure through giving, you also have to learn to receive (Many of my clients struggle with this!) * And you have to get clear about your desires AND ask for them! 

On today’s Man Alive Podcast episode I was joined by Susan Bratton. She is considered the “Dear Abby of Sex” and is a champion and advocate for all who want passionate relationships. She brings a mind full of science and a heart full of love for men. In our conversation we discussed:

* Male orgasmic potential and 14 types of male orgasm!* How men can tap into the natural healing ability of their own bodies* Pumps and gadgets to keep your virility strong* Why it’s important for men to feel pleasure — both for oneself and in a relationship* Susan’s commitment to helping couples revive passion, pleasure and romance

Susan is a trusted hot sex advisor to millions and has sold a couple hundred thousands copies of her 30 books. This is a must listen for any man who wants to experience more pleasure!

Links:

Better Lover YouTube Channel and Personal Life Media

For Men:  3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.

Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world.

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\nOn today’s Man Alive Podcast Pamela Madsen joined me to talk about how you can create more arousal for women and more pleasure for you and your partner. Pamela is a certified Somatic Sex Educator with a Master’s degree in Education. She has coached hundreds of women on their personal journeys back into their bodies and expression of their femininity.
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\nPamela, a certified Somatic Sex Educator with a Master’s degree in Education has coached hundreds of women on their own personal journey back into their bodies, and their own expression of their Divine Feminine. Pamela is a veteran speaker, educator, and renowned blogger for The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, The Fertility Advocate, and Care2.
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\nOn today’s Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by Joe Bernstein. Joe coaches men to get healthy and focus on family and love, without sacrificing what they’ve built.  He is a certified Mind-Body Eating Coach, is on the Leader Body of the Mankind Project and is a member of the Healing Team for Showing Up for Racial Justice.
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Joe Bernstein highlights three areas of intelligence men can develop to have more successful, inspired and passionate lives! 

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Show notes

You’ve likely heard of emotional intelligence. 

It is discussed in many realms these days, including business, where it was once thought of as a “soft” or unnecessary skill.

Developing your emotional intelligence is a powerful way to create stronger connections, everywhere from work to romance. It is not something to overlook.  

When I work with men on cultivating their ability to recognize and communicate their emotions, as well as notice and respond to others’ emotions, they often tell me life becomes richer and more meaningful. They feel closer to their partners, friends and kids. They are more inspired and less burnt out by life!

If you’ve explored emotional intelligence and are still curious, or are interested in even more masterful connections and wonder what’s next, I have two other intelligences to introduce to you, along with a man who created a way for you to explore all three! 

The additional two intelligences are Energetic intelligence and Erotic intelligence. They are lesser known but are extremely powerful in their effect on your own vitality and your relationships with others. 

On today’s Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by Joe Bernstein. Joe coaches men to get healthy and focus on family and love, without sacrificing what they’ve built.  He is a certified Mind-Body Eating Coach, is on the Leader Body of the Mankind Project and is a member of the Healing Team for Showing Up for Racial Justice.

In this conversation Joe and I discussed:

* The benefits of becoming more emotionally, energetically and erotically mature * What happens when you give up the need to prove yourself* How men can stop trying to be powerful and instead relax into a deeper, more steady power* Joe’s journey with risking losing what mattered to him as he saw he was settling for good, rather than great in his life* Practices to become more aware of yourself and attuned to others

Joe is both a colleague and a dear friend. I have deep trust in him and always love what he has to say. I highly recommend this podcast for a dose of wisdom around how to feel more powerful as you create a more meaningful and passionate life! 

Links:

Joe Bernstein Coaching

For Men:  3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

Joe Bernstein coaches amazing men. They are often successful business owners, executives in tech, top individual performers, leaders, creatives and entrepreneurs. They’ve spent their lives focusing on professional success and they realize it’s time to get healthy, focus on family and love. Joe helps them shift the focus, without sacrificing what they’ve built. 

After losing over 150 lbs,

Many people struggle to be happy in romantic relationships these days. Why is this and what can you do about it? Jayson Gaddis joins us with powerful tools to navigate conflict and create a fulfilling and exciting relationship.  

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How much were you taught about creating a romantic relationship that is both fulfilling and exciting, safe and sexy?

I wouldn’t be surprised if you said “very little” or “hardly anything at all.Romantic relationships are not easy. And yet we receive so little training about how to make love work that it’s no wonder these days relationship satisfaction is commonly low and the divorce rate is around 50% for first marriages (and even higher for second and third marriages). 

When you struggle in relationships, or when they end, do you sometimes think of yourself as inadequate, or even as a failure?

I hope not but if so you are not alone! 

Today’s Man Alive Podcast Guest, Jayson Gaddis, is the founder of the Relationship School and host of the Smart Couple Podcast. He is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school – ”How to do Romantic Relationships.” Jayson teaches how to use conflict to create a more fulfilling and sustainable relationship. 

Check out this episode to see how to have a shot at a romantic relationship that not only lasts, but where you’re happy, growing and supported.

In this conversation we discussed:

* Foundations and tools to create a bedrock of connection and happiness* A cause of Viagra use that many men wouldn’t suspect* Why it’s important to have a shared context for relationship* How to move beyond the fantasy that it would be easier with someone else* The ability to recognize and take care of your and your partner’s inner “scared animals” 

Whether you are single and looking for relationship, or currently in one, Jayson’s wisdom and tools will save you heartache, time and honestly even money! I have deep trust in Jayson and am happy to bring him to you.

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The Relationship School®

For Men:  3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

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Jayson Gaddis, relationship student & teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast, is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school –”How to do Romantic Relationships.” That’s why he founded The Relationship School®. 

He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 (after some brutal break ups) and has two beautiful kids. 

He gets you the relationship results you want, fast. He will teach you how to use conflict to create a more fulfilling and sustainable relationship. He teaches virtual relationship empowerment classes to students around the globe.